Traceycprc Posted July 23, 2016 Share Posted July 23, 2016 I found out that my ex has now left the 'friend' he cheated on me with and then went into a relationship with. I have been in so much pain but since hearing the news I feel so much calmer and the pain has subsided. He told one of my friends the grass is never greener on the otherside! Do you think it's a coincidence or just a good few days? I'm not interested in taking him back, 100% but maybe a lot of the pain was caused by him and his new relationship? I'm hoping this feeling stays, I deserve some peace! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gorf Posted July 23, 2016 Share Posted July 23, 2016 It sounds like the typical case of having feelings for someone who said they did and showed they did not. So you want to validate that he did have feelings for you, at some point, in some way. Its one of two things: closure, or having hope that he will come round to you again. Even if you say its 100% over. Why? He is a bad person who cheated on you. Im sure he wanted you to hear the grass greener thing. He probably has a hope you will take him back. Dont fall for it. I wouldn't even give him the benefit of another word from you. He thought he deserved more than you, it ended, so he does not deserve even a word from you now. Leave him to make the bed he messed up and live your life. He should be in the past to you so not even his shadow comes around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Traceycprc Posted July 23, 2016 Author Share Posted July 23, 2016 The door is closed, I have moved on just looking to get over it all now. I'm doing so much more with my life without him. You are right he told my friend knowing it would get back to me. I'm happy he fell flat on his face, I'm not interested in any reconciliation NC stands. It sounds like the typical case of having feelings for someone who said they did and showed they did not. So you want to validate that he did have feelings for you, at some point, in some way. Its one of two things: closure, or having hope that he will come round to you again. Even if you say its 100% over. Why? He is a bad person who cheated on you. Im sure he wanted you to hear the grass greener thing. He probably has a hope you will take him back. Dont fall for it. I wouldn't even give him the benefit of another word from you. He thought he deserved more than you, it ended, so he does not deserve even a word from you now. Leave him to make the bed he messed up and live your life. He should be in the past to you so not even his shadow comes around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gorf Posted July 23, 2016 Share Posted July 23, 2016 I think the first step to getting over it is to smile and know that even if you feel sad about how it went: look at the big picture. You aren't with a cheater. You don't have that drama and worry in your life anymore. Its gone. So thats two sided. It can make you sad that he is gone. But at the same time it should make you happy and motivate to move forward. Don't be jealous about a piece of trash like him. All he has is trash to be jealous of! Best of luck to you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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