tinkerbell16 Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 (edited) Almost 2 years post divorce from my ex husband. We were together almost 30 years. Now he says he cannot find joy without me and wishes he can take back his mistakes and he loves me. Words I would have died to hear two years ago. Now that his mid life crises has run its course, he wants me back. I am happy on my own. I suffered so much pain when the bomb dropped. Taking care of our kids and. building my life alone. The thought of going back to his miserable, manipulatIve self makes my stomach turn. A visceral reaction. I know he will use our adult kids to try to get me back. He will say I am keeping the family apart. I looked at my phone yesterday and had a text from both my ex husband and my ex boyfriend wanting me back. They both realized they "lost the best thing that ever happened to them". Why can't men realize what they had when they had it? I gave both ample opportunity to save our relationship. I am exhausted and tired of the too little too late games. Sorry for rant. My ex husband wants to meet. He always had control over me. I am terrified I will cave if he uses the kids to try to pursue me. I am afraid I will give in. It is so painful. I don't want to make the same choice I already made 2 years ago. I can't walk away one more time. Why wont they just leave me alone... I just want peace. A fresh start. Edited August 17, 2016 by tinkerbell16 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lonewalker Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 then in my opinion u should tell ur kids about it. Link to post Share on other sites
AT15 Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 I'm happy for you. I am about to file for divorce and I can't wait to get to the place that you're at. I'm 37. I have a young child. My marriage was sexless. I went outside of marriage and started a relationship that ended really badly. I think I'm at the perfect age to just start over. Men always think the grass is greener on the other side. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 Your kids are adults and perfectly capable of contacting you on their own. Why aren't your exes blocked? Why are YOU choosing to keep them in your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkerbell16 Posted August 18, 2016 Author Share Posted August 18, 2016 Your kids are adults and perfectly capable of contacting you on their own. Why aren't your exes blocked? Why are YOU choosing to keep them in your life? I have blocked my ex boyfriend (now). I won't block my ex husband because we still communicate regarding family members who are ill and our kids who are college. Link to post Share on other sites
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