My phone and cloud stored porn hacked by an EX.

[Mrlonelyone]

TLDR; I logged into my personal cloud storage on my phone and found one of my interracial porn videos now shows her FB profile picture as the thumbnail.

 

This ex from a few years back came back into my life in a way when I sent them a card for their birthday. This was after a year or so of texting back and forth. She is 1000 miles away and neither of us can move to the other city. Given that texting I thought a birthday card would be welcome.

 

WRONG. I got a cease and desist letter from a lawyer from a city 1000 miles in the other direction. So I did.

 

Then she kept on texting me. I would contact her via social media that was fine. If I sent an email every once in a while I would hear from the same lawyer. At those times I forwarded copies of all her correspondence and said look, if she contacts me I will contact her. That frankly I wonder if she is the one complaining or someone else who is bothered by our correspondence.

 

She is white (Italian-Irish) I am African American (Mixed of three races), oh and I'm also trans and she likes to dress up like a cartoon character every once in a while.

 

I get a mysterious text with no content from her family home phone number. With some digital phone services it is possible to text from a landline these days.

 

Then months latter I log into my personal cloud storage on my phone. I find her FB profile picture has replace the thumbnail of one of my interracial porn videos.

 

So I thought ok cool you like to play. It is my personal policy not to respond directly to BS. So instead I kept her on the list of people I send email blast to when an unmarmed black man is shot by police. I am not sexing a female, risking making babies IF they aren't sympathetic to what black people deal with in life. How would they parent a half African American child if that should happen?

 

I get an email from the lawyer saying how disturbing it is that she got the emails. So I sent a video showing my phones screen and how that thumbnail of her FB profile pic is there on that interracial porn video.

 

In the video I said, basically,

 

Why the games? If you want to do that we can just do that. Call my phone instead of hacking it.

 

By the by she's about to get a MS or an MSEE with a focus on computers and sensors. She's a formally trained hacker.

 

Any thoughts? Any advice? Anyone had someone like you then change their mind back and forth?

[Satu]

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*Any thoughts? Any advice? Anyone had someone like you then change their mind back and forth?

 

*Leave the game, by blocking her from everything.

 

You are playing the game just as much as she is, by staying in contact.

 

I don't care how gifted a hacker she might be, its virtually impossible to get through to you or hack your accounts, if you take full precautions.

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete from all social media.

*No monitoring of her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

Enough needs to be enough.

 

 

Take care.

[Mrlonelyone]

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*Leave the game, by blocking her from everything.

 

You are playing the game just as much as she is, by staying in contact.

 

I don't care how gifted a hacker she might be, its virtually impossible to get through to you or hack your accounts, if you take full precautions.

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete from all social media.

*No monitoring of her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

Enough needs to be enough.

 

 

Take care.

 

To mess with the software on my phone and put a picture of herself on the thumbnail of my porno would mean she's pretty good.

 

If I block her off totally that would mean no more remote BS.

 

Any other thoughts by anyone? Anyone else ever had someone behave in a similar manner?

[xxoo]

What would you do if anyone else hacked your phone?

[ChickiePops]

Why have you continued engaging after the initial cease and desist letter?

[Mrlonelyone]

What would you do if anyone else hacked your phone?

 

That question is only fair if this "anyone else" had similar history with me as she does.

 

I am not sure.

 

The same computer skills she used to do this latest thing were also used to do published scientific research on aliments that have afflicted my family. That buys her a lot of credit with me.

 

If this was a random stranger I would turn the case over to the police. This level of phone hacking would surely be a criminal act.

 

Why have you continued engaging after the initial cease and desist letter?

 

Because she kept engaging me. She would initiate contact with me.

 

If person A ask person B never to talk to them then person A can't expect that they can contact person B and person B will not respond. That's not how things work.

 

That was either an action taken by some third person OR just another one of her games. Possibly both.

[ChickiePops]

Why not block her? Why not ignore her? If she's playing games it's because you're allowing her to.

[xxoo]

If this was a random stranger I would turn the case over to the police. This level of phone hacking would surely be a criminal act.

 

Do that.

 

This is someone who's sent you a cease and desist letter from a lawyer. Don't play.

[Mrlonelyone]

Why not block her? Why not ignore her? If she's playing games it's because you're allowing her to.

 

I did block her and ignore her for a time. Being blocked on social media does not mean a person with skills can't crack the security on your devices. Blocking someone on FB and such isn't some sort of magic digital shield.

