Completely lost

[Tgibb]

Me and my ex(I hate calling him ex because it has a negative stigma) but we broke up almost two weeks ago. We were perfect together, except for I have troublesome mood swings. It was making him unhappy. I found out I am bipolar, only mildly, it's not bad at all. But now that I know I am, it's much much easier to control my mood swings. The problem is, I love him to death. I'm actual supportive of us breaking up because it helped me discover my problems. I'm heart broken because I hurt him. He loved me to death. But the problem is, he doesn't want to talk to me for awhile. He wants to get over me. Im so lost because our issues could have been solved. We were really good together and he loved me a lot. I have no idea what to do. I've been giving him space and not talking to him. I don't want him to forget about me, I don't want him to get over me. Because our issues were so minor and fixable. We really did have a future together but my actions made him think other wise. He's the love of my life. He was my best friend and my soulmate. How do I get him back, I know it can be months, I am very willing to wait. I asked to talk to him in person a few days ago and he immediately complied and we went out to dinner and it was all smiles and stuff, I apologized for me making him sad. We both cried a little. He held me for a few minutes and then I could tell he thought to himself for a bit. He told me he misses me also. But then all of assuden he said he thought it was a mistake seeing other because it was just going to make it harder for the both of us and then he quickly left. He loves me a lot, I know he does, I wish there was a way to let him know we could work things out in the future. I don't want to deceive him or convince him of something he doesn't want to do. I feel like the only advice people in his life have been giving him is to just forget about me. I don't know. Please, any advice, I need it. Thank you for reading. I appreciate it.

[bummer]

Me and my ex(I hate calling him ex because it has a negative stigma) but we broke up almost two weeks ago. We were perfect together, except for I have troublesome mood swings. It was making him unhappy. I found out I am bipolar, only mildly, it's not bad at all. But now that I know I am, it's much much easier to control my mood swings. The problem is, I love him to death. I'm actual supportive of us breaking up because it helped me discover my problems. I'm heart broken because I hurt him. He loved me to death. But the problem is, he doesn't want to talk to me for awhile. He wants to get over me. Im so lost because our issues could have been solved. We were really good together and he loved me a lot. I have no idea what to do. I've been giving him space and not talking to him. I don't want him to forget about me, I don't want him to get over me. Because our issues were so minor and fixable. We really did have a future together but my actions made him think other wise. He's the love of my life. He was my best friend and my soulmate. How do I get him back, I know it can be months, I am very willing to wait. I asked to talk to him in person a few days ago and he immediately complied and we went out to dinner and it was all smiles and stuff, I apologized for me making him sad. We both cried a little. He held me for a few minutes and then I could tell he thought to himself for a bit. He told me he misses me also. But then all of assuden he said he thought it was a mistake seeing other because it was just going to make it harder for the both of us and then he quickly left. He loves me a lot, I know he does, I wish there was a way to let him know we could work things out in the future. I don't want to deceive him or convince him of something he doesn't want to do. I feel like the only advice people in his life have been giving him is to just forget about me. I don't know. Please, any advice, I need it. Thank you for reading. I appreciate it.

 

 

How old are you two?

 

Just know when someone says, "we were perfect, except for the incompatible emotional imbalance" it reads like, "I wasn't ready to be in a committed, respectful relationship, but my co-dependence demands he give me a second chance."

 

I know it hurts, but you will continue your self-discovery to work on issues by yourself. He may have been all those amazing things, but his resentment hit a critical level over the course of the last few months or longer and he has left the relationship. Your post-breakup meeting? He wanted to be nice because he cares about you. He immediately realized he was leading you on and left soon after.

 

See what's bold above. Reflect on what you wrote and think about each sentence. Which are true and factual? Which are emotional opinion? What did he say and do? What were his actions most recently?

 

I'm very sorry for your pain. Please keep talking to us and lean on your friends and family for support and advice.

[Satu]

Sorry that you're hurting.

 

To feel better you have to work with the reality in front of you.

 

The reality is that for whatever reasons of his own, he doesn't want to be with you, and you are now a single woman.

 

Adapt to that reality, and make your life as a single person as satisfying as possible.

 

Don't sit and gaze into the hole where your boyfriend used to be.

 

Spend time with the other people in your life. Nurture those relationships.

 

Spend time doing things that you enjoy.

 

*Look after your health.*

 

You might end up back together, but don't bet your happiness on that possibility.

 

 

Take care.

[Tgibb]

How old are you two?

 

Just know when someone says, "we were perfect, except for the incompatible emotional imbalance" it reads like, "I wasn't ready to be in a committed, respectful relationship, but my co-dependence demands he give me a second chance."

 

I know it hurts, but you will continue your self-discovery to work on issues by yourself. He may have been all those amazing things, but his resentment hit a critical level over the course of the last few months or longer and he has left the relationship. Your post-breakup meeting? He wanted to be nice because he cares about you. He immediately realized he was leading you on and left soon after.

 

See what's bold above. Reflect on what you wrote and think about each sentence. Which are true and factual? Which are emotional opinion? What did he say and do? What were his actions most recently?

 

I'm very sorry for your pain. Please keep talking to us and lean on your friends and family for support and advice.

 

We're both 18