NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) So I've been chatting with some woman I find really attractive & we've been texting a lot throughout the day for the past few days now. But after she asked if I've ever had sex I said no, than a little after she sent me sexy photos of herself after being in a sexy mood tonight. She sent them on an email she said she never uses or on one she just created since she uses another one. What does it mean though exactly? I was thinking at this point she might be using me for attention but she didn't act sexual at all with me past few days we've been talking just tonight she did when she was in a sexual mood. Edited August 5, 2016 by NJ123 Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Just guessing here but she fancies you and wants to take things further. However, if you feel she crosses a line then tell her. Just because you're a guy doesn't mean you have to act a certain way. If this story was reversed then it would be seen as very forward and possibly scary for a girl to receive sexy photos from a guy she hardly knows. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 It means she wants to be your virgin goddess she sent you that pic right after you told her...... she wants to make herself the memorable one she wants your v card dude. You could possibly have a fling with this woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bialy Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 If you don't know her (in other words, you've never met her in real life and you're just texting) --- she could be crazy. With a capital K. My other thought is that you're not the first dude she has sent those photos to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Scammer. A sex worker disguising herself as a legitimate OLDater. Someone who is VERY open about her sexuality... I have had nude pics from some very intelligent women, professionals. Met them, but relationships didn't blossom b/c of more ordinary reasons. Some people are just more risque, but would definitely be cautious. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 I'm with simplenNfit, she seemed to be prompted by your confession that you were still a virgin. I mean, who the hell asks such a question of someone you've just met and barely know? Red flag #1 Then to send pics from some shifty email account she 'never uses' is a load of bullsh*t. She's likely stealing those images from some other source and emailing them rather than texting them. Red flag #2 OP, where did you meet her? Do her sexy pics include her face or just her body? My advice? Abort. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
biker23 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 My other thought is that you're not the first dude she has sent those photos to. This was my first thought. Sorta like sex on the first date. Wow she never does this and I must be the first time. Uh. No. I'd be careful but just go with it. The email description sounds suspicious and a scammer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 This was my first thought. Sorta like sex on the first date. Wow she never does this and I must be the first time. Uh. No. I'd be careful but just go with it. The email description sounds suspicious and a scammer. No, she's not a scammer. I have her contact info. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 This was my first thought. Sorta like sex on the first date. Wow she never does this and I must be the first time. Uh. No. I'd be careful but just go with it. The email description sounds suspicious and a scammer. My friends and I used to joke around about how girls would say "I've never done this before" when sleeping with us right away. Our response was always the same "I'm not that special". Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Maybe the answer is simple. She's a spontaneous girl and wanted to surprise you. She likes you, and expect you to take it to the next level, and also likes thrills in communication. I think it's nice and positive, because by that she's messaging you: "enough talking why don't you ask to meet me?" Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 No, she's not a scammer. I have her contact info. Means nothing. Scammers have evolved leaps and bounds over the years. They've become very crafty and creative about how they play the game especially since people have grown very suspicious. Not all scammers are the same or look the same. They aren't all Nigerian money laundering scams. Sometimes they're just the girl next door looking to play you for a fool. Tell us how you met, where you met, what kinds of pics did she send you, anything with her face in them, etc.? Have you met her or skyped with her? If not, have you dropped her images into Google reverse image search engines? And IF she really is who she is and is 'innocent' then I would have to agree that anyone who says they've never done it before while tossing suggestive pics without invitation has a history of doing so. You're not that special after all. Nothing wrong with that but why lie about it? Is that the kind of person you want to be with? I see red flags and bright orange caution cones all around this chick. Tread carefully. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DramaInPajamas Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 My friends and I used to joke around about how girls would say "I've never done this before" when sleeping with us right away. Our response was always the same "I'm not that special". I have only actually done that once. Slept with someone i just met. All the others id been on a few dates with. So i spoke the truth when I said it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Yep, sex worker. Wants money. Link to post Share on other sites
