Will I ever find the right match for me?

[BlueEyedLion]

I'm very down to earth, very affectionate and kind.

Sure I don't have the best body but my face is attractive.

I am not shallow, I don't care about looks or appearances; Big or small, tall or short, I love everything about a woman.

Ethic backgrounds don't bother me, I'm not racist, I love other cultures and respect other faiths.

The problem is, I am transgender (Female-to-Male) and it's hard to date straight women and I'm into girly girls and ones that have a geeky personality like someone who collects manga, watches anime, loves martial arts and food all over the world and admire Asian culture and enjoys playing video games and loves sports.

I have a friend who is like that but she's straight and has a boyfriend, she wouldn't date a transgender man.

I dunno where to look! Please can someone help me, like give me advice?

I'm a hopeless romantic, love is everything to me.

Everyone in my family are all married and got kids or pets and I would really like to meet that special someone and adopt some hypoallergenic kitties.

[preraph]

This is one of the things that makes being transgender very difficult because it limits your choices in finding a partner not just by half, but your choices become miniscule. A straight woman wants a man, not a woman who feels like a man. There are more variations within the LGBT community, so obviously that's your best bet, but the type you are looking for who will like you back is just a very tiny percentage of the population, so you better get as entrenched as possible into the LGBT social world for the best chances.

 

I had a personal relationship with a guy who I'd worked with (he was my salesman) and we had a friend relationship. We went to some music stuff together. He just looked like any other guy in our crowd. But I knew he had a peculiar love life and it caused him a lot of pain. He had only loved one woman and they ended badly with her cheating, but he remained focused on her all the years I knew him. It was sad.

 

One day he called me to make a dinner date and said he had something he wanted to talk to me about. I really had no clue what it might be. I sat down at the restaurant and he pulled out a photo of him dressed as me. I told him, "You look more like me than I do." So he'd been seeing a shrink and I was one of the people he wanted to come out to, which I was touched by.

 

He too was struggling because he just liked stylish women, but he needed to find one who was open minded enough to let him also "be a woman." He didn't feel himself enough to feel really sexual unless he was being a woman. He had found a town on the East Coast that was full of gender-benders and was having fun going there and hoping to meet someone. But he had a lot of lonely years and I don't know if he found someone or not as we lost touch in the 90s when he got promoted and moved to NY. I'm hoping there he found his niche. And likewise, I hope you find yours. But you will have to go to the places with the biggest population in your specialty.

 

Good luck.

[BlueEyedLion]

Thanks, I'm probably better off looking for a woman who's bisexual. I'm going to try and join an LGBT dating site.

 

This is one of the things that makes being transgender very difficult because it limits your choices in finding a partner not just by half, but your choices become miniscule. A straight woman wants a man, not a woman who feels like a man. There are more variations within the LGBT community, so obviously that's your best bet, but the type you are looking for who will like you back is just a very tiny percentage of the population, so you better get as entrenched as possible into the LGBT social world for the best chances.

 

I had a personal relationship with a guy who I'd worked with (he was my salesman) and we had a friend relationship. We went to some music stuff together. He just looked like any other guy in our crowd. But I knew he had a peculiar love life and it caused him a lot of pain. He had only loved one woman and they ended badly with her cheating, but he remained focused on her all the years I knew him. It was sad.

 

One day he called me to make a dinner date and said he had something he wanted to talk to me about. I really had no clue what it might be. I sat down at the restaurant and he pulled out a photo of him dressed as me. I told him, "You look more like me than I do." So he'd been seeing a shrink and I was one of the people he wanted to come out to, which I was touched by.

 

He too was struggling because he just liked stylish women, but he needed to find one who was open minded enough to let him also "be a woman." He didn't feel himself enough to feel really sexual unless he was being a woman. He had found a town on the East Coast that was full of gender-benders and was having fun going there and hoping to meet someone. But he had a lot of lonely years and I don't know if he found someone or not as we lost touch in the 90s when he got promoted and moved to NY. I'm hoping there he found his niche. And likewise, I hope you find yours. But you will have to go to the places with the biggest population in your specialty.

 

Good luck.

[juniorrocha]

The problem is, I am transgender (Female-to-Male)

 

First, you shouldn't say it's a problem.

 

Second, in fact, your chances are small. But don't give up on that. Afterall, love is hard for everyone. It may be hard to find a partner in your condition, but it's not impossible. Just keep trying. And: finding someone whose hobbies/likes are exactly what you wish for is very difficult. Once again, for everyone. Keep your choices open.

 

And, you know, I suppose you're happy with who you are. That's already a big deal and sounds much better than faking who you're and being unhappy with yourself.