Wife possibly cheating? Don't know what to do.

[cranium]

The GPS tracked her not to the location of the activity. But showed her leaving our home and going straight to her personal trainer's home.

 

My heart sank when I read this. I can't really add anything to what has already been posted. Can only offer support and understanding. My d-day was in Oct 2004.

 

Make sure to take care of yourself and your children; go to the gym for you, eat well. Keep posting; this is an excellent outlet.

 

Peace.

[NiceGuyMojo]

Obviously! She sent the e-mail because she thought that I was probably tracking her. It was a trap to see if I was tracking her and it worked, is what she said. She said that she went to his house because she had to return some CDs that were from the gym. Well, it appeared to me that she was lying BIG time. We had a huge fight and I ended up apologizing for tracking her and tried to make things more calm and better between us after that.

 

Don't apologize for tracking or spying on her.. It's your RIGHT as a Spouse. The GPS idea works great. Also on the market are small GPS Recorders with mapping software for as little as $300. Records up to 30 days of location, date, time, mileage, speed ETC on 4 AA batteries about the size of a large hand. It's motion activated to conserve power and installs in seconds. Stop by WalMart and pick yourself up a Sony Digital Voice Recorder W/VOX (sound activated) for about $45. Comes in handy when you want to make voice notes.

 

Motorola just came out with the new enhanced GPS Cell Phones. Works indoors too in conjunction with other cell phones giving an exact location wthin 100 feet in REAL TIME from any computer or telephone. The best part is the tracking service and down loadable software is free with normal cell phone service. The phone is being marketed to Parents with Teenagers who want to keep tabs on their kids. I have read where some people have placed the phone in a car with the ringer on mute and call up the phone to listen.

 

The other day I called my Wife at work and she answered cell phone while sitting on the toilet. Asked her if she was going to the bathroom? Wow... did she every freak out! (just a wild guess) Yea... she got a new cell phone because "The Dog" chewed up her old one. Imagine that? (he-hee)

 

The bottom line is YOU need to know what's going on behind your back and technology can be your best resource. BUT HERE IS THE RULE, NEVER divulge ANY information you obtain by these means. Think of this as a fact finding mission by never opening your mouth. FYIO... For your information Only. Even when you know flat out she is telling you a lie to your face! (I know this is hard) Document all the details and keep this hidden. What happens when you confront with known facts is your Spouse gets better at covering up the affair with excuses (lies) having only have a few pieces of the puzzle.

 

Going through a similar situation myself and have made lots of mistakes. She is not tech savvy so thats my Ace for now.

[sadhubby]

oh sorry buddy you bring back my own memorys of my denial..its not my condom package in the back of the car it was my freinds..is what i was told and at that time i almost beleived it.when your in that frame of mind i think well beleive anything just to ignore the truth.dont worry it does get better.1 yr later im still hurtin.she got mad when she read these post cuz the truth hurts.my wife would tell me the old it hurts my feelings when you acuse me of sleeping around i would never do that,line to turn the guilt onto me thats what they do turn there guilt onto you.

they know they are wrong so they focus all that energy into your fualts.its a twisted game ive experianced twice in my life 1st was girlfreind second time was my wife.i was in such denial and she was so good with the excuses.the only thing you can do is catch her in the act and it will all end. good luck my freind..