DKT3 Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Kudos for you for marrying your ex. It is very difficult to rebuild after an affair. Have you forgiven her? That is the big issue here. My H worries one day I will up and leave him for xMM. I guess you got past that worry. I think it could be due to him making a choice in picking you over ow, while you still seem to waffle. He doesn't feel safe with you and in time he will break, either re connection with ow, a new other woman or just saying fk it I'm out. My wife had those same feelings if uncomfort with the girlfriend, she feels that because I ended the relationship the way i did she will always hold hope that we will be together again, she feels that she is not my best option....while your showing your husband you don't think he is your best option. Of course he feels like plan B, and your waiting around for a **** at plan A. The question is what do YOU do to change it? Link to post Share on other sites
MidnightBlue1980 Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 I think it could be due to him making a choice in picking you over ow, while you still seem to waffle. He doesn't feel safe with you and in time he will break, either re connection with ow, a new other woman or just saying fk it I'm out. My wife had those same feelings if uncomfort with the girlfriend, she feels that because I ended the relationship the way i did she will always hold hope that we will be together again, she feels that she is not my best option....while your showing your husband you don't think he is your best option. Of course he feels like plan B, and your waiting around for a **** at plan A. The question is what do YOU do to change it? My H did not handle the whole thing well on his end. He got all emotionally involved and then crushed. So I do not think he'd go down that road again, I think he'd just up and fk it, I'm out. I can't change the past. All I can do it not contact xMM - which I have been good at - I did not reply to his email on his vacation - and just move on, leave xMM behind. Appreciate what I have here I suppose, make my H feel safe. Before I am left with nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
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