Feeling like I'm missing out

[sooshi]

I just feel maybe having all these supplements all at once before taking any of them could disrupt my system.

I'm going to quote Midwest here.

These are all things your body needs.

 

Let's repeat that a few more times.

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Edited October 24, 2016 by sooshi

[sooshi]

NJ, you're 30. Why aren't you making your own dinners? It's time to start making your own meals.

 

You have a job. Go out and buy your own food, and put your own meals together.

 

What are your parents doing to motivate you to take care of yourself? Sorry, but it sounds like they might just be enabling you to depend on them and on other people to take care of you, rather than motivating you to take care of yourself. I hope I am wrong.

 

Like Midwest, I feel that the magnesium and B-complex are definite needs for you. Like I've said before, magnesium and the Bs work well together.

 

It's very disheartening that you're so consumed with anxiety about taking something that your body actually wants, craves, and needs.

Edited October 24, 2016 by sooshi

[losangelena]

I have said this before, but I recognize shades of myself in you, NJ. I didn't live with my parents when I was 30, but the way they'd raised me kept me, in effect, dependent on others to do the heavy lifting of my life. It look many years to recognize that, and many years to work my way out of. Now, at 36, I'm doing better, but I can't say it hasn't set me back a few years.

 

Also, that anxiety you feel is your body telling you that something isn't right. I had that, too, I think I mentioned. I went to a holistic nutritionist back then, and I had those same worries when she prescribed a bunch of supplements. I was afraid the entire time, but took them anyway. Nothing bad happened, though.

 

I think you're still a few years in the woods yet, NJ. That's not a "bad" thing, necessarily, but getting disentangled from a parent-reliant mindset as an adult takes a while. I do hope you get there.

[truthtripper]

Also, that anxiety you feel is your body telling you that something isn't right..

...and what isn't right is NJs lack of independence at 30. This would have a profound effect on your self-identify and thus self-esteem, NJ. No wonder you're anxious. It's vital for you to be aware that this is not a healthy situation. As others mention, it's important for you to make small steps towards making a life for yourself.

 

No one owns you, except yourself.

[NJ123]

So I'm going to get the solaray magnesium glycinate. I'll probably take 2 a day at first than work my way up with that. And I'm considering getting the Vitamin B Complex Gummy Vitamins by Vitafusion. It's gotten really good reviews from people on Amazon. What do you think? If I used those 2 along with a multi vitamin daily, when do I take each of them throughout the day? All at once, or spread out throughout?

[Robert]

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[NJ123]

So I got the magnesium that Midwest gets along with the vitafusion b-complex. Hopefully they work. Do I take them along with multi-vitamin at the same time?

[MidwestUSA]

So I got the magnesium that Midwest gets along with the vitafusion b-complex. Hopefully they work. Do I take them along with multi-vitamin at the same time?

 

It should be fine. Take with a meal, like we said. Try one magnesium to start, just to see how sensitive you are to it. Start eating yogurt too, if you don't.

[NJ123]

It should be fine. Take with a meal, like we said. Try one magnesium to start, just to see how sensitive you are to it. Start eating yogurt too, if you don't.

 

I always eat yogurt usually everyday. I usually have 1 or 2 low fat yogurts a day. So I should take the multi, 1 magnesium & the b-complex together at the same time everyday after eating something?

[MidwestUSA]

I always eat yogurt usually everyday. I usually have 1 or 2 low fat yogurts a day. So I should take the multi, 1 magnesium & the b-complex together at the same time everyday after eating something?

 

Sounds like a great start to me!

[NJ123]

I'm just hoping this stuff helps me in some way. I'm trying to be positive but I just feel like I need to be prepared for the worst where it won't do anything for me since if I feel it's automatically going to help than I'll be really disappointed.

