Bf broke it off over an STD

[Jazzzy92]

I recently got back together with my ex after being broken up for almost a year. We were both dating other people between that time but it didnt work out & he recently came back telling me how much he missed me & how he wanted to get back together. Long story short I had made an appointment to get myself checked out before my ex was back in the picture just because I knew I didn't use protection with the other guy I had met & my ex & I have never used protection but by the time I had my appointment I was already being intimate with my ex again. I ended up finding out I had chlamydia (luckily its curable) I was really disappointed but I knew I couldnt point any fingers. I ended up texting my ex & telling him about it & letting him know it was curable & that I was willing to continue the relationship but he blamed it all on me.

 

Before you start assuming that I "sleep around" no thats not what happened, I was dating the other guy for 7 months & my ex for 2 years. I only slept with the guy I talked to for 7 months once & it didnt last very long. And my ex & I never brought up the fact that we were dating other people.

 

Its been 3 months since the break up & I still wish things wouldve turned out differently. What do ya'll think about the situation? I often think about hitting him up but I figure whats the point if he reacted like a douchebag.

[ChickiePops]

I don't quite understand why you think it's not your fault. You took a risk and chose not to use protection. You gambled and you lost. You also chose not to get tested before you started sleeping with your ex again.

 

Make better choices and this won't happen again.

[LD1990]

I often think about hitting him up but I figure whats the point if he reacted like a douchebag.

 

Was he supposed to thank you for giving him chlamydia? You gave him an STD, it's completely your fault, of course he's going to blame you.

[Toodaloo]

I had a chap give me an STD. He insisted it wasn't him. After normal "relations" resumed he gave it to me again. So I slipped meds into his tea...

 

I think this reflects on him not you. If he can be so stupid to act this way then its on him not you.

 

Let him go and hold your head up.

[Miss Clavel]

I recently got back together with my ex after being broken up for almost a year. We were both dating other people between that time but it didnt work out & he recently came back telling me how much he missed me & how he wanted to get back together. Long story short I had made an appointment to get myself checked out before my ex was back in the picture just because I knew I didn't use protection with the other guy I had met & my ex & I have never used protection but by the time I had my appointment I was already being intimate with my ex again. I ended up finding out I had chlamydia (luckily its curable) I was really disappointed but I knew I couldnt point any fingers. I ended up texting my ex & telling him about it & letting him know it was curable & that I was willing to continue the relationship but he blamed it all on me.

 

Before you start assuming that I "sleep around" no thats not what happened, I was dating the other guy for 7 months & my ex for 2 years. I only slept with the guy I talked to for 7 months once & it didnt last very long. And my ex & I never brought up the fact that we were dating other people.

 

Its been 3 months since the break up & I still wish things wouldve turned out differently. What do ya'll think about the situation? I often think about hitting him up but I figure whats the point if he reacted like a douchebag.

 

maybe it's got nothing to do with the STD. maybe he just lost interest and used the test results as an excuse.

 

maybe, once you two got together he realized why you stopped seeing each other way back. so, it would have ended even without the STD results.

 

 

 

let him go, he's already gone.

[fromheart]

You were honest and upfront, the thing's treatable, what's his problem?

 

If you didn't tell him and carried on having sex regardless, that would be an issue. But you've handled it correctly here.

 

His problem, not yours.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Well, I just think it was reckless of both of you to have engaged in sexual relations after being broken up for so long and NOT choose to use protection. You can't sugar coat sh*t after all. I mean, it's great that you went to get tested but I don't understand why you would have done that AFTER you already slept bareback with your ex? Seems wildly counter productive.

 

Did HE go and get tested as well? I don't mean to put all the blame on you since it takes two people to tango but you do play a big part in how this played out.

 

I also think texting him the news was a really bad move. That's something that should have been discussed face to face.

 

Regardless, he's pissed for reasons that I'm sure go beyond just contracting an STD from you. I would leave him be. It's done.

