Lankan_man Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 I am terrible with women as you can probably tell with my question. But I am going to change that and become a god. So I thought I'll start here in this forum full of awesome people. I have a few questions. 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? Please be brutally honest when answering these questions. Cant wait for you responses! Link to post Share on other sites
DramaInPajamas Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 I am terrible with women as you can probably tell with my question. But I am going to change that and become a god. So I thought I'll start here in this forum full of awesome people. I have a few questions. 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? Please be brutally honest when answering these questions. Cant wait for you responses! 1. I do like it as much as men. 2. Yes of course. But looks are subjective. What one woman finds attractive the next woman wont. Same as men. 3. Kind of. I do like a tall man. But a shorter guy wouldnt put me off if we had a good rapport. You cant really generalize. Every women will answer different. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 35, female here. My answers: 1) Yes, many of us like sex just as much as men do. 2) Looks matter but in the end, are not the most important factor. It's human to be drawn to someone you find physically attractive, but the definition of physical beauty varies widely. 3) My answer is similar to number 2, in that both of these questions are connected to physical appearance. I feel plenty of women are naturally drawn to men who are larger in stature than they are, but if there's a real connection there, it won't be a deal-breaking factor. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lankan_man Posted July 25, 2016 Author Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. I do like it as much as men. 2. Yes of course. But looks are subjective. What one woman finds attractive the next woman wont. Same as men. 3. Kind of. I do like a tall man. But a shorter guy wouldnt put me off if we had a good rapport. You cant really generalize. Every women will answer different. It's the looks part that I am insecure about. I don't think any woman has found me to be attractive ever. So I can only rely on my personality. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Like men, women are all different but in general 1. Yes women like sex as much as men. When we do not like it it is because we are either not turned on, do not feel cared for etc. 2. Looks do matter to some extent in that we want to be attracted to the men we are dating. However we are such fickle beasts and we all have different preferences so while one will hate bald heads another will love it... No point in changing your looks as the right woman for you will adore the way you look 3. Ahhh. The old height thing. Been done a thousand time and done to death... The short version is. Height will matter to some but in general it doesn't matter at all. See remarks in note 2. above... Good luck OP. If you want to be a God with women try talking to them, understand what makes them tick, learn body language, relax and be yourself, do not be afraid of being yourself nor of making mistakes. The very sexiest of men are those with the confidence to say hey these are my flaws but I am sexy just as I am! Concentrate on your communication skills and general social skills... master those and the girls will all be after you as that guy with the Je nais say qui (spellings may be wrong there) that makes that guy (aka you) just edible... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lankan_man Posted July 25, 2016 Author Share Posted July 25, 2016 Like men, women are all different but in general 1. Yes women like sex as much as men. When we do not like it it is because we are either not turned on, do not feel cared for etc. 2. Looks do matter to some extent in that we want to be attracted to the men we are dating. However we are such fickle beasts and we all have different preferences so while one will hate bald heads another will love it... No point in changing your looks as the right woman for you will adore the way you look 3. Ahhh. The old height thing. Been done a thousand time and done to death... The short version is. Height will matter to some but in general it doesn't matter at all. See remarks in note 2. above... Good luck OP. If you want to be a God with women try talking to them, understand what makes them tick, learn body language, relax and be yourself, do not be afraid of being yourself nor of making mistakes. The very sexiest of men are those with the confidence to say hey these are my flaws but I am sexy just as I am! Concentrate on your communication skills and general social skills... master those and the girls will all be after you as that guy with the Je nais say qui (spellings may be wrong there) that makes that guy (aka you) just edible... Love it! Thanks for this awesome post! I think the only thing that is holding me back is that I am insecure about my looks!!!! I am not a good looking guy at all. I have weird eyes, crooked nose and crooked teeth. These are things that I can't change about myself. But I just need to learn to own it. Then I'll see what happens lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 It's the looks part that I am insecure about. I don't think any woman has found me to be attractive ever. So I can only rely on my personality. You don't think... I know loads of guys who do not think that women fancy them and its bit of a shock when they find out that there is a long line that has been forming over the years of women who DO REALLY fancy them... