drgnflybethany Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 How do you honestly tell if a guy is interested in you...? Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 I don't know. I'm a guy and I guess it depends if the guy is using the guy's version of "the rules" or not. If not, he'd be all over you if interested. If he is playing the game, then I have no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author drgnflybethany Posted July 4, 2005 Author Share Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob I don't know. I'm a guy and I guess it depends if the guy is using the guy's version of "the rules" or not. If not, he'd be all over you if interested. If he is playing the game, then I have no idea. So what are the rules of the game?? Or if you tell me, will you have to kill me? Link to post Share on other sites
VirginiaBob Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 to simplify all of them into one statement: act like you don't care (even if you do) Link to post Share on other sites
Cwazydude Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 Lol, guy's do a lot of different things. But basicly, "Act like you don't care" is universal. Most guy's do it. It make's it easter if you don't like them back, So he can just say "Whatever" and pretend like it's no big deal. Anyway, You can usually tell if a guy like's you if: He spends a lot of time with you for no reason. He seems very interested in your hobbies, opinion's, ect... He slips in a few complement's every now and then. He want's to make plan's with you later. I think that's about it, If someone else can think of other things feel free to add on... Link to post Share on other sites
Author drgnflybethany Posted July 6, 2005 Author Share Posted July 6, 2005 Would going out of his way to explain what he was doing this weekend when he couldn't respond and why he's sort of disappeared from our spot (with an entirely plausible and reasonable explanation) be one way to tell? Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by drgnflybethany Would going out of his way to explain what he was doing this weekend when he couldn't respond and why he's sort of disappeared from our spot (with an entirely plausible and reasonable explanation) be one way to tell? Very possible. He is concerned that you know he didn't avoid you on purpose. I know you want to be 100% sure he likes you but I don't know if there is a 100% guarantee. Sometimes you have to stop asking and start acting. Bethany, if he is to shy to ask you and you want more than you have now then you are going to have to do the man's part and ask him. I know it sucks but it might be the only way... Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 I've read your story in the other thread bethany, I've been in a situation almost exactly like it (from the guys perspective) with a lot of similar signals from the guys end. If it's any encouragement to get you to ask him out, I had feelings for her but I didn't have the guts to make a move when I should have, and it turned out she liked me all along. You don't want the same thing to happen to you because it is 10x worse than just going for it and being politely turned down. To me your situation sounds like the classic case of two people liking each other but neither one makes a move. I don't think anyone can be 100% sure whether he has feelings or not, but nothing in this world is 100%. Nothing. There is always a degree of risk in anything you do in life, and this situation is no different - go for it. Don't let those self-defeating doubts get in the way. You are pretty sure he likes you, but have negative thoughts like "oh he's so good looking how could he like me." etc. I used to do the same thing...like "she's a lot different than me why would she be interested." "I'm not her usual type why would she want to go out with me." which I later realized was all garbage. If you like someone you like them, plain and simple - don't let petty doubts effect your train of thought as I did. I will say that the longer you wait, the chances of anything happening decrease. After a while you kind of get in that 'friends/acquiantence zone' where it's kind of assumed that you two aren't compatabile for a relationship...even if you have feelings for each other. But it's not too late yet, the time to act is now...when you even said yourself you are almost positive he likes you so all you have to do is be the one to make the move. Link to post Share on other sites
Author drgnflybethany Posted July 7, 2005 Author Share Posted July 7, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear I know you want to be 100% sure he likes you but I don't know if there is a 100% guarantee. Sometimes you have to stop asking and start acting. .....and you want more than you have now then you are going to have to do the man's part and ask him. I know it sucks but it might be the only way... It only sucks, because I seriously see him as the type that wants to make the first move. Yeah - I want to know 100% - so, when someone gets that whole reading of the mind thing worked out, let me know... I don't know if I want more than I have now... too afraid... I used to balk at people that were afraid of making a move - I used to give advice just like yours - Carpe Diem and all that... I know I'm not ready to take that step - definitely not again.. Link to post Share on other sites
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