silko Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 Hello One month ago, my girlfriend break up. Well then it was doubting. We stayed on speaking terms, actually a lot. 1 constant, the moment I keep quite for 2 days ... contact from her side. 2 weeks ago, we got a weekend together, to talk, watching each-other ..., talk, talk. On friday, but when we retake, it will be the same? On Sunday, a very nice time ... she was flirting, sitting suddenly against me ... We are 2 weeks later now ... I've everything said. I keep quite again ... 2 days later ... she apps again. The content of the apps are completely clueless now ... but she continues. When I ask her how was her last weekend, she answers superficial: ooh nice. She doesnt ask how I'm going/doing. When answering on a clueless app and adding some personal info I'm doing ... she ignores and tells other clueless things. I'm even not asking for her apps. No idea how to interpret this. No idea what she's doing acting like this. The raisons she had to break up are even not complicated. She never complained at the moment itself. She never talked to me this or that. She cumulated, and oh yes, she talked about with a good friend. Not with the subject itself, me or us. Any experience in this, pattern recognition ... ? Thx a lot! Silko Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 4, 2016 Share Posted August 4, 2016 Hello One month ago, my girlfriend break up. Well then it was doubting. We stayed on speaking terms, actually a lot. 1 constant, the moment I keep quite for 2 days ... contact from her side. 2 weeks ago, we got a weekend together, to talk, watching each-other ..., talk, talk. On friday, but when we retake, it will be the same? On Sunday, a very nice time ... she was flirting, sitting suddenly against me ... We are 2 weeks later now ... I've everything said. I keep quite again ... 2 days later ... she apps again. The content of the apps are completely clueless now ... but she continues. When I ask her how was her last weekend, she answers superficial: ooh nice. She doesnt ask how I'm going/doing. When answering on a clueless app and adding some personal info I'm doing ... she ignores and tells other clueless things. I'm even not asking for her apps. No idea how to interpret this. No idea what she's doing acting like this. The raisons she had to break up are even not complicated. She never complained at the moment itself. She never talked to me this or that. She cumulated, and oh yes, she talked about with a good friend. Not with the subject itself, me or us. Any experience in this, pattern recognition ... ? Thx a lot! Silko She's giving you breadcrumbs as some kind of ego boost and toying with you, basically, a string along break up. She's probably seeing other guys, keeping you in the wings in case they don't work out. Block her, delete her number and keep moving. Don't reach out to her and don't respond if she finds some way to contact you. She doesn't exist anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author silko Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) and keep moving. I know I need to move on ... even 1 day she will try to get closer again (quite sure that day will come), because: I need to move on anyway .. because on break-up suddenly she complained on issues of months ago she never discussed, so I can't know. Way too late to use this as a 'fair' break-up reason. I need to move on anyway ... because she feels bad with herself when she is alone (we got Long Dist relationship) she told me ... and so I was there to make her feel good with herself. She told she lost lots of friends ... just before the break-up ... she told me she wanted to organise a party .. no one was interested ... she joined then another party ... people hardly looked at her ... she complained often about her close friends, she was whining this friend or that is sometimes unsupportable, taking her energy ... I heard this often. ... she has personal issues to resolve ... I think. I need to move on anyway ... because I joked sometimes she is a spoiled student (she can do what she want, exotic internship, travelling, ...) ... but actually she started to take this serious. I need to move on anyway ... because she criticizes easily others and feels better than others sometimes. I need to move on anyway ... because I was too blind, too dupable, I gave the relationship too much credit ... I need to move on anyway ... because her superficial apps now ... because afraid superficial over the entire line ... and this hurts actually the most, to face reality, to see we are not for each-other, but we gave it a try and we made very nice trips around the globe. We had very nice conversations, we had same insights on values in life ... but we never had insights on our relationship. I trusted, but I think more and more she was not really in it. She never said 'I love you' what she was complaining herself about me upon break-up (I dont need so much words, acts means much more to me). I start to think more and more, after 1 month self-reflection and assuming my part in the relationship and promising I want to work on myself, I'm ok and I did fair well my part, even with my mistakes ... or the 'mistake' to stay a bit at a distance with her during relationship ... because it was a feeling, because all this. Take care all, those who are dealing with break-up ... because even if you are turned down ... actually you have often enough reasons too to end the relationship. But 1 of the 2 is just quicker with moving on. Respect yourself ... move on. xx Of course I hope she going well, but she has super strange behaviours last months. Never saw her like this. Edited August 5, 2016 by silko Link to post Share on other sites
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