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lankan_man Posted July 25, 2016 Author Share Posted July 25, 2016 You don't think... I know loads of guys who do not think that women fancy them and its bit of a shock when they find out that there is a long line that has been forming over the years of women who DO REALLY fancy them... Haha. Yea well some women have found me attractive (maybe like 2 women but couldn't tell if they were just trying to be nice). And some have just said "you are ugly" to my face. Every time I walk on a busy street I do make eye contact with women a lot and I MEAN A LOT but I don't know what this means and I don't know if I should approach any of them lol. But this is the first time I've actually put any effort into the dating world. I've never asked any woman out ever. I have approached 2 (yes only 2) and got rejected hard. I don't blame anyone but myself. With hard work a year from now I am hoping to have a good dating life, sex life, etc 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Love it! Thanks for this awesome post! I think the only thing that is holding me back is that I am insecure about my looks!!!! I am not a good looking guy at all. I have weird eyes, crooked nose and crooked teeth. These are things that I can't change about myself. But I just need to learn to own it. Then I'll see what happens lol. I don't know about the eyes, depends what is wrong with them, but the crooked nose and crooked teeth are both fixable if you think they are holding you back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? 1. Generally yes. 2. Of course, as it does for men. 3. My experience and conversations (online and in rl) is that it matter more than many women are willing to admit. Link to post Share on other sites
newheart Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? 1. I think I do, but men also enjoy sex at varying levels so I guess that is hard to say. In general though, yes. 2. To a point. It is important that there is some physical attraction, but when I have an emotional connection to a person, the overall attraction becomes much deeper. When I met my current BF (via OLD), his pics didn't wow me - and I feel terrible saying that now because I look at him and think he is sexy, adorable, handsome. 3. I am short, so I may not be a good judge because I'd be hard pressed to find a man not taller than me. I do like a taller man, but have also dated men as short as 5'6" which was fine to me. Again, I think #2 applies though and once I start to really like someone for who they are, this is not a dealbreaker. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Women generally LURRRRV sex. 2. Looks matter. Women will tend to find physical features they like attractive. 3. Height matters - women will tend to find heights they prefer attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Haha. Yea well some women have found me attractive (maybe like 2 women but couldn't tell if they were just trying to be nice). And some have just said "you are ugly" to my face. Every time I walk on a busy street I do make eye contact with women a lot and I MEAN A LOT but I don't know what this means and I don't know if I should approach any of them lol. But this is the first time I've actually put any effort into the dating world. I've never asked any woman out ever. I have approached 2 (yes only 2) and got rejected hard. I don't blame anyone but myself. With hard work a year from now I am hoping to have a good dating life, sex life, etc Instead of trying to pull try and have short conversations with women. Get comfortable around them and talk to them for no reason other than to say hello. Start there. The women who have been so rude are... just rude. Would you want to date a rude woman with no manners? No? Funny that, so see it as a filtering system rather than rejection. Make sure in all of this that you take care of your self, work on other things as well as getting the girl. Do your "guy things" - want to improve your par on the golf course? Get on with it. Want to get a better car with a mean V8? Get saving. Want to get a promotion at work? Get studying and get working at it. Do those things for you and not some girl. Read and educate yourself. Also do not be afraid as I said before. Perhaps try something like Yoga or Dance lessons.... usually plenty of women at those and a lean supple guy who can twirl you round the dance floor and make you feel sexy is so much more attractive than the guy standing at the side of the dance floor refusing to get involved. Learn these things so you can have confidence in yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sunlight72 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 I'm a 44 year old guy. From my experience (of transforming myself from awkward and couldn't get a date, to having many dates to choose from) you're asking about things that aren't so important. More important than sex, looks, height is - charm, respect, playfulness. Toward yourself, toward women, and toward men/strangers/everyone. Make yourself into a good, cheerful, genuine person; a good partner in every part of your life. Oddly, focusing only on becoming a love god doesn't work so well to be a love god. It tends to just make you selfish. My impression is that learning to be complimentary, generous, listening well, mixed with assertiveness and honesty is a good path to attracting positive people, some of whom will be women you want to date. I guess it depends on what you mean by wanting to be a god though. Do you mean to have a high percentage of women find you attractive? Or do you mean to greatly please the woman/the few women you choose to become involved with? That is, are you seeking to fuel your ego by female attention? Or do you wish the woman/women you connect with to think of you as one of the world's great men and great lovers? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? I have had sex with over 300 people (some of them were women, yes), so I can attest that - yes - women like sex just as much as men. 2. Do looks matter to women? Depends on the woman, I suppose. I'm a woman who is way more turned on by brains. I've had gorgeous men who couldn't string together a cohesive thought who couldn't keep my interest for more than a few days and have had long-term relationships with brilliant men that many wouldn't give a second glance at. 3. Does height matter to women? Not even a little bit. That is so far down on the list of what I look for in a quality man... Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? Woman, 47 years young; 1. I LOVE sex and being intimate in any capacity. As I've stated many times before in other threads my libido is through the roof anymore so I'm certainly having the time of my life while I still got it 2. I can't speak for all women but I think it's fair to say that there needs be some kind of attraction for it to stick. I've dated plenty of gorgeous men in my life who were certainly my physical ideal but like Carrie T said, those men often only have their looks going for them and nothing else. Rarely could they carry a decent conversation or had any independent thought of their own. That can get boring super quick for me. I need substance along with looks otherwise it doesn't work for me. 3. I will admit that I do have a preference for dating tall men. Then again, I'm only 5'4" so it's not that hard! I have never dated anyone shorter than 5'10" but wouldn't necessarily rule them out if they blew me away in all other areas. Link to post Share on other sites
JoeSmith357-1 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 2. Do looks matter to women? To straight women, the answer is yes. To lesbians, the answer is obviously no. Otherwise the whole butch lesbian thing would not exist. But you weren't asking about that, so for your purposes, the answer is yes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 I can say pretty confidently that women really enjoy sex with tall good looking men. If you are short and ugly will women enjoy having sex with you? Depends on how good you are it, and how you can convince them to have sex with you in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 So you want to be a god with women? Start an amazing band, land a record deal, and become a rock god. Barring that, stop trying to be a god. Women are individuals who want to feel special, not vaginas that want to get smashed. Want to get laid? Don't care about getting laid. Make her laugh, make her smile, and listen when she speaks. Link to post Share on other sites
five2nine Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 1. Depends on the person 2. It will a bit unless she falls for personality 3. Depends on the person Link to post Share on other sites
JustGettingBy Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 The old height thing. Been done a thousand time and done to death... The short version is... I see what you did there... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 (edited) Women like good sex as much as men, but women do not like to give BJs as much as men like to get them, which for some reason some men interpret as not liking sex (watched too much porn), when in fact it's more like not liking to be a sex servant. But it's not all about sex to women. Women have to have the right conditions, brain, attraction, emotions, lined up to fully enjoy sex. Women will usually do without rather than "just have sex" with someone for whom none of those requirements are at play. Make a woman mad, and she probably won't want to have sex. Make a man mad, and he'll want to have sex. Edited July 26, 2016 by preraph 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBathWater Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I am terrible with women as you can probably tell with my question. But I am going to change that and become a god. So I thought I'll start here in this forum full of awesome people. I have a few questions. 1. Do women like sex just as much as men? 2. Do looks matter to women? 3. Does height matter to women? Please be brutally honest when answering these questions. Cant wait for you responses! 1. Yes. Women like sex even MORE than men! Any woman who says otherwise is either lying or has not had a good enough lover yet to make them believe. 2. Yes, but the feelings they experience around you matter much more. 3. See my answer to #2 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Women like good sex as much as men, but women do not like to give BJs as much as men like to get them, which for some reason some men interpret as not liking sex (watched too much porn), when in fact it's more like not liking to be a sex servant. But it's not all about sex to women. Women have to have the right conditions, brain, attraction, emotions, lined up to fully enjoy sex. Women will usually do without rather than "just have sex" with someone for whom none of those requirements are at play. Make a woman mad, and she probably won't want to have sex. Make a man mad, and he'll want to have sex. But again. It's hard to generalize. I am a strong opposite on all of these points. (I do love an angry punish F' ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lankan_man Posted July 26, 2016 Author Share Posted July 26, 2016 So I read all the answers and this is what majority of you have said. 1. Do women like sex? YES 2. Do looks matter? YES. The interesting thing about this is that when ever I ask this question in an environment that is NOT about dating the women always say LOOKS DON'T MATTER. But when it's an environment that is about dating looks obviously seem to matter. 3. Does height matter? YES AND NO It's actually question two that stops me from approaching women. I am actually a tall guy (6 foot) but im skinny with glasses on lol. Looks seem to be very important to women just as important to men in the dating world. And what I meant by wanting to become a god is to just become confident. I get nervous around women. I keep thinking they are judging me, they are going to talk **** behind my back if I approach them or she will call me ugly again lol. So by GOD I just mean CONFIDENT. But you guys are right I need to work on myself. I don't blame anyone else but me for failing this far in the dating world. But I'll get better Link to post Share on other sites
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