time to grieve....not given the opportunity...

[BettyDraper]

I'm sorry you feel this way. Obviously someone hurt you in the past and you are using your own experience as a yard-stick by which to measure all women.

But your assessment is wildly off the mark, inaccurate and relatively callous.

For millennia, those in receipt of Romantic Gestures have traditionally been women. It is we who have been the focus of attention, while wildly romantic men have devised and created wonderful ways with which to capture our hearts and win our devotion, for ever. Why? because by and large, women love to be loved. They adhere to the 'don't tell me, show me!" ideology of demonstrable affection. They yearn for the Grand Gesture... so when a man has skilfully won a lady's heart, and captured it and claimed it as his own, why would you suppose that women would be any less damaged, hurt, injured and pained than a man would?

I will say this: Women bleed just as hard, fast and copiously as men do.

But on the whole, our recovery is better because we don't generally wallow, feel sorry for ourselves or bear and harbour irrational and negative thoughts about the other gender.

As with all generalisations, there are naturally exceptions.

 

This. My experience is that men are less likely to become emotionally attached to one woman.

 

Men are able to compartmentalize their feelings with far more ease than women so they move on quickly.

[DKT3]

This. My experience is that men are less likely to become emotionally attached to one woman.

 

Men are able to compartmentalize their feelings with far more ease than women so they move on quickly.

 

Men have been socially conditioned to suppress emotions since days in diapers. However those emotions are still there and still have to be dealt with.

 

As far as being able to move on and forget for men, I don't know. It's was hard for me. I did the usual man move and tried to find therapy in other women, failed horribly. Worked for an hour then there was additional stress and unease.

 

I think the only major differences is women grieve openly while men internalize. Again socially conditioned, how I even really liked her, f her. Playing the she didn't hurt me role.