princessmom3 Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 Should I bother attempting reconciliation? ----7 years of marriage and 3 children---we were very young! ----2 month affair by EH which led to 2nd marriage and 1 child with OW ----we have now been apart for 6 years and live 1000 apart. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 How does he feel? Are either of you married now? Will it mean relocating and explaining things to children? If you BOTH think it's worth it, heck, give it a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessmom3 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Share Posted June 30, 2005 I don't know how he feels. He hasn't told me outright but I know him pretty well and get the impression that he feels he is trapped in his 2nd marriage. I am not married again. I don't know how to find out for sure if he wants to get back together without making huge waves? Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 It will be extremely difficult, esp if he is married. There are lots of peoples feelings to consider, most importantly your own. Are you 100% sure you want to get back with him? What are your childrens thoughts? They have to be considered, seeing if you get back with him they'd be devastated to lose him again if you weren't 100% positive about being together. I think the best option is to tell him how you feel and then let things progress from there. Give yourselves time to rediscover your true emotions, and if you both decide that you want to be together again, then you can start making those arrangements. Link to post Share on other sites
Author princessmom3 Posted June 30, 2005 Author Share Posted June 30, 2005 What if my gut feelings are off? What if he really DOESN"T want to get back together? How can I find that out without flat-out asking him? Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted June 30, 2005 Share Posted June 30, 2005 You're feelings may be off, but at least you will know for sure one way or the other if you flat out ask the question. If that is not something you can bring yourself to do though, I would suggest just talking generally about life with him - try to gauge what his emotions are, and his future goals and dreams. This may take some time though, and he may not be willing to talk in detail (so you may still be left wondering, or reading things incorrectly). Link to post Share on other sites
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