IHateWoW Posted August 29, 2016 Share Posted August 29, 2016 Hello all. Me H33 W40 married 4year's I apologize for the way this will be written. Im not the best at conveying things through text. Meet my wife almost 4year's ago, love at first sight, all that jazz. I'd never really had many relationships before her, a few girlfriends but nothing serious. She was the second girl I've ever been with. Before her I had one incounter, but it was as bad as can be, I slept with a friends girlfriend to get him to break up with her... Long story. But my wife is the most wonderful smart funny sexy women I've ever meet She has some issues with intimacy and showing passion. I've tried everything from, taking on all household work, letting her sleep In 6 days a week, she plays wow till 3-5am most nights. All I've been asking for, is for her to think about me every once and a while, show an Intreset in sex. When we first met she would get horny and excited for sex but now, it's just work. I tell her she's sexy give back and foot rubs, beg to go down on her. But she just had no interest in anything sexual. I need advice on how to get her to open up. Link to post Share on other sites
Ontos Posted August 29, 2016 Share Posted August 29, 2016 Hello all. Me H33 W40 married 4year's I've tried everything from, taking on all household work, letting her sleep In 6 days a week, she plays wow till 3-5am most nights. . Doing more and being nicer is working against you. Man up, stop doing more housework so she can sleep in late. Tell her what your needs are in a calm fashion. Stop making "covert contracts" like - if I do this she will have sex with me. That never works. Read the "Married Men's Sex Life Primer" and start acting like a Man, not a Mouse. It might be counter intuitive b/c you're a "nice guy", but your wife doesn't want a soft, placating b1tch for a hubby - she wants a man. Get in shape, do some fun masculine activities that benefit YOU and make YOU feel good about yourself. The rest will fall into place. Question: Did her lack of interest happen overnight? You also need to rule out another man. Put a voice recorder in her car and look through her phone and email. Rule this out first. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 29, 2016 Share Posted August 29, 2016 she plays wow till 3-5am most nights. There's a tremendous amount of messaging, flirting, sexting and EA/PA activity accompanying this game amongst dedicated players and members of the WoW community. This may be where your W's sexual attention and energy is going, I'd start there... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatieCares Posted August 29, 2016 Share Posted August 29, 2016 (edited) Certainly sounds as though you are doing way more than your share here.and I certainly admire you for trying so hard. The problem is the game-playing. No wonder you hate WoW! Your wife has slipped into a fantasy world. Honestly, the game playing needs to be cut way back...if not completely stopped. I suspect, however, that your wife is addicted to the game. If she is unable or unwilling to at least cut back, will she agree to counseling? If she is unwilling to go, perhaps you can go by yourself. Big Guns may be needed here! Edited August 29, 2016 by KatieCares Link to post Share on other sites
Author IHateWoW Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 Thanks for the advice. Tonight I'm going to try I special night of back and foot rub followed by, A very long session of paying very close attention to her with no expectations. As for her cheating I know she isn't. Basically because of the lack of attention for so long I kinda developed a bit of a kink. It involves other men and the like, but she's not into it. Link to post Share on other sites
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Thanks for the advice. Tonight I'm going to try I special night of back and foot rub followed by, A very long session of paying very close attention to her with no expectations. As for her cheating I know she isn't. Basically because of the lack of attention for so long I kinda developed a bit of a kink. It involves other men and the like, but she's not into it. You may think you won't have a secret agenda, but you will. Take it from me. This approach doesn't work. You are setting yourself up for resentment when you feel she doesn't notice or isn't returning the favor. This is fact man, it will happen. Resentment will kill your relationship faster than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IHateWoW Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 Well we didn't end up doing anything I tried lol ?. We just sat around and watched her illuminati videos until I got sleepy do I'm off to bed and she's playing you guessed it WOW. But i do hope she at least had fun with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Hi friend, you're sailing in the wrong boat! Time to disembark and move on with your life. From the way you have written your posts I wonder if you have masochistic tendencies where you want to be dominated by your wife! It does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. I also think your wife has lost respect for you as a man and is already pursuing other men/ relationships through this he of hers. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Basically because of the lack of attention for so long I kinda developed a bit of a kink. It involves other men and the like, but she's not into it. Other men and...her? You? Sounds like your issues might go beyond role playing video games... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author IHateWoW Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 The kink is about seeing her with other men. I've asked her to flirt online, and that kinda thing. But she's not into it, I've even tried getting her to tell me about guys she's been with buy she won't do that either. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 So she won't sleep with you or talk dirty with you. And she ignores you completely to play video games all night. How long do you plan on living like this? Mr. Lucky 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Martyshere Posted September 1, 2016 Share Posted September 1, 2016 First of all, I think it's awesome that you are trying hard to make this work! Hats off to you sir So... others have already said things that are definitely worth a try ...the whole take charge/initiative and be less passive. Here's something else: Your wife seems addicted to WoW. I remember reading somewhere that addicts don't do (emotional) intimacy. It just doesn't seem like she's very interested in the relationship (I might be wrong) and in keeping it alive. She's checked out, mentally and emotionally. Here's a great tip: What about a "romantic" getaway or some other sort of mini vacation? That could definitely help interrupt the monotony. Just some ideas... good luck buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
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