 

 

You seem to be a little obsessed with her. This can't be good for you. In any case, she is either crazy, or really really really wants you to leave her alone (got that court order against you) or maybe both. Any way you look at it you need to move on in every way 100%!

 

She didn't get a court order. It was a letter from a lawyer. There is a world of difference.

 

If it had been a court order she would have violated it by contacting me, and hacking some of the software on my phone. Probably by sending code embedded in a text message.

 

Even a program that "blocks" those might not prevent that sort of attack since the phone still gets the message from the "blocked" number it just blocks the notifications.

[Mrlonelyone]

Do that.

 

This is someone who's sent you a cease and desist letter from a lawyer. Don't play.

 

You are right. I should certainly at least file a complaint over this. I don't expect much to be done with it though. I filed one over her previous shenanigans nothing was done.

 

If she wants to involve a lawyer in this and try to make a situation where she gets to rattle me and I should just take that, that's bull ****.

[ChickiePops]

I did block her and ignore her for a time. Being blocked on social media does not mean a person with skills can't crack the security on your devices. Blocking someone on FB and such isn't some sort of magic digital shield.

 

 

 

 

She didn't get a court order. It was a letter from a lawyer. There is a world of difference.

 

If it had been a court order she would have violated it by contacting me, and hacking some of the software on my phone. Probably by sending code embedded in a text message.

 

Even a program that "blocks" those might not prevent that sort of attack since the phone still gets the message from the "blocked" number it just blocks the notifications.

 

Blocking her 'for a time' doesn't mean anything. You said she texted you and that you kept emailing and contacting her over social media and that she had her lawyer continually contact you about it. She's probably trying to avoid having to have you tossed in jail for stalking.

 

Change your number, block her emails, delete her from social media, and ignore her if she finds a way to contact you. This chick is not worth having a record for.

[Mrlonelyone]

Blocking her 'for a time' doesn't mean anything. You said she texted you and that you kept emailing and contacting her over social media and that she had her lawyer continually contact you about it. She's probably trying to avoid having to have you tossed in jail for stalking.

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NO

 

Again. It went like this. She openened communication with me.

 

Someone, probably her had a lawyer send that letter.

 

Then SHE KEPT COMMUNICATING WITH ME. Please actually read what I write instead of giving uninformed opinions based on stereotypes of who is the bad person (the male) in these situations.

 

 

Understand she said. Don't talk to me ... then kept on talking to me.

 

It would be like having a woman give a man woman on top sex, with the man tied up while the woman says No stop don't please your hurting me.

[Kamille]

Who cares what she does and that she contacts you? Block her from everything. If she is hacking your cloud, getting lawyers involved and then contacting you, she is an immature bully. Cut her out of your life, stop including her in your activism emails, block her on all media and ignore any further hacking she might be up to. At best, this woman is getting her kicks by toying with you. Be done with her.

[Mrlonelyone]

Since this is a crime that would cross state lines I am seriously going to consider going to the FBI with this and seeing what they do with it. At least filing a report JIC she does something more sinister.

 

Right now what has been done is little more than a Prank. Possibly even a immature and awkward come on from a techie. Nothing more.

 

Even a little bit cute.

 

So I will document this, make a report, which will probably go nowhere since no money was taken and no real damages done.

 

Thanks everyone. I needed to bounce this off some objective people.

 

Who cares what she does and that she contacts you? Block her from everything. If she is hacking your cloud, getting lawyers involved and then contacting you, she is an immature bully. Cut her out of your life, stop including her in your activism emails, block her on all media and ignore any further hacking she might be up to. At best, this woman is getting her kicks by toying with you. Be done with her.

 

Blocking someone on social media will not stop them from hacking your devices. Where in the world did people get this idea?

 

I would have to wipe my devices storage

change all my usernames and passwords, open new accounts

etc etc.

 

I would have to let someone chase me out of my own digital life.

 

That ain't gonna happen.

[MJJean]

 

Then SHE KEPT COMMUNICATING WITH ME. Please actually read what I write instead of giving uninformed opinions based on stereotypes of who is the bad person (the male) in these situations.

 

Oh, we read what you wrote. Maybe you need to go re-read it. A woman who you used to date had a lawyer send you a cease and desist letter. Then she contacted you. You replied. You received notice from the same attorney and you continued to reply. Then she hacked your cloud. You have to see your own responsibility in this little drama, right?

