Mr. Lucky Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 The only reason I have not told the ow's husband is that in the emails I read she was encouraging my husband to try counselling with me and to give it another go etc I'm afraid if she's advising him thusly while simultaneously seeing and sleeping with him, no brownie points from me ... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 I'm afraid if she's advising him thusly while simultaneously seeing and sleeping with him, no brownie points from me ... Mr. Lucky Exactly! I would expose to her H. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crazylady1981 Posted August 2, 2016 Author Share Posted August 2, 2016 It looks like he is now dating someone else entirely. I think that's my answer, it feels like I never really knew this man, the person I built a family with and thought I'd grow old with. I need to accept its over I know that, I just never thought I'd be on my own with three children and I'm struggling to see a better life than the one we had 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenician Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 I feel sorry for you dear , be strong and continue your life , you deserve a better one . From a personnel experience about cheating , (attempted , didn't complete it ...and I exposed myself intentionally !), I would say that during an affair fog controls everything . but my attempt came after 15 years of deprivation and emotional distance from my wife .I am not defending him , he is a liar ; but I have a question that would like to hear an answer from you honestly . -What was the form of your marital life over the years ? was it a normal life ? don't misunderstand me please , we all fight and argue with partners, the norm is that we go through hicups easily ... did u use to deny him from intimacy because of arguments ? Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenician Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 the way it looks is that now he wants to be with any female who can give him affection . but one thing attracts me , his love to his children , saying that he will take them ! can you please elaborate more about your role towards kids ? why would he propose to take them if he is a selfish guy ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crazylady1981 Posted August 2, 2016 Author Share Posted August 2, 2016 I feel sorry for you dear , be strong and continue your life , you deserve a better one . From a personnel experience about cheating , (attempted , didn't complete it ...and I exposed myself intentionally !), I would say that during an affair fog controls everything . but my attempt came after 15 years of deprivation and emotional distance from my wife .I am not defending him , he is a liar ; but I have a question that would like to hear an answer from you honestly . -What was the form of your marital life over the years ? was it a normal life ? don't misunderstand me please , we all fight and argue with partners, the norm is that we go through hicups easily ... did u use to deny him from intimacy because of arguments ? We had a great life. We loved each other a lot and we were never unkind or hurtful in any way. We had an intimate relationship but that went through ups and downs particularly with pregnancies etc. We hardly ever argued until this last year when ha has seemed distant and detached quite a bit from us all but has still only ever shown us care (although it may have been out of a sense of duty I don't know). Since the birth of our last child we haven't been as intimate as we would have liked as I had a very bad child birth then he had a vasectomy. Up until two weeks before he left he was still saying he would alwAys love me although he now says he just didn't want to hurt my feelings. I am just so confused 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Crazylady1981 Posted August 2, 2016 Author Share Posted August 2, 2016 the way it looks is that now he wants to be with any female who can give him affection . but one thing attracts me , his love to his children , saying that he will take them ! can you please elaborate more about your role towards kids ? why would he propose to take them if he is a selfish guy ? I don't know what you mean? He hasn't said he will take them? He has always been a great dad (up until walking out on his family instead of working on our problems) Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulinside2 Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 1. Tell the cheating partners husband and show her husband the emails he deserves to know before they end up in a situation like yours years later. 2. Take him up on his offer to accept everything draw up the separation papers and get them signed ASAP, before the guilt wears off and the new girl start giving him ideas to change his mind. 3. Then, Create some type of emergency parent sick, you are sick and ask him to keep the kids at his new place for a week. Take some time to relax and regroup while allowing him to see what life will be like raising three children alone. If he does come around you don't have to go through with divorce 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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