Women Who Don't Wear Wedding Rings

[NeotericJack]

So, if you have a girlfriend who you haven't yet married, the lack of a wedding ring tells men that she's available to them. Wow, must be scary thinking that all that stands between her and these men is a piece of metal.

 

Yes. The absence of a ring would make her appear to be available.

[elaine567]

Yes. The absence of a ring would make her appear to be available.

 

There is more to "availability" than the wearing or not of a wedding ring.

As posters have already said, not every married woman wears a ring and that is for a variety of reasons most of which have nothing to do with the marriage whatsoever.

To suggest these women are "available" is not true, and to suggest that every married woman who wears a ring is "not available" is just as untrue.

[dichotomy]

My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring at work as a safety precaution, as the job involves operating some machinery.

 

He doesn't wear it at home either but puts it on when we are out together.

 

I don't have a problem with this.

 

I have one of these for my lifting and MMA workouts.

 

SafeRingz - Home of the Original Safe Silicone Wedding Band

[basil67]

Yes. The absence of a ring would make her appear to be available.

 

I didn't say "makes her appear to be available". I said "tells them she is available". There is a difference. If a ring tells people that she's unavailable, then the absence of a ring would tell them that she is available.

Edited August 29, 2016 by basil67

[Betrayed&Stayed]

Why don't some women, married for decades, wear wedding bands? I can understand that some physical reason can cause it but, in the absence of that, what else could? I'm thinking of one person whose husband doesn't wear a wedding band either. Is that a sign the marriage has failed?

 

After D-Day I removed the engravings on the inside, but kept wearing it. I stopped wearing it altogether 2+ years ago. It was during a time that I was frustrated of re-framing everything. The ring was a reminder of my wife's affair, and I was tired of re-framing the ring every time I saw it of felt it. So as an experiment I stopped wearing it.

 

Anyone who knows me knows that I'm married. If you don't know me well enough to know that I'm married, then it really doesn't matter if I'm married or not.

 

There's nothing special about a ring. It holds no super powers of repelling persons of the opposite sex. My wife is just one example out of 1,000s. Her rings didn't stop her from having sex with her co-worker.

 

Is it a sign of a bad or failed marriage? It could be, but how would you know? For me, my wife's affair cheapened my wedding ring. Before D-Day I wore it religiously. Post D-Day I realized how foolish I was to place so much value on a ring.

[stillafool]

Custom. Tradition.

 

That's just the way it is. It tells men they are not available.

 

Shouldn't men be seen as unavailable by wearing their rings? If not, no one needs to wear a ring.

[xxoo]

I have one of these for my lifting and MMA workouts.

 

SafeRingz - Home of the Original Safe Silicone Wedding Band

 

Those are really clever!

 

If my H and I cared about the symbolism of a wedding ring, that would be a great option for our lifestyles.

 

As it is, we don't care about the symbolic ring.

 

Can anyone explain a scenario where a married person (not your spouse) not wearing a ring negatively affected you?

[beatcuff]

They don't care. They only think about themselves.

 

And men are expected to wear wedding rings.

 

OR --- i have been married for 25 years, i wore my band for about a week. why not? i do not like or wear jewelry of any kind, just prefer not too (that includes all types including watches, chains...). and there are a lot of things i do not wear (such as work boots) --- a/k/a personal preference.

 

as others have mentioned: rings do not guarantee commitment.

 

i think you need to review why you equate wearing something to caring. or maybe you are just to lazy to ask a man: 'are you in a relationship'?

[seren]

I don't wear my wedding ring because my fingers swell, my husband doesn't because his job means it would be dangerous to wear a ring. It isn't the wedding ring that makes someone faithful. If anyone tried to chat me up I would say, thanks, but no, I'm married.

[NeotericJack]

I didn't say "makes her appear to be available". I said "tells them she is available". There is a difference. If a ring tells people that she's unavailable, then the absence of a ring would tell them that she is available.

 

OK. Honestly, that's the way I see it.

[Gaeta]

I wore my wedding ring for a few months then after I got our daughter it didn't fit anymore. It also didn't fit well with being a young mom, cleaning cooking and taking it off and on all the time. My ex-husband was an aircraft mechanic so now allowed to wear jewelry. Instead of taking it off and on and risk losing it he didn't wear it.

 

My parents have been married 50 years and also have never wore their wedding bands for similar reasons.

 

It makes us look 'available'....so what?

[carhill]

I know one MW who wears a wedding band on her 'ring toe'. At least that was the explanation I received.

 

I would opine, in my demographic, it's a marked minority of women who don't wear rings but I do tend to notice it, both from getting burned as a young guy by MW's as well as from, reluctantly, having to remove my mom's wedding rings when placing her in an institution, rings she had worn continuously since getting married in the 50's even for another 20+ years after dad died. I guess it's just something I notice.

 

Reasons heard over the decades vary markedly, the most common being a ring not defining the love and commitment in the marriage. I think that's valid. I do also see the ring as a public symbol of such, much like a wedding is a public symbol. People are free to participate in public symbols, or not, as they choose.

[BikerAccnt]

No offense. Men are different. They aren't expected to wear wedding rings. Women are. I always thought so, anyway.

 

What? Really? Says who?

[carhill]

The male generality could be cultural or generational. In my demographic, men tend to wear wedding bands regardless of whether their wives do or not. My father did, I did, all my male friends who are married do. I think a couple who had some serious surgery took it off for that. I remember visiting them and noting no ring.

 

I work in a environment where I use my hands a lot and can't recall ever taking off my ring because of the job. However, it wasn't an expensive ring, rather a simple gold wedding band. If I'm working in areas that electricity could conduct or there's heat or machinery, it's easy to glove up. Hands last a lot longer too. Regardless of what went on in our M, the ring stayed on until the sheriff showed up at the door with the lawsuit. Then it came off. Easy peasy.

