Relocating to new city experiment failed

[offwithhishead]

He wasn't happy about it [at all], but it's hard to dislike my ex after meeting him - you simply don't find "good" kids like that often, and him being valedictorian didn't hurt his image in my parents' eyes either (we were both nerds and studied together, hence we were together - it's not the typical white men hitting on Asian girls story) A good parent first and foremost wants the best for their children. Dad probably feels more comfortable with my current SO, but it would make 0 difference what race he was if he didn't treat me well. A dad will always be a dad - he'll find bad things to rant about any potential son-in-law as his instinct is protecting his daughter(s) and not wanting them to get hurt; if it's a race/ethnicity he's more familiar with, he'll find even more flaws tbh.

 

If I ever have kids, I'll try to expose them to the grandparents as much as possible, maybe travel to Asia with them. I know Indian friends who were born here, but because of constant exposure to grandparents/traveling back to India, they're pretty comfortable with being Indian Americans while not losing their "roots".

 

Back to the question about white men getting the Asian girls. If these girls are simply so shallow as to be with men because of their race/ethnicity, would you really want to be with them in the first place then?

 

OK I admit that in your particular case, you and your white ex met by circumstance and naturally got together. But unfortunately, that's not how most WM/AF couples are. There are good white guys out there who have Asian girlfriends but are not Asiaphiles. I know because I've known some of them. If you look at their dating history, they've dated different races. It's just that their current girlfriend is an Asian.

 

However, there is a large segment of the white male population who for whatever reason have had no success with white girls and so think of Asian girls as a "good alternative." Meaning that if they always aim to get white girls who are 7/8's but always get rejected, they feel like if they resort to Asian girls, they can get an Asian girl who is a 7/8. Sadly, it actually WORKS. Which blows my mind.

 

I don't think it's that these Asian girls are shallow, at least not the only reason. It has to do with upbringing. I think they might have had an absent or bad father and so they it affected their perception of Asian men. I think it's also due to Asian mothers. I always found it very odd how Asian mothers encourage their sons to marry an Asian girl but encourage their daughters to get with a white man. And then when their Asian sons have difficulty finding a girlfriend, the mother is wondering why.

 

Indian girls are much closer and have much more pride in their culture than Asian-American girls, especially Chinese girls. The amount of cultural sellouts we have amongst the Chinese female population is amazing. There's a great sense of admiration Chinese girls have for western culture and the Caucasian race, to the point that self-hate % is very very high. Perhaps the highest amongst all people of colour.

[Sweetfish]

OK I admit that in your particular case, you and your white ex met by circumstance and naturally got together. But unfortunately, that's not how most WM/AF couples are. There are good white guys out there who have Asian girlfriends but are not Asiaphiles. I know because I've known some of them. If you look at their dating history, they've dated different races. It's just that their current girlfriend is an Asian.

 

However, there is a large segment of the white male population who for whatever reason have had no success with white girls and so think of Asian girls as a "good alternative." Meaning that if they always aim to get white girls who are 7/8's but always get rejected, they feel like if they resort to Asian girls, they can get an Asian girl who is a 7/8. Sadly, it actually WORKS. Which blows my mind.

 

So I'm reading your post.. btw you have excellent grammer and very educated. I respect that you went to a city to expand your knowledge and "prove or disprove your theories " but what your doing is sabotage. Your using your own intellect to exercise common traits of human beings to justify one thing.

 

Your lazy...

 

You spent a lot of effort being intelligent, smart, and indulge in your own hobbies. Land a good job. Fair.

 

But you spent how many years... interacting with people? I mean REALLY interacting with people. The non nerds, the not so amazing looking girls, the jocks, African Americans, or Latins. That is why I think your lazy.

 

The only thing your thread talks about is whites and Asians. That's my big red flag right there.

 

I bet if you were overweight or black you would too write-up the same intellectual sabotage and it would sound so convincing to you that you would conclude to give up and that you are conclusively right.

 

Maybe the real problem is you just haven't honed your skill to connect with people in general.

 

So you wrote up a thesis that concluded what?

 

That a lot of Asian women may prefer white men over other races?

 

Because media and/or family brought them up to believe that it's a best bet for a stable life..

 

I'm not concluding you need to change into someone your not... but why don't you take some effort to learn to connect with people. Honestly, in my opinion you don't or cant.

 

And this is why I call you lazy.

 

Your putting all your eggs into your success and how much of a nice guy you are..(I'm assuming) the rules of engagement amoung races, gender, and color are not equal or fair.

 

Your asian.. you cant expect to run thru this world as if your white and comparing apples to oranges. You need to run this world with "what are my goals" and "what are my individual obstacles"

 

OK, I might be timid. It's a common trait among Asians.

What was your resolve for this? What are you doing to fix these individual problems you acquired over the years? I think you masked it over by becoming successful and may tried to bank on that landing you your beautiful 7 8 or 9 in the future. (Because our parents/media teach us that kinda stuff)

 

Once you add in the other factors like looks, height, color.. which are yes, essentials to attraction, once you can't connect or stop connnecting with someone even though your handsome and rich and white... it can all come crashing down and that poor sap is in this forum wondering why his girl dumped him..

 

This is my rebuttal to your posts.

[Poe77]

What did your dad think when you were dating your white ex? I personally would have flipped. Immigrant parents. They come here to work hard and make a better life for their family, only to see their daughter go out with a white guy? That's partially the reason that even if I do find someone, I'm hesitant to have kids. .

 

Ok im sorry I have to say it so your happy to live in this country and reap all the benefits yet you would be pissed if your daughter dated a white American? do you even realize how that makes you sound? if this is the nom why do you even come over here? sorry that just annoys me..