Osmium13 Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 Guys in these scenarios must be good looking. That they can get away with being "shy". Some people are shy because they lack self-belief and/or confidence in their looks or the sound of their own voice. Girls have the upper hand here, society dictates it's the bloke that should make the first move - and most of them will. Without wishing to turn this into a debate about gender, IMO it's easier being female and shy than it is being male and shy. I think my issues possibly stem from a lot of rejection when I was younger. Teenage girls can be rotten Link to post Share on other sites
Romantic Gentleman Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 Flirt with him a little bit, and see if that opens him up on the opportunity to talk to you. If he is socially awkward, look for signs on what he likes based on what he's wearing, or what he talks about with his buddies! Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted August 27, 2016 Share Posted August 27, 2016 It's one thing to be mildly shy, it's another to be timid. I think at least 25% of adult guys are at least mildly shy from time to time. And yet, most of them do okay on the dating scene. However, a timid adult is far rarer, and cause for concern. Timidity is common in young children, but most of them overcome it once they reach their teens. Timidity in an adult (particularly a man) is almost universally considered to be very unattractive. A timid adult will have difficulty engaging in normal day-to-day life (which for most people includes frequent interactions with others of both sexes), and is not ready for dating and intimacy. If getting to know another person feels like pulling teeth, that's an issue. There's a point where it's just not worth it. As for the guy in the OP...I get the impression that he had a rather sheltered childhood and never really developed the social awareness and skills that's generally expected of adults. He may also lack empathy. However, he probably isn't antisocial. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
randall Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 There's this guy who appears shy and socially awkward who I'm 90% sure is interested me ....every now and then he would say something random and bizarre to me I'm not sure how him saying random and bizarre things is showing interest. I'm also a little perplexed on why this would keep you interested. I don't know if it's normal for shy/quiet guys to not know that in conversation he's supposed to (1) ask questions, and (2) share something about himself. Shy guys certainly know it's normal to ask questions, talk about themselves, and to show interest. Unfortunately they struggle to do any of these things because they are shy. Link to post Share on other sites
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