BelleSkye Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 So...I'm female - naturally born female. But - I have a lot of my dad's features. So I'm planning for a nose job, cheek implants, brow lift, forehead implant, chin re-shaping, corner lip lift....and hopefully implants. Anyone else on LS that did reconstructive surgery? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I would focus on making your inside beautiful before relying on a knife. Just some thoughts from google: Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful -Sophia Loren not really regret... but: Sophia Loren, 81, Shares Her Thoughts on Plastic Surgery and Selfies ? Style News - StyleWatch - People.com I wish I had a twin so I could know what I'd look like without plastic surgery - Joan Rivers I've had so much plastic surgery, when I die, they will donate my body to Tupperware. - also Joan You can't treat an illness with cosmetic surgery, and that's why it would be great if there were qualified therapists in plastic surgeons' offices, and that people would go to a therapeutic meeting before plastic surgery. I think that should be part of the FDA requirement. - Sharon Stone Tori Spelling | Stars Who Regret Their Plastic Surgery | Us Weekly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BelleSkye Posted July 21, 2016 Author Share Posted July 21, 2016 bummer - have you read how many posts there are on LS where the guys tolerate so much bull**** from their so's or exs because of how beautiful they are? I don't believe in personality anymore. The guys on LS taught me that if you are beautiful, you can get away with murder. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 bummer - have you read how many posts there are on LS where the guys tolerate so much bull**** from their so's or exs because of how beautiful they are? I don't believe in personality anymore. The guys on LS taught me that if you are beautiful, you can get away with murder. Wow - Do you really think reshaping your whole face is going to lead to happiness? What, you will then find a man who would put up with abuse just because your face is changed? Is your face really the only thing holding you back from a healthy relationship? Do you think only beautiful women have love in their lives? Have you sought counseling to discuss your motives for surgery, and the potential outcomes? What else have you done to improve your self worth? Lastly, that is a LOT of work, very hard to pull off while still looking natural, and not like a Frankenstein. Believe me, after living in Orange County, land of the strip mall surgery centers - the Frankensteins can be spotted from a mile away. I would be sure to have saved up a small fortune, and employ one of the best surgeons on the planet before undergoing that much work. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BelleSkye Posted July 21, 2016 Author Share Posted July 21, 2016 RecentChange - I have tried self acceptance for a couple of years...ever since my break up, I have zero confidence. Not created by me - but just how people comment and act towards a particular look / face type. I have been told I look like Katrina Kaif (a Bollywood actress...and sometimes, white or Caucasian people comment that I look like young Celine Dion or Jennifer Aniston etc) but that does not make me feel happy. I want a softer look. I walk around with my head facing the ground 99% of the time. I absolutely hate the way I look...and think it does stem about how guys would treat me in a relationship (I apparently always have the best personality but never commented about being beautiful etc from recent ex). I do agree with you about the plastic / artificial look. Trying hard to choose the right procedures to complement my changes. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 So, people compare you to beautiful actresses, and you think your face is the cause for your unhappiness..... I just saw some of your other topics, your emotional problems are more than skin deep - and a change in your face won't fix it. You will just be sad, with pain of surgery, and out a bunch of money. Until YOU LOVE YOURSELF, face and all - it will be hard for anyone else to love you. Millions of "ugly" people find love and happiness, and relationships. Unless you are horribly disfigured, due to birth defects or a terrible accident, your logic is flawed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BelleSkye Posted July 21, 2016 Author Share Posted July 21, 2016 RecentChange - I used to love how I looked! I was super confident before meeting my ex. But a combination of losing too much weight, age, comments from the ex and other people has left me a bit jaded about how I carry myself. I can't keep being super confident when I don't look it. Now I'm thinking of that Justin Bieber's song Love Yourself Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 See, you just said it yourself, it comes from within. Don't let your ex have this sort of POWER over you! YOU hold the power to your own self worth. Expecting to gain it from the responses of others won't work. Are you in counseling? That would be a much better investment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 bummer - have you read how many posts there are on LS where the guys tolerate so much bull**** from their so's or exs because of how beautiful they are? I don't believe in personality anymore. The guys on LS taught me that if you are beautiful, you can get away with murder. You would be surprised how many of these hot ex gf's are not hot at all. Love blinds you to reality. After you lose that you feel that the woman was the most beautiful in the world. Once you fall out of love you see them for who they are. Which is often very ugly. There are things I wouldn't mind changing about myself but I'm a good looking guy nonetheless. My issue with plastic surgery is you can tell it was done and does not look natural at all. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 bummer - have you read how many posts there are on LS where the guys tolerate so much bull**** from their so's or exs because of how beautiful they are? I don't believe in personality anymore. The guys on LS taught me that if you are beautiful, you can get away with murder. True statement! Would I have sacrificed my self worth for what my ex dragged me through if she wasn't so pretty? Nope. You are correct. My ex does get away with murder without any humility, much remorse, and no self-respect. She is an unhappy, unconscious being flittering through life void of true compassion or respect. She's pretty but hollow. Is that who you want to be? Someone complimented for some surgeon's skill? Do you want to be objectified? Do you want unwanted attention? A truly confident, respectful, and loving man will compliment all of you. Through action, not words, he will show you that you are indeed gorgeous in your natural state. It is cliche to say, but it starts from yourself. If you feel good, you'll attract the right guy to want to know you. If you complete counciling or with much more time, you truly feel you need the ego boost of surgery, I hope you consider that there can be complications. Its no magic bullet. Surgery could disfigure you, and can start a lonely and unhealthy spiral towards more and more image issues and even worse doubt and anger than now. The number of procedures you consider is basically your whole face. If you even look remotely like Katrina kaif I think you should stick to make-up and hair because she is pretty. Much prettier than Jack Nicholson's joker with upturned lips and scars to match the inner scars. I'm sorry to enter your thread asking for legit advice. I felt as a man, I can say many men HATE the feel of fake boobs and ignore woman with surgical augmentation because they know there are deeper personal issues they have to address with those girls. Please be patient. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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