Sunkissedpatio Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Catfish, crazy person, horny girl who has no intention of meeting you just exchanging naked pics, horny girl using fake pics to get real pics from you, horny guy using fake pics to get real pics from you, sex worker. I mean no person who is mentally balanced is going to be offering naked pics of themselves to strangers online so whatever it is it can't be good so enjoy it for what it is an not more. You started chatting with her with what intent and how/where did you meet? Is she same age as you, older...? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 What kind of sexy photos exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) Means nothing. Scammers have evolved leaps and bounds over the years. They've become very crafty and creative about how they play the game especially since people have grown very suspicious. Not all scammers are the same or look the same. They aren't all Nigerian money laundering scams. Sometimes they're just the girl next door looking to play you for a fool. Tell us how you met, where you met, what kinds of pics did she send you, anything with her face in them, etc.? Have you met her or skyped with her? If not, have you dropped her images into Google reverse image search engines? And IF she really is who she is and is 'innocent' then I would have to agree that anyone who says they've never done it before while tossing suggestive pics without invitation has a history of doing so. You're not that special after all. Nothing wrong with that but why lie about it? Is that the kind of person you want to be with? I see red flags and bright orange caution cones all around this chick. Tread carefully. I checked her facebook & it checks out. She's a real person & not some scammer. Just I'm confused about her at the moment. We chatted for the past 2 & a half days & not once did the convo get sexual until last night it did out of nowhere. They weren't full nude photos but more risque type of photos. I do wonder if she has sent them to others which she probably has in the past maybe. I was thinking maybe I should let her initiate contact though to see if she messages me since the last few times it was me that initiated but she always responds to me fairly quick unless she's real busy at work. And we met on Tinder & the pics she sent last night are all with her face. And she sent them on another email because she didnt want to use her work email that she normally uses. She has sent me pics in the past on her work email & those were just regular pics, not anything sexual. She's not a sex worker I'm 100% positive on that. Edited August 5, 2016 by NJ123 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 They weren't full nude photos but more risque type of photos. So openly sexual? I'll let others worry about the scam w/e angle and just assume she's legit ....my guess is she's intrigued by your virginity and being a 'blank canvass' and would bscly like you to j/o to her photos so she can imprint on you in a way that would be satisfying to her ego. That's not necessarily a bad thing either. Can I ask how old you both are? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 So openly sexual? I'll let others worry about the scam w/e angle and just assume she's legit ....my guess is she's intrigued by your virginity and being a 'blank canvass' and would bscly like you to j/o to her photos so she can imprint on you in a way that would be satisfying to her ego. That's not necessarily a bad thing either. Can I ask how old you both are? I was thinking that too but I don't get why she would talk to me throughout the day for like 2 days straight with nothing sexual at all. Than just get sexual with me out of nowhere at night. Link to post Share on other sites
jazzyhands89 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 I'd say she's not mentally balanced but it's up to you whether or not you pursue most guys will do anything to get some tail and will ignore the signs Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 I was thinking that too but I don't get why she would talk to me throughout the day for like 2 days straight with nothing sexual at all. Than just get sexual with me out of nowhere at night. Is she shy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 Is she shy? No, not at all as far as I know. I'm just confused right now. This woman has a great job & is really smart & always replies even while she was busy at work. I haven't texted her today at all yet, do you think I should wait to text her to see if she texts me first since the last few times it was me that initiated the texting? As I said, I'm really confused on what the deal is. I don't think she'd just be seeking attention from me if she's giving me so much of her time & responds a lot of the time with lengthy messages. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 It could be ANY of the things that commenters have said so far. The only way to find out is to continue to talk to her and learn more about her. Just go slowly and take things one step at a time. Don't give her $$. If you have sex, wear a condom. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 No, not at all as far as I know. I'm just confused right now. This woman has a great job & is really smart & always replies even while she was busy at work. I haven't texted her today at all yet, do you think I should wait to text her to see if she texts me first since the last few times it was me that initiated the texting? As I said, I'm really confused on what the deal is. I don't think she'd just be seeking attention from me if she's giving me so much of her time & responds a lot of the time with lengthy messages. No, if she is happily responding and talking to you, no reason to back off. Backing off is only necessary if you are the one doing all the talking and are obviously the one who is more interested. If she is interested and you are interested, keep going! Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 No, not at all as far as I know. I'm just confused right now. This woman has a great job & is really smart & always replies even while she was busy at work. I haven't texted her today at all yet, do you think I should wait to text her to see if she texts me first since the last few times it was me that initiated the texting? As I said, I'm really confused on what the deal is. I don't think she'd just be seeking attention from me if she's giving me so much of her time & responds a lot of the time with lengthy messages. First if all just relax. If we're going on the assumption that she's not a catfish, then nothing here is a real danger! sign. I'd def text back asap bc she's prob freaking out thinking you're either horribly offended or you don't find her sexy (and she went out on a limb for you), or both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Share Posted August 5, 2016 First if all just relax. If we're going on the assumption that she's not a catfish, then nothing here is a real danger! sign. I'd def text back asap bc she's prob freaking out thinking you're either horribly offended or you don't find her sexy (and she went out on a limb for you), or both. No, this was last night she sent the photos. And I responded to her about them in a positive way of course. Link to post Share on other sites
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