[NJ123]

I've been sitting here today wondering where my life went wrong. I just feel like I'm at the point of no return in terms of ever getting better. No matter what I've done in the past like going to the gym regularly or even if I hang out with friends or something, nothing ever feels good. I feel my brain chemistry is so out of wack to the point that I'll never be better. I get my supplements in a few days that a few others have suggested I try out, but I'm not expecting them to help in any way to be honest even though I have nothing to lose to try them out. Yeah, I know some of you said I should have went out to the store to go get them, but I wasn't going to pay a lot more money to go to the store to get them while I can save a good amount of money while ordering it online. I've just been thinking about how if things haven't gotten better for me at this point when will they ever? I have to be realistic in the fact that having a relationship is highly likely never going to happen for me. It doesn't matter whether I get a good job or whatever else since I don't have it in me to approach women & women especially won't approach a 5'6" guy of all people. Online dating was a disaster for the most part since being short is the worst thing you can be on there. It sucks & it's made me insecure with my own looks when I actually used to consider myself as a good looking guy. Now I feel like I'm just merely average or even below average according to women's preferences. I'm just been having a really bad day today constantly thinking about where it all went wrong for me.

[Satu]

I understand what you're saying, but...

 

Two of my closest friends are very happily married and he's a short guy - about five feet five.

 

She's about 5 feet 9.

 

They've been together for years.

 

Therefore, we can deduce that height is not always an insurmountable barrier.

 

 

Take care.

[NJ123]

I understand what you're saying, but...

 

Two of my closest friends are very happily married and he's a short guy - about five feet five.

 

She's about 5 feet 9.

 

They've been together for years.

 

Therefore, we can deduce that height is not always an insurmountable barrier.

 

 

Take care.

 

Yeah, but the whole height thing is just 1 of many different things I have to worry about. But it's gotten to the point now that whenever I'm out somewhere I automatically think the women I come across find the taller guys more attractive than me. I feel the internet & forums about what women prefer has messed my head up. I literally never used to think about my height in a negative way until I've been on forums like this & others as well as going on online dating. Now it's like I can't go back in time to change what I know now. It would have been better if I never went on online dating or going on forums about relationships. But what I know now can't be changed. It's programmed into my mind where I can't just not know it. I just don't see a way of me ever getting better at this point. Every thing triggers me now whether it's seeing couples together to not feeling adequate with my own looks anymore. I also have the life experience of a guy that's like 10 years younger than I am. I feel anything I do now won't even matter because I wasted too much time.

[Blanco]

You have too much time on your hands and that's why you find things to obsessively worry about.

 

Try getting your own place and having bills to pay like an adult and you'll find that there's a lot less time to fret over each and every little thing.

[Satu]

There was a point in my life where my self-esteem was at rock bottom.

 

I started to keep a journal. Just writing about my thoughts and feelings started the process of me overcoming my negative self-image.

 

One exercise I started was to list everything I did that day which was good, right, or admirable.

 

At first it was hard to think of anything.

 

Gradually, my list got to be longer and longer.

 

I think you should work on your own perception of yourself and get into a more loving relationship with yourself, instead of always listing your self-perceived negatives.

 

You are doing the exact opposite of what I did, and as a consequence, you're getting exactly the opposite result.

 

As time goes on you like yourself less and less.

 

You need to change that.

 

If you don't know how to, make it your business to find out.

 

 

Take care.

[NJ123]

You have too much time on your hands and that's why you find things to obsessively worry about.

 

Try getting your own place and having bills to pay like an adult and you'll find that there's a lot less time to fret over each and every little thing.

 

That would just put even more stress on me likely if I'm alone while having a lot of stresses of bills & such. It would basically be another thing to stress about added on to the ones I have already.

[Blanco]

You're missing my point. You're living a sheltered life. I think being out on your own, while not easy, would force you to gain some perspective on life and the world around you.

[NJ123]

There was a point in my life where my self-esteem was at rock bottom.

 

I started to keep a journal. Just writing about my thoughts and feelings started the process of me overcoming my negative self-image.

 

One exercise I started was to list everything I did that day which was good, right, or admirable.

 

At first it was hard to think of anything.

 

Gradually, my list got to be longer and longer.

 

I think you should work on your own perception of yourself and get into a more loving relationship with yourself, instead of always listing your self-perceived negatives.

