Should I ask if he wants to go out again?

[emerald86]

I always hear that it's usually best for the guy to ask the girl out, but I don't know if I agree with this in every situation.

 

A guy asked me on a date, and I went--somewhat reluctantly. But immediately upon meeting him, I was drawn to him. He was funny, charming, intelligent, and we had so much in common. The date lasted almost three hours, and even after that, I didn't want to leave. This kind of thing has never happened to me before--I've never been attracted to someone from the very first date. It always takes me a few dates before I can warm up to someone, really see them for who they are, and thus become attracted to them.

 

In addition to being such a gentleman, he complimented me several times, and initiated quite a bit of physical contact at the end of the date. He held my hand, put his arm around me, etc. I did make a mistake at the end though. I believe he tried to lean in to kiss me, but I didn't quite get the memo and it just made for a very awkward hug lol. But otherwise, I was receptive to his actions as far as I'm aware.

 

He did say several times throughout the date that he wants to see me again, but he never texted me after the date. The next day, I then sent him a message saying that I had a great time. He responded saying that he had a great time as well, but he didn't say anything about a second date.

 

Should I take the initiative and ask him myself? Or is it true that if he didn't text me anything about a second date he's probably not interested?

 

edit: Sorry, I realize I should have posting this in the dating section

Edited August 24, 2016 by emerald86

[JewelD]

I think the 'rule' is another date should be set within 48 hours if he's interested. I'm sure if you continue texting, it will become clear whether or not he wants to see you again. I don't think most men will be sitting around waiting for a girl to ask them on a second date.

 

It wouldn't hurt to ask, but he will ask you out again eventually if he's interested.

[carnelian]

Wait some days before you contact him.

 

He may be interested in you even if he does not call in 48 hours. Give him time.He may be thinking about the right day and time to meet up. He may not be aware of this 48 hour rule. As a man, I never used it

because it looked over eager.

[preraph]

He might have taken the failed kiss as you're not interested and not want to stick his neck out, regardless of what he said at the time. So yes, I see nothing wrong in this situation with sticking your own neck out and asking him to something inexpensive for which you pay. Be specific: Hey, I heard there's a gallery opening in the arts district on Friday. Would you like to go with me?