Jesterwoods Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 So I finally reached out to my ex after about 3 and a half months.... Through that time it hasn't been completely no contact but it was always through text we haven't called each other once since we broke up. We have never asked to see each other and there was very little communication with the texts. I asked her if she wanted to catch up over lunch sometime this week ..... 2 days goes by and she texts me "no I work everyday" so I said " you can say no lol... I don't know why your acting so cold towards me" and then she texts back " I actually do have work everyday and have plans on my day off" and "what Do u mean by acting cold " I waited like 4 hours and sent this "I was just messing around sorry I just thought since we weren't going on the trip it would be something nice we could do.... I get it though I was just trying to reach out to an old friend that I honestly miss and would love to catch up with over lunch ... It's totally cool that your not down" an hour goes by and she text me " I'll see if I'm busy next week and get back to you " now why would she say that if she already said no and I told her it was ok that she didn't want to? Link to post Share on other sites
JewelD Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 Better question, why are you being so persistent with someone who has already said 'no'? She said "No, I work everyday". Then you tried to guilt trip her by telling her she was being cold towards you. She hasn't opened the door, you're just standing there banging on it. Seems like she's just trying to be kind and not hurt your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jesterwoods Posted August 18, 2016 Author Share Posted August 18, 2016 Sorry I just love her Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jesterwoods Posted August 18, 2016 Author Share Posted August 18, 2016 I was just trying to keep it light I was just joking around Link to post Share on other sites
JewelD Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 But jokes like that don't translate very well via text. I read it and it sounded like you were dead serious at first and then tried to say you were just joking to avoid conflict. That's possibly how she read it, too. I wouldn't contact her again. If she doesn't get in touch with you soon, you'll know how she feels. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jesterwoods Posted August 18, 2016 Author Share Posted August 18, 2016 Well this second she just text me saying did u still want to go for lunch? What should I do ... Link to post Share on other sites
runup Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 Well it wouldn't make much sense to back out of the thing you offered her in the first place... Just recognize you can't guilt trip her or anything. If you want to treat her as friend, do it as such. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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