Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 I haven't replied yet to yesterday's text. After that text, several hours later I received a "?" and then a few hours after that, a "Hello?". And then a text saying she'd appreciate a response and that we also need to talk about new daycare for our son. And then this morning another "Hello??" Seems a bit much for a non-emergency related question to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 It's none of her business. No response is good. She'll learn sooner or later No More Mr Nice Guy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 This is your time to shine. You're going your own way now. The princess can't understand if the world doesn't revolve around her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 You don't owe your ex anything. But you do owe your son a proper upbringing. Which means not introducing him to every single GF. Not one. Unless you're ready to propose and are ready to commit to her, your son should not be exposed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 You don't owe your ex anything. But you do owe your son a proper upbringing. Which means not introducing him to every single GF. Not one. Unless you're ready to propose and are ready to commit to her, your son should not be exposed. The reasoning is kids get attached quickly and if it's a short term thing they don't understand when it ends. They get hurt. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 The person I'm seeing now, I've known for over 13 years. We're committed. I'm not worried about that. I will have to answer my ex's text at some point in regards to figuring out new daycare though and I'm sure she's going to push again for an answer to her first question. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Well just tell her what I said above and ask her what daycare is she considering?" Nothing more. If she asks why you didn't get back to her tell her you were too tired from having sex all night. (Just kidding)! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 (edited) She got super livid when I wouldn't answer the question about who I was seeing. I told her that it was really none of her business and that I've known my current gf for 13 years and trust her. And that if we're not going to discuss daycare then we're not having any further conversation. Edited December 29, 2016 by klegacy Wording 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 I do believe Klegacy has turned into "the man"!!!! Nice job, bro!!!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Well just tell her what I said above and ask her what daycare is she considering?" Nothing more. If she asks why you didn't get back to her tell her you were too tired from having sex all night. (Just kidding)! Change your Facebook to "ENGAGED" Do it!!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 So she really wasn't interested in daycare just to be nosey and make you answer her. I bet she is going crazy wondering who this woman is and the fact that you've known her for 13 years. Let her stew. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Then add a line- traded up for better Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 Change your Facebook to "ENGAGED" Do it!!!!! Haha. It's currently set to in a relationship. But I have my ex, her friends and family all blocked so the likelihood of her seeing anything there is slim. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Yep, she's fishing!!!!! Poor muffin can't believe she's being replaced Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 So she really wasn't interested in daycare just to be nosey and make you answer her. I bet she is going crazy wondering who this woman is and the fact that you've known her for 13 years. Let her stew. Yep you're right, because I was trying to have conversation about daycare and she wasn't even focusing on it at all. She tried to push for a name and I shut down the convo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Haha. It's currently set to in a relationship. But I have my ex, her friends and family all blocked so the likelihood of her seeing anything there is slim. Nope, she'll get the info you can bank on that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 Nope, she'll get the info you can bank on that Yeah but the more difficult it is for her to, the more obvious it is that she's hunting/fishing. Sucks to be her. Haha. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 When you get strong you become more attractive. Now she's interested. Yep, you got mojo now. For your future. The thing is a smart guy who gets burnt really bad learns from it and never lets it happen again. When the time comes and it will from what she's doing. Just say "I moved on you have to do the same". You deserve and can get better Glad you're at this stage. Feels real good doesn't it? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Nope, she'll get the info you can bank on that I can guarantee you she has spent half the day searching and thinking about this woman and who she is, what she looks like, what she does for a living and of course, her age. Too bad he didn't tell her he had to wait 13 years for this woman to be of age to date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 I can guarantee you she has spent half the day searching and thinking about this woman and who she is, what she looks like, what she does for a living and of course, her age. Too bad he didn't tell her he had to wait 13 years for this woman to be of age to date. Hahaha. Well whether she did or not, I really couldn't care less. She got her happy adulterated relationship, she can keep her nose out of my business. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 How old is she? Is she local? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 I just want to say I'm really sorry this happened to you. I know how hurtful it is losing two close people at once. One thing you must come to believe is that she was NEVER who you thought she was. You were in love with an illusion. You would never have fallen in love with this person who would leave you for your friend (or be friends with someone who had no loyalty like this friend either). So now you have to face that is who both of them are and do some self-reflection and ask yourself: How did I miss this? Why didn't I know these were two people with very little ethics and who aren't empathetic enough to stop them from doing something that is so hurtful to someone? That's who they are and you let both of them into your life. You need to find out why. What have you been blind about? Maybe that will help you move on. To cope with sharing a child with her, you're going to have to emotionally move on and use self-discipline and be mature and just do it. You can't put that stress on your kids by acting like it's killing you. Kids know everything. Nothing gets past them. If you are bitter, they know it. You have to be a man now and have a business arrangement only to exchange the kids and move on. Get help if you need to. It's hard. You missed something in her character and your friend's. You need to find out why. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Yep you're right, because I was trying to have conversation about daycare and she wasn't even focusing on it at all. She tried to push for a name and I shut down the convo. This is the point where her current relationship will go down hill... the more you dont answer the more it will eat her up and damage the fake bond she has now. Go in for maxium damage! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey born raised Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Your first post from this august of this year My wife and I started our relationship like out of romantic movie. Our wedding was full of love. We have a child who just turned 2. My wife comes from a Christian family who believed marriage was forever. She is five years younger than I (I am 29) and we’d been married almost 3 years when the most unexpected thing happened. She went from talking about all the great things we would be doing this summer, and the idea of having a second child, to being very distant in a week. Towards the end we met with a councilor where she said she wanted space. She told councilors and friends and family that she just needed to separate for awhile to figure out who she was and what she wanted. But it turned out, she was lying to everyone. She’d been having an emotional affair with my friend, that was developing into more. I should’ve seen the signs, but I was too blind by trust and love for her to realize. The secret emails. The lengthy conversations they’d have right in front of me. She always thought that we should find him someone nice, but I never realized it would be her. She started seeking attention from other guys and meeting them for coffee, sharing emails and private messages, and then this happened, all in a short span of time. She moved out of our home very quickly and immediately began a relationship with the guy, and did all the things over the summer that we had talked about doing, and has involved our son in their relationship. It’s ripped me apart and broken me beyond repair. The worst thing is, everyone around us has completely accepted it. As if she’d done no wrong. I’ve been left alone, without anyone, while she enjoys the company of him and all our friends, all her family, even one of my family members. Our son’s birthday just passed, and while everyone celebrated with them for his birthday, I was by myself. Still not understanding to this day why this happened. I’m out of options. I’ve talked to councilors, psychologists, my doctor, whatever remaining friends I have, and I don’t know what to do. I can’t keep living in her hometown but I don’t want to go away from my son. But each day is killing me more and more. I thought she was my soulmate, and I still love her so much, but I’m so destroyed by all this. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Believe in yourself. Take a moment to re-read your thread and see how far you have traveled. Keep learning, learn how to defend yourself and others. Learn how and when to be kind and how to let go, be firm and say no. Shakespeare(?) said be neither a borrower or a lender. Learn to neither be abusive and a user or allow yourself to be used or abused. In case our paths don't cross again: A joyfull new year. May the BEST on 2016 be the WORST of 2017 of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author klegacy Posted December 30, 2016 Author Share Posted December 30, 2016 This is the point where her current relationship will go down hill... the more you dont answer the more it will eat her up and damage the fake bond she has now. Go in for maxium damage! Haha. I'd like to believe that. But I'm pretty sure she doesn't care that much. She thinks she's got the perfect relationship now. No changing that. Link to post Share on other sites
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