GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 (edited) Is there another way I can talk to girls/meet them POF (Get basically no replies at all) Tinder (Get quite a few replies/Few dates every few months but not loads) Match.com (Speak to a few girls/Get about one/two dates a month Subscription just finished to rejoin is £59.99 for 3 months or 6 months) Ok Cupid (Not Many users in my area) Oasis (Hardly anyone use it) Clubbing (Most of the girls are drunk & don't remember you the next day) Work (Most of the nice looking girls in the council are taken or married or way to old for me) I Turned 26 last Tuesday Yay I am getting old now... I have just started to go swimming 1/3 times a week... I have average body with very tiny bit of fat but will go once i do more swimming... I am looking for someone with similar interests to me, Must be Child free Tatto free (Don't mind small ones but all over the body/arm no thank you) Smoke free Slim About Average Athletic Curvy (I class that as curvy body) all the girls that message me first are A few extra pounds Heavyset which don't appeal to me Edited August 28, 2016 by GTR King 1
SammySammy Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Street. In public. Have an active life and meet people - not just girls - wherever you go. 1
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 so you mean meet/talk to them e.g when you go swimming etc... I do have an active life but don't normally talk to girls as big shy but try to when i can I go out and see friends clubbing football (Seen some nice girls there) 1
Satu Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Engage with people. Be friendly. Be kind. That's all you need to do. Take care.
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 I am always kind/friendly to them... but girls on old are so picky dunno why tho
Satu Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I am always kind/friendly to them... but girls on old are so picky dunno why tho I meant in the real world.
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 yeah i do that in the real world I when I do talk to girls 1
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 These might sound cliche but, Try volunteer work and meet up groups 1
angel.eyes Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I always find this so ironic: ...I have average body with very tiny bit of fat but will go once i do more swimming... -yet- I am looking for someone with similar interests to me, Must be Child free Tatto free (Don't mind small ones but all over the body/arm no thank you) Smoke free Slim About Average Athletic Curvy (I class that as curvy body) all the girls that message me first are A few extra pounds Heavyset which don't appeal to me You have a little chub but are unwilling to consider dating a woman who similarly has a few pounds extra? Well that's your prerogative. Still, since you're having difficulty getting any dates, your choices are to persevere until one of the slim or athletic ones finally overlooks your chub, or to reevaluate what criteria really matter to you in a dating partner. Generally speaking, we can expect to get what we bring to the table ourselves. When was your last date? Are you living at home? 2
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I always find this so ironic: -yet- You have a little chub but are unwilling to consider dating a woman who similarly has a few pounds extra? Well that's your prerogative. Still, since you're having difficulty getting any dates, your choices are to persevere until one of the slim or athletic ones finally overlooks your chub, or to reevaluate what criteria really matter to you in a dating partner. Generally speaking, we can expect to get what we bring to the table ourselves. When was your last date? Are you living at home? There's nothing wrong with knowing what he likes and going for it, especially since he's working on his weight. I'm not the most attractive or fit guy, but all I date of slim/fit girls and I generally haven't had trouble getting dates. Confidence and personality goes a long way.
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 My last date was about 2 weeks ago.... I am not overweight at all, I am average looking and go swimming as trying to get a bit slimmer I live at home as cheaper & 5/10 mins walk from town centre and 30 mins walk from work
angel.eyes Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 There's nothing wrong with knowing what he likes and going for it, especially since he's working on his weight. I'm not the most attractive or fit guy, but all I date of slim/fit girls and I generally haven't had trouble getting dates. Confidence and personality goes a long way. You haven't, but the OP has struggled to get a date despite using numerous dating avenues. He can continue to struggle or he can re-evaluate and adjust his approach until he finds success. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I'm gonna be honest. Living at home at 26, isn't gonna help your odds at all. Most girls are expecting you to have your live some what together at that point. At least your own apartment with roommates
angel.eyes Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 My last date was about 2 weeks ago.... I am not overweight at all, I am average looking and go swimming as trying to get a bit slimmer I live at home as cheaper & 5/10 mins walk from town centre and 30 mins walk from work Yes, it's cheaper. But to grow into a full-fledged, responsible adult requires an ability to live independently, manage your own bills, do your own laundry, etc.. Have you considered moving out of your parents' place? Have you ever moved out? Some women will be turned off by the fact that you live with your parents. It's limiting your efforts a little bit. Food for thought.
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 All the girls i have dated apart from 2 have been slim /athletic All my ex girlfriends have been slim/athletic one did get fat (Due to meds) but went back to being slim. I would move out but cheaper to live at home.... some weeks I can have 10/12 girls message me which leads to 1-2 dates, then dries up then same happens again
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Yes it's cheaper to live at home. But think of this from a girls perspective, why would she want to date a guy who lives with his parent? When she could easily date a guy that has his own place, that makes life just loads more convenient.
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 My dad lives with my 2 half sisters 3.5/5 hours drive from me. I live with my mum/cat.... 5-10 mins walk from town centre & 30 mins walk to work I pay her rent & getting my own car soon, i pay for sky tv and can manage my money
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I mean, you obviously don't get it. Until you get out on your own, you're sevelry limiting your dating options 1
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 (edited) Yeah I do get it.... I would move out but cheaper at home most of the girls i dated didn't bother them that I was living at home... I live in a fairly big town Edited August 28, 2016 by GTR King
NIGHT1985 Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 Tell me. Why do you think a lot of your dates don't go past the first or 2nd date? And what age range are you trying to date? Do you mention to these dates that you still live with your mom? Unless you're dating 18-21 year olds, most women just find living at home unattractive and a sign of you still being a "boy" and not a man. Maybe you've had some luck in the past, but you're getting older every year, and every year it's becoming less and less acceptable for you to live with your parents and expect to find a partner, at least in the US
angel.eyes Posted August 28, 2016 Posted August 28, 2016 I'm confused. Why exactly did you start this thread if you're dating life is going swimmingly and you're dating loads?
Author GTR King Posted August 28, 2016 Author Posted August 28, 2016 (edited) My dating range is 20-30, in the uk living at home is fine if your thinking of moving out soon e.g year or 2 work full time and active... if your at home doing nothing then that put girls right off wanting to date you. I am not dating loads at the moment that's why i started this thread I just wanna get more dates, But most of girls that talk to me online have only been single recently or just want S*x, or are too scared to meet in person... Match.com was best site for me but didn't use it for a bit as was busy doing other things Edited August 28, 2016 by GTR King
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