IrrationalEmotions Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 Good for you! Don't fall for the idea that there is only 1 person for everyone out there. Thats just not true. There are a lot of women out there that would make you very happy, and probably a lot that would make you way happier than she will. Besides that, I've recently discovered that being on the hunt again is a lot of fun! I used to dread the idea of having to find someone else, but it can be fun! Don't you miss those butterfly feelings you get in your stomach when talking to a new beautiful girl that you've never met before? This is a chance for you to raise your standards, and find a girl who will really, truly make you happy. If, on the other hand you were extremely happy with her, and you had no problems whatsoever with her, then maybe you should try to work things out. Just remember though, she obviously has some problems with you or she wouldn't be doing this. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you by any means, just that she has her own issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 The fact that she wants to see other people pretty much confirms what the realist are saying. Go NC, no phone calls, no text messages, nothing at all. Be a man. Find a real woman, this one will cause you nothing but pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bennychase Posted July 7, 2005 Author Share Posted July 7, 2005 I have been in relationships where I did not think twice befire dumping the other. Those relationships sucked! For the past two and a half years me and Nicole have been very happy together. during that time I never thought twice about being with her. She treated me right. I treated her right. We were very happy. Though once she approached me with the idea of taking a break she said she had been thinking about doing this for a while ... hmmm ... red flag! Again, ill talk to her and see what is going on and base my next move off of that. Link to post Share on other sites
sanne Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 trust me if you break things off completely with her she will come crawling back. it's up to you whether or not you wanna make that move, she may resent you for it later on. Link to post Share on other sites
freebird Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 You know what - HELL NO!! She cannot have it both ways and you are allowing her to. I'm sorry, you deserve WAY more than that. She was writing to you as if you were a best girlfriend and not somebody who wants to marry you! As the saying goes..."she's just not that into you..." Find somebody who is. As a self-respecting woman, I would NEVER and I mean NEVER think of trying on other men to see if they fit if I knew teh man who loved me bought me a ring! I know when I was engaged he was the only man in the world for me...that's the way it should be. then of course - if you are french...they seem to have affairs all the time even if they are married - I know ALOT of french and they see things differently - so do the Italians! Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 Originally posted by freebird You know what - HELL NO!! She cannot have it both ways and you are allowing her to. I'm sorry, you deserve WAY more than that. She was writing to you as if you were a best girlfriend and not somebody who wants to marry you! As the saying goes..."she's just not that into you..." Find somebody who is. As a self-respecting woman, I would NEVER and I mean NEVER think of trying on other men to see if they fit if I knew teh man who loved me bought me a ring! I know when I was engaged he was the only man in the world for me...that's the way it should be. then of course - if you are french...they seem to have affairs all the time even if they are married - I know ALOT of french and they see things differently - so do the Italians! Oh come on do you honestly think there is more infidelity amongst the French population than the American. Actually I would be willing to bet that its about the same or the American population is worse. People in this country have Affairs all the time (when they're married), look at the divorce rate here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bennychase Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 My girl friend called me up today and yeah, its over. I just wanted to say that every realistic thing people posted here was 100% correct. Break are BS. Breaks are the biggest cop-out ever invented by women! I found this out the hard way after going through hell for the past 5 months. Link to post Share on other sites
IrrationalEmotions Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by bennychase My girl friend called me up today and yeah, its over. I just wanted to say that every realistic thing people posted here was 100% correct. Break are BS. Breaks are the biggest cop-out ever invented by women! I found this out the hard way after going through hell for the past 5 months. Sorry you had to go through it man. I've been there, not too long ago so I feel your pain. It gets better, trust me. There are some beautiful girls out there that will be better for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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