[RecentChange]

I get hit on, as often, if not more when I wear my wedding rings.

 

So, I don't think the presence of the rings ward off many men..... take from that what you will.

 

I don't wear them to declare I am someone's property, and honestly, it would be kinda nice if the rings made it so guys didn't get fresh - but ah, yeah not the case.

 

Just this weekend - on a night on the town, multiple times I was asked "who are you here with?" - to which I would answer "my husband" - my rings are quite visible, really, they aren't much of a deterrent. Unless I am right with my husband - guys really do not seem to care.

 

I wear mine most of the time, but take them off for any outdoor activities, physical work etc.

 

My husband doesn't wear a band. He has never been one to wear jewelry, and does a lot of work with his hands. If he was to wear anything, only safe jewelry would be a silicone band.

[xxoo]

This thread came to mind yesterday when I was out running errands. I wasn't wearing my ring, but I was walking by my husband's side. I don't think I led on any of the shoppers at Target

[RecentChange]

Oh, and FYI, wedding rings for men did not become a tradition in the US until WWII.

 

Dual-ring ceremonies, in which both bride and groom wear a ring, were introduced by the Greek Orthodox Church in the 1300s. The custom didn't catch on in America until the beginning of World War II, when young men were forced to leave their beloveds behind, not knowing when and if they would return. Many couples married in anticipation of separation, and wedding bands—one for each partner—were considered critical to the war effort, as a solace to lonely soldiers and as a reminder for brides that their faraway soldier thought of them always. By the height of the war, 85 percent of marriages were dual-ring ceremonies.

 

Hahaha and yeah - what XXOO said. My wedding ring doesn't stop guys - the presence of my husband does

[xxoo]

Hahaha and yeah - what XXOO said. My wedding ring doesn't stop guys - the presence of my husband does

 

So much sexier than a ring

[carhill]

IME, guys bent on hitting on women do it, regardless of rings or husbands. Perhaps not in polite society but in my neck of the woods it's both commonplace and part of why we're generally ten seconds away from violence in any encounter. I didn't really see it clearly until getting married. Fortunately my exW was a scrapper and had no problem handling men. Otherwise, I'd have been in jail or the hospital. That's how it goes. She only had to get in between us once. Loved that about her. She just dove right in.

 

However, I have no idea if she did or didn't wear her wedding rings when not in my presence. It never occurred to me to consider it and still wouldn't. People do what they do. If the relationship works, it continues. If not, end. Rings definitely don't bind anything; however, if I ever get married again, yup, I'll wear a ring, regardless of what my wife does or doesn't do.

[seren]

In the aircraft industry, especially in engineering, no rings or jewellery can be worn incase it gets into the engines. I know plenty of men and women who wear rings but get both hit on and enjoy it, despite the ring. It's the vows people make to each other that mean anything, if people see no ring and chance chatting a person up, then a no thanks is more of a deterrent than any ring.

[Toodaloo]

Why don't some women, married for decades, wear wedding bands? I can understand that some physical reason can cause it but, in the absence of that, what else could? I'm thinking of one person whose husband doesn't wear a wedding band either. Is that a sign the marriage has failed?

 

My parents do not wear theirs. Dad had an accident at work and nearly lost his finger because of it so Mum will not let him wear it.

 

Mum after decades of wearing hers suddenly developed an allergy to it and now can't wear it.

 

Both rings sit together in Mums jewelry box.

 

They have had their troubles but are as strong as ever and have no intention of ever getting divorced...

[NeotericJack]

I wore my wedding ring for a few months then after I got our daughter it didn't fit anymore. It also didn't fit well with being a young mom, cleaning cooking and taking it off and on all the time. My ex-husband was an aircraft mechanic so now allowed to wear jewelry. Instead of taking it off and on and risk losing it he didn't wear it.

 

My parents have been married 50 years and also have never wore their wedding bands for similar reasons.

 

It makes us look 'available'....so what?

 

It may invite unwanted attention.

[NeotericJack]

I know one MW who wears a wedding band on her 'ring toe'. At least that was the explanation I received.

 

I would opine, in my demographic, it's a marked minority of women who don't wear rings but I do tend to notice it, both from getting burned as a young guy by MW's as well as from, reluctantly, having to remove my mom's wedding rings when placing her in an institution, rings she had worn continuously since getting married in the 50's even for another 20+ years after dad died. I guess it's just something I notice.

 

Reasons heard over the decades vary markedly, the most common being a ring not defining the love and commitment in the marriage. I think that's valid. I do also see the ring as a public symbol of such, much like a wedding is a public symbol. People are free to participate in public symbols, or not, as they choose.

 

But if they don't they are subject to the consequences. A women could be seen as "available" or that her marriage is in trouble.

[NeotericJack]

What? Really? Says who?

 

Tradition. Culture.

[NeotericJack]

I get hit on, as often, if not more when I wear my wedding rings.

 

So, I don't think the presence of the rings ward off many men..... take from that what you will.

 

I don't wear them to declare I am someone's property, and honestly, it would be kinda nice if the rings made it so guys didn't get fresh - but ah, yeah not the case.

 

Just this weekend - on a night on the town, multiple times I was asked "who are you here with?" - to which I would answer "my husband" - my rings are quite visible, really, they aren't much of a deterrent. Unless I am right with my husband - guys really do not seem to care.

 

I wear mine most of the time, but take them off for any outdoor activities, physical work etc.

 

My husband doesn't wear a band. He has never been one to wear jewelry, and does a lot of work with his hands. If he was to wear anything, only safe jewelry would be a silicone band.

 

Maybe it just me and my generation. Baby boomers were raised in a different time.