Friendly/uncrowded places to meet women

[JustGettingBy]

Okay, a few here know my situation, but for those here's a summary:

 

24 years old male, only been on one date which was a set-up. Main reason is due to being unable to tell when someone is into me (have been told that I was oblivious to about a dozen classmates/co-workers/friends who have had crushes on me, so I'm presumably attractive enough to land a relationship.

 

3 time college graduate with over a year of volunteer experience, one good job interview away from being able to move out and have my life together. Still volunteering to improve my resume and working part-time to be able to save money up.

 

extremely introverted.

 

Basically, what would be a good way for some ways for me to meet women? I'm nervous around strangers and don't like bar/club locations because they're too crowded and the ones near me are in bad areas of town, and I'm constantly worried about getting jumped/mugged in those areas.

[carhill]

Moving out invariably puts you in touch with other people, incidentally. Whether that be looking for a place to live, getting things set up to rent or buy, gathering up the necessities of independent living or just walking the neighborhood.

 

IMO, first order of business is moving out and getting comfortable living independently. You'll likely meet women in friendly or uncrowded places along the way. Don't worry about whether they're attached or not. Be friendly and a bit flirtatious. Then go home and recharge. No rush. One day at a time. Focus on activities rather than 'strangers'. We're all strangers until we're not.

[HillValley]

Depending on where you go, the library is a great place. I've been shocked how many attractive women come in in the afternoons.

 

Only thing is it needs to be near a college area or college housing.

 

During the day is hot moms with their kids.

[Bialy]

Hiking clubs and cycling clubs that meet on the weekends. Join a couple to switch up your usual routine. Become a regular. You never know.

[normal person]

 

extremely introverted.

 

Basically, what would be a good way for some ways for me to meet women? I'm nervous around strangers and don't like bar/club locations because they're too crowded and the ones near me are in bad areas of town, and I'm constantly worried about getting jumped/mugged in those areas.

 

Women love confidence in men amongst most other things. Unless you have some sort of anxiety disorder, there's really not much of a reason for a grown man to be nervous around strangers or crowds, especially since those are represent some of your best opportunities to meet women. Expose yourself to some different situations, progressively challenge yourself more and more, and you'll realize soon that you don't have anything to worry about.

 

The thing is, bars and such really are the best places to meet women. They go there looking to socialize and meet men, and most of the time they're usually drinking and not as inhibited as normal. There's much less "work" and social decoding involved in these sorts of situations. I'm 30 and I can say at least 75% of the women I've had some sort of romantic or sexual interaction with were met at bars. Only a few times in my life have I felt the circumstances were right for me to "pick up" a stranger outside of a social setting like a bar or party. Things rarely seem to go like that, for me at least.

 

You can also try online dating, there are no crowds there and women are on there for the sole purpose of meeting men.

 

Best of luck.

[JustGettingBy]

Moving out invariably puts you in touch with other people, incidentally. Whether that be looking for a place to live, getting things set up to rent or buy, gathering up the necessities of independent living or just walking the neighborhood.

 

IMO, first order of business is moving out and getting comfortable living independently. You'll likely meet women in friendly or uncrowded places along the way. Don't worry about whether they're attached or not. Be friendly and a bit flirtatious. Then go home and recharge. No rush. One day at a time. Focus on activities rather than 'strangers'. We're all strangers until we're not.

 

As I said in the original post, as soon as I've established myself in a 'career' position (currently looking, have both the experience and education, have gotten some interviews) I'll be able to move out, so at that point meeting 'whoever's around' would become a better option. Thanks

 

Depending on where you go, the library is a great place. I've been shocked how many attractive women come in in the afternoons.

 

Only thing is it needs to be near a college area or college housing.

 

During the day is hot moms with their kids.

 

Hmmm...library, never thought of that. Thanks.

 

Hiking clubs and cycling clubs that meet on the weekends. Join a couple to switch up your usual routine. Become a regular. You never know.

 

Once I get my 'career' job, I'll have weekends free (part-time stuff is overloading my weekends now) so this will be an option later, and I'll check locally. Thanks.

 

Women love confidence in men amongst most other things. Unless you have some sort of anxiety disorder, there's really not much of a reason for a grown man to be nervous around strangers or crowds, especially since those are represent some of your best opportunities to meet women. Expose yourself to some different situations, progressively challenge yourself more and more, and you'll realize soon that you don't have anything to worry about.

 

The thing is, bars and such really are the best places to meet women. They go there looking to socialize and meet men, and most of the time they're usually drinking and not as inhibited as normal. There's much less "work" and social decoding involved in these sorts of situations. I'm 30 and I can say at least 75% of the women I've had some sort of romantic or sexual interaction with were met at bars. Only a few times in my life have I felt the circumstances were right for me to "pick up" a stranger outside of a social setting like a bar or party. Things rarely seem to go like that, for me at least.

 

You can also try online dating, there are no crowds there and women are on there for the sole purpose of meeting men.

 

Best of luck.

 

Okay, I'd like to highlight the 'social anxiety' part, as I do have social anxiety, and aspergers, and live in a place where the more popular bars are in bad areas of town.

 

I could give online a shot, though. Thanks.