Edited August 23, 2016 by Michelle ma Belle

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I recently got back together with my ex after being broken up for almost a year. We were both dating other people between that time but it didnt work out & he recently came back telling me how much he missed me & how he wanted to get back together. Long story short I had made an appointment to get myself checked out before my ex was back in the picture just because I knew I didn't use protection with the other guy I had met & my ex & I have never used protection but by the time I had my appointment I was already being intimate with my ex again. I ended up finding out I had chlamydia (luckily its curable) I was really disappointed but I knew I couldnt point any fingers. I ended up texting my ex & telling him about it & letting him know it was curable & that I was willing to continue the relationship but he blamed it all on me.

 

Before you start assuming that I "sleep around" no thats not what happened, I was dating the other guy for 7 months & my ex for 2 years. I only slept with the guy I talked to for 7 months once & it didnt last very long. And my ex & I never brought up the fact that we were dating other people.

 

Its been 3 months since the break up & I still wish things wouldve turned out differently. What do ya'll think about the situation? I often think about hitting him up but I figure whats the point if he reacted like a douchebag.

 

 

 

Does this only post even saaaaaaaaaaay that the guy got Chlamydia ??

 

 

And does the post rule-out the chance that the GUY was the one who acquired Chlamydia, then gave it to the OP before she got tested, and then used HER disclosure as a reason to dump her?

 

 

Maybe this was a one-time poster, and we'll never find out the full truth.

[266696687]

Does this only post even saaaaaaaaaaay that the guy got Chlamydia ??

 

 

And does the post rule-out the chance that the GUY was the one who acquired Chlamydia, then gave it to the OP before she got tested, and then used HER disclosure as a reason to dump her?

 

 

Maybe this was a one-time poster, and we'll never find out the full truth.

 

Agree with you. It could have been either of them that had the STD it was just that the OP discovered it.

 

Both of them chose not to use protection with each other so therefore it's highly likely that both of them chose not to use protection with any partners in between. Either one of them could be responsible for the STD as they resumed their sexual relationship prior to getting testing.

 

Unless the OP's boyfriend had a negative screening prior to them reconciling no one can possible say for sure who gave it whom.

 

The boyfriends reaction is out of line and an over reaction. He had unprotected sex and is now suffering the consequences of his choice same as the OP.

[preraph]

Chylamidia isn't even much of an STD and it's one of the only ones around back in the 70s when me and everyone else were having casual sex, and no one wore condoms back then because literally, nothing was that serious that you could get and all the women were on birth control pills.

 

They say a lot of people have had it and don't even know. I got it once that I knew of, and think it just turned up in a routine exam. Anyway, got pills for it for me and for my short-term present bf. I mean, I had no idea if I got it from him or the guy before him. So I gave him the pills, and he got mad too and started laying blame on me, and I turned it right back around on him and said, "Well, I was assuming you gave it to me." I mean, he wasn't exactly a virgin. He worked as a bartender. Not sure what his problem was. It's not a sign of cheating because you might have it for awhile and not know. It's easy to get rid of.

 

Nowadays they say chlamydia can mess up a woman's reproduction, but that was unknown back in my day (and never happened to anyone I ever heard of, but maybe it's evolved.)

 

An article I just read about it says that most people who have chlamydia have no symptoms. If you do have symptoms, they may not appear until several weeks after you have sex with an infected partner. Even when chlamydia causes no symptoms, there's a chance it can damage your reproductive system.

 

So either you or that guy could have had it for weeks or months. And you can get it through oral and anal sex too.

[Jazzzy92]

I don't quite understand why you think it's not your fault. You took a risk and chose not to use protection. You gambled and you lost. You also chose not to get tested before you started sleeping with your ex again.

 

Make better choices and this won't happen again.

 

 

Not sure if you misunderstood but I don't think that. I believe either one of us could've had it just because of the way he had mentioned he didnt like wearing condoms & he was seeing other people as well. Luckily it was curable & a huge lesson learned.

[lana-banana]

Not sure if you misunderstood but I don't think that. I believe either one of us could've had it just because of the way he had mentioned he didnt like wearing condoms & he was seeing other people as well. Luckily it was curable & a huge lesson learned.

 

Anyone who "doesn't like wearing condoms" and sees multiple people has zero grounds to get upset about an STD. I'd laugh at this guy's idiocy but he's a legitimate health hazard. What a disaster.

 

OP---get the HPV vaccine if you haven't already. It can still help you.