Australiasiaans1 Posted July 20, 2016 Share Posted July 20, 2016 Hi all, let me cut right to the chase. Basically, about 4 months ago me and my ex girlfriend started talking again and became friends. As we got to talking more we started to hang out, go to the beach, all that sort of stuff. We also slept together on a couple of occasions, she also has a 7 year old son which I became really close to during the time We were together and even when we started talking again she even brought along her son when we were hanging out. We both said that we were friends and she said she had no feelings what so ever, she would even mention about talking to other guys and dating other guys which surprisingly didn't bother me. So about 2 weeks ago she asked me to look after her dog for a few days which I agreed to, about 2 days prior to me having the dog we were just having a general chat on the phone and she said she's got this funny gut feeling that I have feelings for her (I haven't given any signs to her that I have) I was quite taken back because I never expected her to say that. So the day after she said she might put he dog in the kennels (I don't know why) but I ended up having her in the end. The day I went to pick the dog up from her place we were chatting for a while and she was talking about taking this other dude to a wedding party in a few weeks time, so I said she should ask him. Then later into the conversation I told her that I had gone on a date a week prior, it didn't seem to bother her. So I took the dog and didn't have one message from her the time that she was away, the night before she asked me could I take the dog back the next day and I said yes. When I took the dog to her place I literally walked through the door, brought all the stuff in like the dog cage etc. And without saying a word she just said I have to go out I haven't got time to talk, which I found a bit disrespectful seeing as I had her dog while she was away, not even a thank you! So I basically ignored her on her birthday which was last Thursday and I didn't send her no message what so ever. Then I text her Sunday saying that I've left something in the car (which is the dogs) and we got to talking, so I basically said to her that she's started acting strange all of a sudden and I don't get why and her reply was ''don't know'' and I haven't heard off her since. I really don't get why she's acting this way all of a sudden, she's deleted me off her snapchat but has kept me as her friend on facebook. I'm just confused, HELP?! Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 All I can do is take a guess here but I think your ex was hoping you still did have feelings for her. Did she leave you? I ask because often dumpers want that ego boost of an ex still wanting them and love the control of being able to keep them as just friends, orbitting their lives. Dumpers think its a nice thing to do, remain friends with the person they just left. Its not. She told you there was no feelings on her side. Her actions indicate she was not expecting the same response from you. Now she's hurt. Ego's been bruised maybe. She doesn't want you, but wants you to want her. Good on you for being okay with all this. Just make it clear that you don't have feelings the same way she doesn't. That said, if she's starting to be disrespectful to you then maybe its time to back off. Obviously I can only guess at this but thats what I pick up. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I think you need to cut contact. I think you need time apart as it is always weird being friends with an ex just after you break up. Quit hanging out. Just go do your thing and leave her to do hers. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 This is s tough one. It seems she is half trying to rekindle and half stinging you along. I would not watch the dog of an ex unless I knew she wanted to get back together (and I did as well). In your position I would feel used. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Hi all, let me cut right to the chase. Basically, about 4 months ago me and my ex girlfriend started talking again and became friends. As we got to talking more we started to hang out, go to the beach, all that sort of stuff. We also slept together on a couple of occasions, she also has a 7 year old son which I became really close to during the time We were together and even when we started talking again she even brought along her son when we were hanging out. We both said that we were friends and she said she had no feelings what so ever, she would even mention about talking to other guys and dating other guys which surprisingly didn't bother me. So about 2 weeks ago she asked me to look after her dog for a few days which I agreed to, about 2 days prior to me having the dog we were just having a general chat on the phone and she said she's got this funny gut feeling that I have feelings for her (I haven't given any signs to her that I have) I was quite taken back because I never expected her to say that. So the day after she said she might put he dog in the kennels (I don't know why) but I ended up having her in the end. The day I went to pick the dog up from her place we were chatting for a while and she was talking about taking this other dude to a wedding party in a few weeks time, so I said she should ask him. Then later into the conversation I told her that I had gone on a date a week prior, it didn't seem to bother her. So I took the dog and didn't have one message from her the time that she was away, the night before she asked me could I take the dog back the next day and I said yes. When I took the dog to her place I literally walked through the door, brought all the stuff in like the dog cage etc. And without saying a word she just said I have to go out I haven't got time to talk, which I found a bit disrespectful seeing as I had her dog while she was away, not even a thank you! So I basically ignored her on her birthday which was last Thursday and I didn't send her no message what so ever. Then I text her Sunday saying that I've left something in the car (which is the dogs) and we got to talking, so I basically said to her that she's started acting strange all of a sudden and I don't get why and her reply was ''don't know'' and I haven't heard off her since. I really don't get why she's acting this way all of a sudden, she's deleted me off her snapchat but has kept me as her friend on facebook. I'm just confused, HELP?! TMD (too much drama) for a "friendship". Link to post Share on other sites
mizunomead Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Just one of a billion reasons why i think its healthier in general to leave ex's in the past, cut ties and just move on completely. Exception possibly being like a high school relationship that you were friends with before "dating" and maybe years later can be platonic friends again. Assuming that there is no romantic attachments at all. As a example the girl i dated during high school. My current SO and I are going to her wedding in a few weeks. We were friends our entire lives growing up before we dated. The dating was high school puppy love, neither of us have any kind of romantic feeling to each other. Only text maybe once every few months etc. Both of us look back at the high school love days and laugh at our foolish kid selves lol.. Other then something like that. Leave Ex's in the past where they belong. Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Well, another example why one should never stay in contact with exes and not have opposite sex friends. Relationships are hard anyway ! Link to post Share on other sites
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