Sweetfish Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Im going thru this phase now and i sometimes find it hard at times. One day i would be doing fine and the next im back to thinking. If you read my last post suppose me and the ex are "friends". For me once i know there isn't a chance of getting back i am gone. This time around i find myself doing circles. Every time i tell her its best for us to both move and i need to find my way. She always text me back asking "can we atleast be friends? you was my best friend for the last 3 years." I know for a fact i have NO chance of anything with her. She tells me "there is no garauntee we are getting back together". In my mind thats just her saying we are done in a nicer way. Since that is the case she still wants to remain "friends". Ofcourse we still had sex 3 weeks ago but its so confusing me. We don't even talk on a day to day basis anymore. She atleast wants to be friends and ofcourse still have sex at times. Im not sure anymore im just confusing myself. How does everyone deal when you are in a state of confusion like this? NO CONTACT! Please read smokey bears post on gigs. Do not contact... disappear. Do not exist to her. If that love is worth it... she will fight to resolve it. I don't see a fight here... I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Late Nights Posted November 15, 2016 Author Share Posted November 15, 2016 NO CONTACT! Please read smokey bears post on gigs. Do not contact... disappear. Do not exist to her. If that love is worth it... she will fight to resolve it. I don't see a fight here... I'm sorry. I understand. We hung out about 4 weeks ago and she told me what she was going thru at her work place. Her problem started about 1 month into our break up at the same time i was pressing her on us and what not. She told me someone at her work place started to spread some rumors about her and the Dr were secretly having sex. I already know her and the Dr isn't like that she already told me when we was together her and the Dr was just a normal work related friends. Around 1 month into our break up the rumor started. Her "friends" that she hung out with were the girls from work. My ex got it made there because she was the top working turning out more patients then the rest of the workers. Anyways the rumor got spread and now ALL of her so-called "friends" have turned their backs on her and now she doesn't have ANY friends at work. I know it had to suck to work in and environment where everyone heard the rumors and to loose those "friends" who she liked at the time so much over a rumor that someone has spread. To add to that rumor of course these friends probably thought that she broke up with me to "get closer" to the Dr. So yeah to have all the so-called friends that you have trusted to one day all turn their back on her. Other then dealing with me she was dealing with a even worser problem at work. As for me not knowing nothing was just adding to that and that was why she was the way she was towards me when i was trying to get back. We are cool now i understand i don't try to press her or talk about certain topics that will make her mad. Now shes just focusing on herself and says that she doesn't need to make friends. She has been feeling kinda emo lately so yeah this is where her mind is at. If i would have known what i knew when we broke up i would have just let her have her time. I guess she finally enjoys being alone and not having to worry about drama. But it sucks because this has changed her a little bit. For me im talking it easy. THe good thing is that she is my date to a wedding this week. I guess that is better then nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
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