 

This woman is clearly mentally unstable. Anyone sending cease and desist letters and then contacting the person they ordered to cease and desist is obviously a few fries short of a Happy Meal. If you are sent a cease and desist letter and then are contacted by the person who had that letter sent, the sane and sensible thing to do is NOT REPLY. EVER.

 

By engaging with her, you are causing your own problem.

 

 

Remember, don't stick your d*ck in crazy. Also, don't email, text, call or engage crazy on social media.

 

 

Were I you, I'd document and report. Then I'd seriously consider de-activating social media and re-activating under a different profile, set to private, accessible only by close friends and family. I'd also toss the phone and get a new handset with a new number. Then I'd block her just in case.

Edited July 26, 2016 by MJJean

[Mrlonelyone]

I have doccumented it .. I am reporting it.

 

What too many of you did was plain old victim blaming.

 

 

By engaging with her, you are causing your own problem.

 

 

Remember, don't stick your d*ck in crazy. Also, don't email, text, call or engage crazy on social media.

 

So if someone chops me up and stir fries me it's my fault. Got it.

 

By the by I've got her to admit she did what she did too.

Edited July 28, 2016 by Mrlonelyone

[Mrlonelyone]

5 months on after telling the details to my retired cop uncle who is a cyber security expert...and swapping my phone twice.... no more of this phone hacking. No official action will be taken beyond that.

 

It was a prank at worst.

 

She has since tried opened more ... Orthodox channels of communication.

[Mrlonelyone]

About a month after the last update on this I have a new one. Contact as direct as she'd ever do via looking at my profile on Linkedin. One of the few places where they still tell you who looked. So I looked at hers, impressive. She seems to have gotten tired of where she was living and how life was going and moved back to her home town to regroup.

 

As I have said I am not angry about the hacking honestly it's kind of a hot thing to do when I think about it. I mean people sext. So why not some sexy hacking?

 

My initial response was self protective. Violating my digital boundaries that way could not go unpunished.

 

I don't know where if anywhere anyof this may lead. Probably nowhere but TBH i'll take digital footsie with an ex over OLD BS right now.

[loverboy69]

My ex brother in law was talking all crazy like this when he was strung out on meth.

 

He thought my sister was hacking into his iPhone (cracking iOS) and thought the Feds were planting spyware on his laptop and secret invisible cameras (used by the CIA) in the carpet.

 

I'm not insinuating that the OP is like my brother in law. But assuming there is no real criminal intent here there appears to be an unhealthy obsession and for his health and sanity I think he should cut his losses and break free.

Edited January 18, 2017 by loverboy69

[Jj66]

Where I live a cease and desist contact becomes invalid once the issuer reinstates contact.

 

Sounds like you are both harassing each other. Best just not to play the game. Move on. Block. Ignore. Whatever. Just move on.

[Mrlonelyone]

My ex brother in law was talking all crazy like this when he was strung out on meth.

 

He thought my sister was hacking into his iPhone (cracking iOS) and thought the Feds were planting spyware on his laptop and secret invisible cameras (used by the CIA) in the carpet.

 

I'm not insinuating that the OP is like my brother in law. But assuming there is no real criminal intent here there appears to be an unhealthy obsession and for his health and sanity I think he should cut his losses and break free.

 

IT's not that crazy. As a matter of fact it is well doccumented that.

 

How 95% of Android Phones Can Be Hacked with a Single Text

 

https://securitygladiators.com/2015/08/01/hacking-android-phones-with-text-message/

 

And I did write on here of getting mysterious text before I noticed the hack.

 

Scary huh.

 

Oh and she's a certified computer wiz I mean certified graduate level actual freaking degree holding and published in journals computer wiz. So yeah.

 

Where I live a cease and desist contact becomes invalid once the issuer reinstates contact.

 

Sounds like you are both harassing each other. Best just not to play the game. Move on. Block. Ignore. Whatever. Just move on.

 

I understand why you write this. The thing is we did move on. I moved on and tried dating other people who I honestly just wasn't into hoping to become into them. I've moved on in my career and life. She moved cities and so much more.

 

We've moved on maybe this little bit of non hacking contact that I tried to post here as an update on a thread rather than starting a new thread as per forum rules...is a new beginning or just a breadcrumb. At any rate I am tired of forcing myself to move on when they reach out to me just because they were an ***hole in the past.