Author mrs.peel Posted July 30, 2016 Author Share Posted July 30, 2016 (edited) Cheer up Mrs Peel, I was like you for 8 years. I am now 13 weeks NC and recovering quickly. You will be too before long. Best Wishes, Poppy. What helped you Poppy? Was it simply time? My problem is that when I stop feeling mad- I start feeling sad. I just really miss him sometimes. Edited July 31, 2016 by mrs.peel Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 What helped you Poppy? Was it simply time? My problem is that when I stop feeling mad- I start feeling sad. I just really miss him sometimes. Plus I'm homesick. Hi Mrs Peel, I was 1 week short of being in the A with xMM for 8 years. He had spent almost every day with me during my holidays and when I went back to work, he withdrew and we didn't speak for 3 days. I took a critical look at what the last 8 years had brought me. It was mostly emotional upset and insecurity. There were of course happy moments, but far outweighed by negatives. These included bad sleeping patterns, feeling guilty about keeping a secret from my kids and neglecting my work. My sense of well being was missing. The happy moments were stolen and instead of going to places I wanted, he made sure we were in out of the way, dark places where nobody would see him. I am about to turn 69 and it suddenly seemed stupid that at my age, I was accepting garbage from this man. NOw I'm NOT. The sadness has disappeared and I no longer think of him fondly. The memories now are realistic, not romantic at all. Time has been the major healing factor. He could be dead for all I know now. No idea as he lives in a small village in the mountains, far away. Just some thoughts for you Mrs Peel. Please escape from the dead end life style and don't waste another day on a married man. Best wishes, Poppy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 Mrs Peel, I just read all your thread. Your isolation is your worst enemy. Somebody here mentioned the Meetup group association. I belong to two social groups with people my age and they have been really beneficial... Go to Dr Google. Reach out to people even if you just go for a coffee with somebody. Do you communicate your loneliness to your husband? Poppy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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