utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 My ex has been contacting me lately wanting to get back together. About how we were meant to be together and he constantly reminds me of how perfect things were before. Keep in mind that he broke up with me, (you can read prior posts) and that he never wanted to marry me or have children with me and made lists of all the things that were wrong with me. Now, I am involved with a wonderful man. But my ex asks me these questions about my new beau and makes me question some of the thiings that my new bf is doing. I don't know what to think or what to do about this stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
pioneer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 How long were u split for? Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 about 4 months Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman Now, I am involved with a wonderful man. But my ex asks me these questions about my new beau and makes me question some of the thiings that my new bf is doing. I don't know what to think or what to do about this stuff. So you recovered from getting dumped, picked yourself up, dusted off the debris of your shattered dreams and got on with life by finding happiness in a relationship with a new man. Everything was hunky dory again...then suddenly... Ssshhhhh! Do you hear something? What IS that strange, creaking noise? A coffin lid opens slowly. We watch in petrified horror, as a hunched and bitter-faced figure crawls out - clutching an ancient notebook to his chest and shielding his sensitive eyes from the blinding. Who is this mysterious yet somehow familiar creature of the night? Why! It's none other than good old, list o' faults-making ex who dumped you like a sack of trash and is now trying to wreck your prospects of happiness in a new relationship. What is it you need advice about exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
pioneer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 You got with someone else after 4 months, maybe you never really loved your ex anyway Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 Pioneer, I should have just stayed in bed for how long to prove my love to him rather than try and pick myself up and move on? Link to post Share on other sites
pioneer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 obviously, depends how you felt about him, not lie in bed tho. But maybe stay away from serious relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 I am just dating someone. I wanted to get back out there and build my self esteem back up. I have been fortunate enough to find a nice guy that treats me well and makes me feel beautiful. My ex did not want anything to do with me and he moved out of state. I figured our life together was over and there was no chance for a reconciliation. I did the wallowing in bed for a few months, it wasn't helping me. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman My ex has been contacting me lately wanting to get back together. About how we were meant to be together and he constantly reminds me of how perfect things were before. Keep in mind that he broke up with me, (you can read prior posts) and that he never wanted to marry me or have children with me and made lists of all the things that were wrong with me. Gee, how nice of him to point out your faults. I suppose he thinks he has none, right? What's changed about this man, in your opinion, to make you even WANT him back? Now, I am involved with a wonderful man. Then why give your Ex the time of day? He doesn't deserve it. But my ex asks me these questions about my new beau and makes me question some of the thiings that my new bf is doing. I don't know what to think or what to do about this stuff. Your Ex is trying to MANIPULATE you. If you are happy with your new guy and you think he's wonderful, then don't listen to your Ex. All he is trying to do is SELFISHLY sabotage your current relationship. What you should do, IMHO, is cut off any contact with the Ex and prove to him that he can not treat you poorly and expect to get another chance. He needs to be taught a lesson and you should reward the man who is with you now. If you think he's wonderful, why would you even entertain the thought of going back to the ex?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 I need to know - should I even consider taking him back? Why is he doing this now? Why am I questioning my new boyfriends intentions? Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman I need to know - should I even consider taking him back? NO, NO, NO! Why is he doing this now? He's selfish. Why am I questioning my new boyfriends intentions? Because your manipulative Ex is feeding doubt in your mind. Cut him off, forget about him like he forgot about you. Remember the months crying in bed. You deserve to be treated better. If he'll break your heart once like this, he'll do it again. Why would you want to go through that kind of heartbreak again?! Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman My ex has been contacting me lately wanting to get back together. About how we were meant to be together and he constantly reminds me of how perfect things were before. Keep in mind that he broke up with me, (you can read prior posts) and that he never wanted to marry me or have children with me and made lists of all the things that were wrong with me. Why would you want to be with a guy who keeps a laundry list of things that are wrong with you? Take him to the cleaners, and leave him there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 ok, ok, ok!!! I appreciate all of your perspectives. He isn't worth it, he hasn't changed and that is that. I am done even giving him brain space to toss around all the crap he has been feeding me. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman ok, ok, ok!!! I appreciate all of your perspectives. He isn't worth it, he hasn't changed and that is that. I am done even giving him brain space to toss around all the crap he has been feeding me. Thanks! You're from Utah... now I understand. Some of those RMs are strange creatures. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman ok, ok, ok!!! I appreciate all of your perspectives. He isn't worth it, he hasn't changed and that is that. I am done even giving him brain space to toss around all the crap he has been feeding me. Thanks! So where are your doubts about the new guy coming from? What are they? You need to be secure with your new guy and give him a fair chance. I would not call your new man. Just email or text him saying you want NOTHING to do with him and you want him to leave you alone for good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 Ha, ha, ha, ha!!!! He is from the south, that should explain everything. He doesn't live here anymore. Live in Utah, not from Utah. Big difference. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 Originally posted by utwonderwoman Live in Utah, not from Utah. Big difference. Everyone in Utah says that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author utwonderwoman Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 California huh? We sure see a lot of you moving out to our beautiful state. Mormons and all. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 You said it... Link to post Share on other sites
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