Nevadaguy Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 My girlfriend posted a picture of her ex on instagram on fathers day. It was a picture of him and her son. I think its kind of strange. They don't follow each other but both their profiles are public. She tagged him and had tagged him when she posts pictures of her son. He will delete them off of his page I noticed. She will also go on t his page and like pictures of the son and dad together. I know its the dad, but she doesnt post pictures of us together. If she wanted to wish him a happy fathers day couldnt she just sent him the picture in a text? Should I worry? She is young, 26 and I am 40. I left a really great woman for her. Now I'm seeing little things that are making me wonder . Am I over reacting?
basil67 Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 (edited) To make sure I understand - she's only 'linking' photos of her son and his father together. And has posted one picture. I see this as her being active in seeking and liking photos of her son. If she was posting pictures of her and her ex together, that would be a whole different story. Sounds to me like they have made an amicable break and are giving good role modelling to the child. Well done to them. As for her not posting photos of the two of you....does she post photos of everyone except you? Edited July 25, 2016 by basil67 2
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 Yes she posts pictures of her and her friends but not with me. I think its odd she goes on her exes page, but they don't follow each other. He does not go on her page. I think the 14 year age difference makes me nervous too
sandylee1 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Did her Ex break up with her? I think she's overdoing the pics a bit and him deleting them shows he isn't comfortable with it. I know many seperated and divorced couples with kids and none of them do what your GF is doing with the pics. I reckon she still likes him and doesn't want him to know she's with you, hence none of your pics are on her page. Does her Ex have a new GF? So did you cheat on your Ex and then leave? If you left your Ex to be with the 26 year old, then you clearly didn't love your Ex enough to get your head turned, so no need to have any regrets.
sandylee1 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 My comments above are made from the POV of what I'd do with the pics if I wanted my Ex back in her situation. Although he doesn't seem interested in the same way. Have you ever asked her why they split or if she would ever get back with him?
DKT3 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 My girlfriend posted a picture of her ex on instagram on fathers day. It was a picture of him and her son. I think its kind of strange. They don't follow each other but both their profiles are public. She tagged him and had tagged him when she posts pictures of her son. He will delete them off of his page I noticed. She will also go on t his page and like pictures of the son and dad together. I know its the dad, but she doesnt post pictures of us together. If she wanted to wish him a happy fathers day couldnt she just sent him the picture in a text? Should I worry? She is young, 26 and I am 40. I left a really great woman for her. Now I'm seeing little things that are making me wonder . Am I over reacting? Karma? Liking her baby daddy pictures isn't cause for concern, but I sense there is more that you didn't share.....but also there is a good chance you are having second thoughts about dumping the ex for her and looking for an out. maybe?
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 No I didn't cheat. Our relationship was pretty perfect, no fighting, fun, great sex. I guess I kind of freaked and broke up with her out of the blue. I've only been single for two years after a long marriage. My ex was my first real relationship. I met the 26 year right before we broke up but didn't cheat.the 26 and her ex were not married ever. They broke up about 2 years ago too. I've never seen an ex post pictures even if they have kids even if they are on good terms. Especially since they don't follow each other.
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 Yeah exactly what I'm thinking. They broke up because they were different people. She got pregnant when she was 19.
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 I'm having second thoughts . But my ex was livid with the break up, especially when she found out I was dating someone else right away. In her defense it came from nowhere
frus69 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 I too feel you haven't revealed all the info But I might be biased, because I have no good opinions on 19 year old single mothers 3
TheBathWater Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Social media complicates relationships far more than it helps relationships. There is little 'progress' in 'technological progress' in our society. Having said that, I (and no one else here, it seems) has enough information to give you a good answer. Even if we had more information, no one can really know her motives for why she chooses certain online behaviors. Even she might not know. However, it may be worth further exploring your hesitancy in the relationship. Namely, there is an age difference and a history with an ex on her end that you're worried about, and I'm sure your own relationship history factors into all of this as well.
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 The truth is. I miss the ex. Now that I think about it. I messed up and I don't think there is any going back
Popsicle Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 Having a baby with someone pretty much entitles you to have a lifelong crush on them and be able to hide it under the mask of parenthood. 2
Lois_Griffin Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 No I didn't cheat. Our relationship was pretty perfect, no fighting, fun, great sex. I guess I kind of freaked and broke up with her out of the blue. I've only been single for two years after a long marriage. My ex was my first real relationship. I met the 26 year right before we broke up but didn't cheat.the 26 and her ex were not married ever. They broke up about 2 years ago too. I've never seen an ex post pictures even if they have kids even if they are on good terms. Especially since they don't follow each other. Well,, color ME confused. You claim you didn't cheat, but in your first post you say, "I left a really great woman for her." You don't leave someone for a woman you don't know or aren't involved with in some way. So call a spade a spade. Welcome to the world of 20-somethings - foolish girls who get pregnant at 19, lots of social rejects who have no idea how to interact with other humans anymore because they live their lives on their phones and through social media, and the common use of the ever-childish term, 'baby daddy.' Such fun at 40! The truth is. I miss the ex. Now that I think about it. I messed up and I don't think there is any going back Well, if your ex is around your age, I'm sure she's lost a lot of respect for you after seeing who you've chosen to 'date.' You're right - you won't likely be able to go back now. Seems your girlfriend is still pining over her 'baby daddy.' Maybe through Instagram and Twitter, they'll find their 'love' once more and reunite. :lmao: You seriously need to re-enter the world of mature adults. Seriously. 6
phineas Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 40yr old dating a 26yr old and the 26 yr old is holding all the power. You are doingnit wrong.
