Am i on the road to an affair...? In love with a married co-worker....

[Scandipanda]

Possible reasons why he said he does not want an affair:

 

His wife finally gave him head/anal/a ball massage and your services are no longer required

He found porn

He found God

He grew a conscience

He almost got caught and grew a conscience

He almost got caught and got scared

He got caught and grew a conscience

He got caught and his wife forced him to write you an NC note

He found a hooker to take your place for NSA sex

He ditched you because you want a relationship

He is a member of the witness relocation program and found out you're a second cousin to the mafia member he's being protected from and can't risk his safety

 

None of that matters though. What matters now is that you build a wall of safety around yourself so that when and if he feels comfortable enough to come crawling back you have the fortitude and strength of character and (most importantly) the self-worth to be the one who says, "I can't talk to you because I'm afraid we are going to have an affair and I am not interested in tearing apart your family or being used as a band aid for your alleged marital woes. Lose my number until and unless you're single and have enough respect for me to not expect that I waive my personal integrity for your selfish benefit. Go home."

 

Lobe. This is genius. I need to have this tatooed on my face.

[elaine567]

So here is my question.

 

You were on the edge of cheating because your feeling grew for this co-worker.

 

So do you love and respect your husband more or when another charming guy comes by are you going to cheat?

 

Shruti is a single woman.

 

I am a single woman in my early 30's..

[freengreen]

Weekends are for families.

I dont know why i chuckled, but i did. I think i am starting to feel stupid on been OW.

 

How I learned a lesson. How I will NEVER eff it up again. Slap on the face with a chair it was.

Edited November 11, 2016 by freengreen

[freengreen]

Shruti,

 

I know your pain. I know how EA is. I know how it hurts when they just leave and comeback and leave. It hurts to see our soul getting hollowed. At first it feels " why didnt we meet sooner"... then it becomes " why did we have to meet at all"...

 

We have no idea if what they do is genuine or its a play( your case was total play). We dont need to validate. Any reasonable relationship wont suck soul out of you. If it does, its not worth.

 

I have a long way to go over my EA, but I am ready for the journey now.

Edited November 11, 2016 by freengreen

[Robert]

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Thanks,

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