Author He1senberg Posted October 11, 2017 Author Share Posted October 11, 2017 Somehow that message threw me off balance. I had dreams about her. I don't remember the details, but those were not very pleasant dreams. I guess what happened leaved a big void inside of me, and I'm not sure if and when I'll be able to fill it. My fear is that it'll just stay there for good. Sometimes I have this feeling that I died a year ago and now I'm in Purgatory. Just had to write it somewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
heretoh3lp Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Here's the thing: sometimes people are better for other people. Does that sound stupid? Probably. I am that type of person on this website who will not sugarcoat things, so lets start with some honesty. You appreciate her now, because she is with another man. You miss her so much now, because she is happy with someone else. How do I know this? Because you were me, my friend. I was with a guy for a while and then things didn't work out and then all of a sudden he was my world again because he got a new girlfriend. Am I saying you only care because she's with someone else? No. I'm saying you care way more than you would because she is with someone else. You are feeling rejected, neglected, and insecure. Why is he better than me? Why does she love him more? Going back to my original statement: maybe he is just better for her. Maybe they get along better. Maybe they just click better. You never know. Stop criticizing him as a person. Don't try to overthink his old drinking problem. If anything, that is validation that maybe she is better for him and he is better for her. There's good news and I am not mean, there is a method to this horribly honest entry. She found someone better for her. It doesn't mean that you are not a better person, or even a great wonderful person. It also means that you will find someone you connect with on the same level, and probably will find someone you connect with on an even greater level. Just because you think she is the one, doesn't mean that she is. Link to post Share on other sites
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