sandylee1 Posted July 26, 2016 Posted July 26, 2016 No I didn't cheat. Our relationship was pretty perfect, no fighting, fun, great sex. I guess I kind of freaked and broke up with her out of the blue. I've only been single for two years after a long marriage. My ex was my first real relationship. I met the 26 year right before we broke up but didn't cheat.the 26 and her ex were not married ever. They broke up about 2 years ago too. I've never seen an ex post pictures even if they have kids even if they are on good terms. Especially since they don't follow each other. You didn't physically cheat, but your 26 yo GF, caught you eye AND THEN you dumped your Ex it seems. So in her eyes you had her replacement lined up before you gave her the boot, however you spin it. Did you freak because you thought it was getting serious and she'd want a commitment from you? You had what you describe as a perfect relationship and you ended it just like that. Please don't go back and break her heart all over again ... she's probably just managing to get over you. Perhaps you see the 26 yr old as young and in no rush, so you can take it very very slowly. Lois .... you're ever so blunt .... but you've said it like it is on this one. ☺ 1
Author Nevadaguy Posted July 26, 2016 Author Posted July 26, 2016 She had commitment , was my girlfriend. I sensed she wanted more and told her I didn't know where things were going. She said she wanted natural progression that she wouldn't want to be in the same spot for years. I said I didn't know...and she basically said Im worth 100% and bolted in tears. I understand because she gave me no pressure and until that time I was the one who was moving things along. And then I just got realistic about where I was in life. I had met the other girl already and we started dating. My ex called me one night hysterical crying, really unlike her and I felt terrible as how much I hurt her. A week later she called because she found out about 26 and was livid. Niether of us wanted kids so because 26 has one she was shocked plus she found out I knew her already. She told me I was a coward and a monster...I've never seen that side of my ex. So sweet happy and calm always. Really nurturing too. But I get it. Now I'm realizing I effed up big.
Popsicle Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 You said you were married for a long time before and like some divorced men, you probably have the jitters about marriage. You need to be in this situation that you are with this unstable girl to re-learn that marriage and stability is not so bad.
stillafool Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 It is very doubtful that your ex will want you back. She will always think that you really desire a young woman in her 20's. Maybe it's best to be on your own for a while to find out exactly what you want and need.
kendahke Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 My girlfriend posted a picture of her ex on instagram on fathers day. It was a picture of him and her son. I think its kind of strange. They don't follow each other but both their profiles are public. She tagged him and had tagged him when she posts pictures of her son. He will delete them off of his page I noticed. She will also go on t his page and like pictures of the son and dad together. I know its the dad, but she doesnt post pictures of us together. If she wanted to wish him a happy fathers day couldnt she just sent him the picture in a text? Should I worry? She is young, 26 and I am 40. I left a really great woman for her. Now I'm seeing little things that are making me wonder . Am I over reacting? I think your expectations for her are not in balance with what she is emotionally capable of delivering in a committed relationship. It's too bad you left a really great woman to be with her. I ask that because your new little chickie is pretty much still pining for her ex. She is making a public statement when she likes his social media instead of dealing with him directly through a text. The question is: why is she making a public statement for someone she's not with anymore? But hey--she was enough for you to throw a great woman over for...
Author Nevadaguy Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 My ex doesn't want me back. I called her and she gave me a mouthful, furious. I'm still with the 26. But it's not like with my ex.
Imajerk17 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 (edited) I don't know, I have a somewhat different take on this. At least part of it is indeed that she and her ex seem to be working on a healthy co-parenting relationship, which is of course a very good thing. I agree w the others there. BUT, I am also suspecting that the OP's girlfriend may still be holding a candle for her ex, and may view the OP as Mr Safe Guy or Mr Placeholder and may not be taking the OP that seriously. The age difference factors into this. Also, we have no evidence that the girlfriend is crazy for the OP. I mean, if the rest of the relationship were so amazing, do you think someone would post a thread such as this? The OP probably would see the girlfriend's investment from the rest of the relationship so much that he wouldn't be questioning a social media post such as this. ETA: So I second the sentiments brought up in Popsicle's and Lois Griffin's posts. How is the rest of your relationship w your girlfriend, Nevadaguy? Edited August 2, 2016 by Imajerk17 1
Author Nevadaguy Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 It's good. She is fun and sweet. Sometimes she can be a bit explosive. More and more I see the age difference and maturity level. She is a single mom and I don't really want kids so there is that. She is probably out of my league looks wise. I just think that I screwed up with the ex. Because my feelings for this one kind of are dying down just like they did with the ex. But to think of it now, they just changed and the infatuation part started to wear off, then I jumped into this. The ex was a much better fit. And I never worried or had any suspicions.
Author Nevadaguy Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 The thing with the 26 is she is posted a pic of him and never of me. I know the ex posted a few pics of us at least. It just seems odd to post her ex, it could have been sent in a text, but this is blasting it on the internet. She tagged him, but they don't follow each other. So she is going in and looking at his, and she is tagging him so he will look at hers. It seems subconsciously something is there.
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