neuroscience Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 I've had two ex boyfriends (the first ex is my current boyfriend). They were both very shy and on both times we started on totally wrong footings. So don't just give up. My current guy is... imagine a milder version of Sheldon Cooper from the Big Bang Theory. Same wiring, but not as obnoxious. Yeah. Totally boyfriend material. We took the same physics class when I was sixteen, and we came from similar backgrounds. We'd totally hit it off, right? Nope. We hated each other. I was a neurotic A student and he was a laid back genius. I thought he was lazy and he thought I was nuts. We eventually became friends, then really good friends. I have to admit that I didn't really see him as a "guy" - just a friend - until he started asking me out. Oh, nothing so ostentatious, being the shy boy that he was, so they were simple stuff like movies or going to the bookshop. And I'm fairly oblivious to these things, so I kind of missed all the signs, until he got frustrated and loudly informed me that if I was stringing him along, I should quit it. Which was when I realised that he was asking me out. My second ex I met online. When I first met him I thought he was a girl. We became friends, and eventually he started mentioning me to his family, and when pressed for information, he said that I was his girlfriend. And I said I was okay with it. So from that day his girlfriend I was. I understand that you're not comfortable chatting up girls. And that's fine! Maybe you have other interests. Maybe there aren't any girls right now that fit you. But if you have female friends, eventually there'll be a chance for you to become something more intimate with that one girl. (I, for one, have met A LOT more guys like me in grad school... bookwormish, not that social, but can talk for HOURS about one topic. University... not so much.) Take your time, and select well. Remember, it's not WHEN you did what, it's WHOM you did it with. Find the right match, and you won't need to go through so many 'trial runs'. Many people are proud of their number of sexual experiences and exes, but in other words, that's just the number of failures that they might have gone through. (I failed 2... giving another shot with 1.) But always be on a watch-out, who knows when that girl will pop up in your life. It might not be as romantic as a cafe on a rainy day, but it might be some girl you meet at work, or in class, or it might be just a girl you share an activity with. You don't want to make a bad first impression, so don't slack off! Link to post Share on other sites
Kics Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 I am a virgin 25 female. I always wanted to wait till I fell in love so I wouldn't worry about it too much. There is a lot of religious people that also wait till marriage. Focus on youself and try to be the best version of youself. Practice talking to girls as if they were your friends and always try toto really listen to people and what they are really saying . Just remember that the world is huge and your problem isn't as bad as not having enough food to eat. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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