 

You are doing the exact opposite of what I did, and as a consequence, you're getting exactly the opposite result.

 

As time goes on you like yourself less and less.

 

You need to change that.

 

If you don't know how to, make it your business to find out.

 

 

Take care.

 

How am I supposed to just not think about this stuff though? I have an obsessive compulsive mind which doesn't help matters. Every little thing bothers me it seems. If something bothers me I can't just stop thinking about it. I just hate the way my life has turned out & now my brain chemistry is so out of wack that I don't know if I'll ever feel completely normal again. I'm now I'm at the point where I'll never feel like I'll ever be good enough for a woman since I'll never be her first preference since I'm not tall enough. It sucks that it'll have to be my personality that wins her over, but at first glance she likely won't find me highly attractive like she would a taller guy.

[NJ123]

You're missing my point. You're living a sheltered life. I think being out on your own, while not easy, would force you to gain some perspective on life and the world around you.

 

I'm not sure about that. I think it would maybe make me even worse in the way I feel currently. I just don't think I can handle any more things to worry about right now. I have too many of them currently. I think it would be a lot better if I had a girlfriend I could move out with instead of being completely on my own by myself. It just feels like it would be depressing as hell to go home to a completely empty house all alone everyday.

[Blanco]

I'm not sure about that. I think it would maybe make me even worse in the way I feel currently. I just don't think I can handle any more things to worry about right now. I have too many of them currently. I think it would be a lot better if I had a girlfriend I could move out with instead of being completely on my own by myself. It just feels like it would be depressing as hell to go home to a completely empty house all alone everyday.

 

I'm sorry, but you would be an absolute drain on a girlfriend in your current state.

 

And that's what people have fruitlessly tried to tell you for months now: Getting a girlfriend will not fix your problems.

 

I eagerly await your "Yeah, but..." response.

[NJ123]

I'm sorry, but you would be an absolute drain on a girlfriend in your current state.

 

And that's what people have fruitlessly tried to tell you for months now: Getting a girlfriend will not fix your problems.

 

I eagerly await your "Yeah, but..." response.

 

So either way I'm pretty much screwed just like with everything else. I just don't think I'd be able to live completely all alone. Not because I couldn't survive, but it would just be a horrible feeling to come home every night all by myself.

[Blanco]

So either way I'm pretty much screwed just like with everything else. I just don't think I'd be able to live completely all alone. Not because I couldn't survive, but it would just be a horrible feeling to come home every night all by myself.

 

I do it every night. I actually quite like it and I'm the sort who's enjoyed being in a relationship.

 

Build a life you actually like and the thought of being by yourself at times won't seem impossibly unbearable.

 

As I've said so many times before, your mentality is simply god-awful and nothing in your life is going to change until you make it a priority to actually shift your way of viewing the world you live in.

[NJ123]

I do it every night. I actually quite like it and I'm the sort who's enjoyed being in a relationship.

 

Build a life you actually like and the thought of being by yourself at times won't seem impossibly unbearable.

 

As I've said so many times before, your mentality is simply god-awful and nothing in your life is going to change until you make it a priority to actually shift your way of viewing the world you live in.

 

How am I supposed to change my mentality if my brain chemistry is so screwed up? I can't just take the depression out of my head as well as intrusive thoughts. I've already went over this where anti-depressants don't compete with my body well due to this burning body issue I have. So I don't know what I'm supposed to do. It's like I can't get better until I resolve the burning nerve problem or whatever it is that no one has been able to fix. I got the supplements that a few on here suggested & I'll try them, but if they don't help then I feel there's nothing left I can do. All my doctor gave me when I went back last week was antibiotics & he literally said he's not sure what the issue is. And wants to also do blood testing within the next month which I've had like 4 times in the past 2 years.

[sooshi]

NJ, turn off the lights.

Put on some mediation music.

Lay down, close your eyes, and allow yourself to be soaked in by the gentleness of the music.

 

Do this every day.

 

Meditation alters brain chemistry.

 

Take care.