Angeleyez2583 Posted July 2, 2005 Share Posted July 2, 2005 So my ex and I are friends now, good friends even. (He broke up with me). We talk to eachother at least twice a week on the phone and everything else. We hang out too. Last sunday I went on the boat with him, some of my friends he knows, and his family. His family still loves me and asks about me all the time. So we're all floating around in the water, and I'm talking to my friend about the new BF and the list of guys I have acquired (not bragging about it or anything). My friend later tells me my ex has this sick sad look on his face. He's met the new BF and told me he doesn't think I should be with him. He states that I should wait for awhile to date anyone. He came over this past monday because he works in my town where I am taking summer classes. He needed his CPR class, so he came over. He was flirting with me, and even playingly tried to trip me and crap. He's even stated a couple times how much I've changed and how amazing I look now (i've been tanning and working out everyday)We got food and he even offered to pay. (Being nice prob but not sure). If he still has feelings for me, how could I tell so I can just back off. I mean, I still care about him too, but I am liking him being my good friend (for now). Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 I think it's great that you and your ex are friends just don't cross the line of letting him think he has a chance unless you are ready for what comes next. Talking about your BF and etc. in front of him doesn't seem like a great idea except to mention him in passing--it might be appropriate to spare him the details. People break up sometimes, that's just a fact of life. Allowing your ex to be a small part of your life is good for him and you. It shows both of you that break ups don't have to be ugly or involve NC. For whatever reason, things weren't working out and the two of you split, now you are friends and I think that is quite mature. Sure there'll be feelings that aren't exactly friend feelings but that's normal, to be expected and can be dealt with in his and your growth. You only need to back off if you are leading him to believe he has a chance with you. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted July 3, 2005 Share Posted July 3, 2005 If you aren't interested in him and he broke up with you then tell him straight up.. Don't make him guess or wonder if there is any chance of getting back.. He is the one that made the mistake so let him deal with it. Unless you wanted to get back with him.. I think you should just let him know though so there are no misunderstood emotions going around. Link to post Share on other sites
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