MissCongeniality Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 So my husband lost his job and it's been hard. I've been trying to be supportive but it's been a while and he's had no luck finding a new job. The worst part is around the time he lost his job I started thinking about quiting mine I'll be blunt I work as a sex worker a dominatrix to be more accurate and at my job I act like I'm cool and superior and all that but the truth is I'm tired of it. Really I just want to be a wife and mother. I'm tired of using my body this way to make money and I've done it for a while. I haven't really talked to my husband about it because I don't want to make him feel bad but I just want him to find another job so maybe I can quit mine and at the least get a different one. I am just at the point where I need to lose my bad habits. I just feel like I'm stuck. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 I feel for you and your H. I am old with old job skills and in the same boat as your H. Eventually he and you will get new jobs. Though being you are young and I assume make good money and with your current job having flexible hours, can you go to college and in 4 years you can be ready to start a good paying career. Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 I'm sorry that you and your husband are going through this. How long have you and your husband been married? Just some questions so I can understand. You are still involved in prostitution but it is from the Dominatrix side of the street? Is the no way, money wise, that you could try to get a straight job? Give us some more info and we will see what happens advice wise... Try to hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissCongeniality Posted August 18, 2016 Author Share Posted August 18, 2016 I'm sorry that you and your husband are going through this. How long have you and your husband been married? Just some questions so I can understand. You are still involved in prostitution but it is from the Dominatrix side of the street? Is the no way, money wise, that you could try to get a straight job? Give us some more info and we will see what happens advice wise... Try to hang in there. We've been together for about a decade. I have been a prostitute but I'm now a pro Dom. I also sometimes work as a stripper. My husband wasn't always aware of what I did. Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 We've been together for about a decade. I have been a prostitute but I'm now a pro Dom. I also sometimes work as a stripper. My husband wasn't always aware of what I did. OK, Miss Congeniality, I have read your posts, and your husbands, for some time and what strikes, me is that you both do not like to communicate. I would suggest you sit your husband down and talk about leaving your job when he gets back on his feet. You may find it will give him the "Boost" he needs. You know, if you two put together a plan, and work at it, I think both your goals will come about sooner then then you think. I wish both of you the best of luck, and hope your husband lands that great job soon. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
caregiver Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 I don't know what your husband does or his skill set but I have friend who drives trucks. In my area, good dependable drivers will always have a job and the pay is pretty good. Do what understand50 said. Sit down and talk. About your wants and desires and his. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 How long has he been unemployed and what is he doing to look for a new one? Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 A random thought and I hate to sound dramatic, but what would you do to improve your life if your husband walked away, or even died tomorrow? Start on that path .. but ya know with him still around... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ontos Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 A random thought and I hate to sound dramatic, but what would you do to improve your life if your husband walked away, or even died tomorrow? Start on that path .. but ya know with him still around... Great advise applicable to anyone in any situation! I think we lose track of our own identities to a certain extent and don't pursue lofty goals when we tie ourselves to a SO. This makes me step back and think. BTW - I guess I'm just naive - but what is the OP's job? She used to be a prostitute, but now she ties people up or dominates them, but doesn't engage in sex? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissCongeniality Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 Great advise applicable to anyone in any situation! I think we lose track of our own identities to a certain extent and don't pursue lofty goals when we tie ourselves to a SO. This makes me step back and think. BTW - I guess I'm just naive - but what is the OP's job? She used to be a prostitute, but now she ties people up or dominates them, but doesn't engage in sex? I am a professional dominatrix and no I do not have sex with clients. Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 I am a professional dominatrix and no I do not have sex with clients. And, what or why is this an issue for us? Miss Congeniality, is asking for help on trying to communicate with her husband, who is aware of her past and what she does now. My own thought, Miss C, is to just sit down an talk and see where it leads. From what I read from both of you, you love and care for each other, I am sure that the both of you can come up with a plan to move forward. You both are stronger then you realize. Think long term, and then take action. As always I wish you luck..... Link to post Share on other sites
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