Bipolar Disorder and Marriage

[Roses777]

She moved out at the end of July. It's been over a month and a bit and she got the police involved so we cannot even talk out our concerns right now. That's why I feel she might even be Borderline Disorder too.

 

Before she said she was Single but I quickly said she was separated yet still married so she could be charged with adultery, etc. She seems to not care and changed it to single yesterday. I really doubt she has recovered from the split plus her cat was dying last I saw her AND she was encountering financial difficulties.

 

Do you think she will return once she realizes what we had together?

[CarrieT]

No.

 

 

 

Ten characters.

[Roses777]

No.

 

 

 

Ten characters.

 

Normally perhaps but she is unmedicated so I don't believe that. We have been on and off over 7 years so it will be very hard for her to replace that. She always comes back in 2-4 months.

[Arieswoman]

Roses777,

Let's have a look at this;

 

She moved out and got the police involved.

 

She lied about being "single".

 

You have been on/off for 7 years.

 

Please ask yourself why in the name of sweet reason do you want to continue with this boomeranging, unstable, drama queen?

 

Please grow a backbone and stop idealising this unhealthy association and cut her out of your life - and do it NOW.

[planning4later]

Roses777,

Let's have a look at this;

 

She moved out and got the police involved.

 

She lied about being "single".

 

You have been on/off for 7 years.

 

Please ask yourself why in the name of sweet reason do you want to continue with this boomeranging, unstable, drama queen?

 

Please grow a backbone and stop idealising this unhealthy association and cut her out of your life - and do it NOW.

 

Hard to hear. But true. It took me several YEARS after my divorce from a borderline to stop focusing on her problems and start asking why I got involved with someone like that.

[LancasterAmos1966]

She always comes back in 2-4 months.

 

The new lifestyle that my estranged wife took up was just too stressful to handle. Staying out all night and arriving back home at 4am, showing up with a new boyfriend at my doorstep, told me that she was going to call the police on me, etc.

 

As if that wasn't bad enough, she would act like there was nothing wrong with her actions. Now that really messed with my mind.

 

Due to my religious convictions, I'd never tell her to move out, and I'd never file divorce nor even sign any divorce papers, so she figured she could do whatever she wanted and get away with it.

 

Well, even though I could not file divorce, I decided to make my own bedroom and that was a turning point for me and even her.

 

I was able to finally sleep through the night without waking up wondering if she was home or not. And it was a turning point for her too, because she realized I was done accepting her new lifestyle.

 

Whether is was all an act or she has borderline personality disorder really doesn't matter. (I personally believe she has BPD). All I know is that I needed to take action.

 

Within just a few months of making my own bedroom, she moved out, got her own apartment, and has been gone for nearly 4 years.

 

I was able to rebuild my emotions, become Mr. Mom to my 6 kids, and start having a life again without any of the nonsense that I endured for so long.

 

Roses777, if you are Ok with her actions, then I'd say continue as-is.

 

But if your emotions are whacked out, and your entire life is on-hold, then I'd suggest making some changes.

Edited September 3, 2016 by LancasterAmos1966