sweet-pea Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 If I've been here once I've been here a thousand times. Or it seems like it. I recognize why I stay in unhealthy relationships too long. It's because the anxiety of breaking up is - unbearable. I've been to therapy, gone back again as recent as this last Tues. I take meds . .I have prayed, read everything I can get my hands on, exercised and drank just to kill the anxiety and for those who know it's crippling. I know others experience this too and I am wondering what if anything you do about it that helps. Any and all advise appreciated. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 29, 2016 Share Posted July 29, 2016 I'm sorry you're having a hard time, OP. Can you describe some of the thoughts or fears you have when you say you have anxiety about break-ups? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
asphyxis Posted July 29, 2016 Share Posted July 29, 2016 I can 100% relate. Although I've done most of rhe breaking up and it wasn't as bad as this, I'm wondering if being dumped has amplified my anxiety. I'm about 3 1/2 weeks into my break up, and I still wake up with my heart racing out of the blue. I still find it hard to not back panic attacks. Same situation and no relief really. I'm just riding it out and hoping it calms down eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
l8estnews Posted July 29, 2016 Share Posted July 29, 2016 This is one of the reasons why I don't like relationships. The feeling is so intense for me that Love is blissful but breaking-up feels like all happiness are sucked out from me. We need to have a stronger EQ if we wanted to be "relationship-ready." Also, loving someone 100% doesn't mean forgetting yourself and surrounding your happiness and life to your partner. Love him enough, but not to the point wherein if he disappears, you'll be left crippled to face tomorrow. Goodluck hun! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 29, 2016 Share Posted July 29, 2016 Try driving. Anxiety for me was largely about a feeling like "I'm supposed to be doing something about this disaster that's coming my way fast, not just sitting here!!" Driving gives you the motion-related impression of 'doing,' taking some action. It also seems to occupy the parts of your brain that get so geeked up pretty well, like distracting them w stuff like minding traffic etc. Best for me was the highway, not stop and go traffic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweet-pea Posted July 29, 2016 Author Share Posted July 29, 2016 I can 100% relate. Although I've done most of rhe breaking up and it wasn't as bad as this, I'm wondering if being dumped has amplified my anxiety. I'm about 3 1/2 weeks into my break up, and I still wake up with my heart racing out of the blue. I still find it hard to not back panic attacks. Same situation and no relief really. I'm just riding it out and hoping it calms down eventually. Oh could have written this. The mornings are worse. I wake up with a gutt kick and so anxious it's hard to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other. Thank goodness I am working and need to be accountable. Sometimes it's the only that keeps from feeling paralyzed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweet-pea Posted July 29, 2016 Author Share Posted July 29, 2016 Try driving. Anxiety for me was largely about a feeling like "I'm supposed to be doing something about this disaster that's coming my way fast, not just sitting here!!" Driving gives you the motion-related impression of 'doing,' taking some action. It also seems to occupy the parts of your brain that get so geeked up pretty well, like distracting them w stuff like minding traffic etc. Best for me was the highway, not stop and go traffic. Meh. . I commute 90 min's each way to work and home. Good idea though. I will pay attention to my level of anxiety while driving. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweet-pea Posted July 29, 2016 Author Share Posted July 29, 2016 I'm sorry you're having a hard time, OP. Can you describe some of the thoughts or fears you have when you say you have anxiety about break-ups? I guess that would help but I can't really name them. The fear of the unknown I suppose. Your life is one way and the next minute the rug is pulled out and it feels like you need to relearn everything. Link to post Share on other sites
cookiecrumbles Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 anxiety is formed when you are focusing on the future, fears of the future! depression is formed when you are focusing on the past! Focus on the present, on yourself, slowly with your will and patience, you will become stronger 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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