Playing hard to get?

[SillyRabbitmetKitty]

I was on dating app and chatted with a guy who is 12 years older than me (I am 42) for about 3 months, we had an extraordinary fun chat which we both enjoyed, witty and a bit flirty, he also gave me work advises and share some music. He is a very patient man, it took like 3 weeks for him to ask me number for whatsapp and wechat and he casually mentioned meet up after another month chat and I was being playful about it and it went off. And the chat went on, but we never asked each other deep questions, like are you marry or what is he single or what, he asked me “do you have boyfriend” once and I playful answered him back "do you?" sometimes we stopped texting for few days or a week, I guess we both playing hard to get. I was so looking forward to meet him so I went aloof on texting for almost a month, then suddenly texted something and this time he finally asked me out (it was a 2 weeks advanced date), It was last Friday and just 1 day away from my birthday. He let me decided the place and he was quite serious about the booking and confirmed me few times. We finally met, he gave me a gift (which he asked me to open but I said I will open it later), 2 wine glasses with my name engraved on it and he wrote me a card, "with the word wonderful before my name", dinner was fine, we chatted and I can sensed that we both nervous, but he did mentioned about "next time" during the dinner and I just smiled, he ordered red wine and I wasn't a good drinker, the dinner last from 7pm till 12:30, he asked me if I want dessert and I said I want champagne for my bday. He paid for dinner which was quite expensive, I was sure becoz of the wine he ordered.

 

The champagne hit me badly and I was kind of hammered. We went outside terrace and I was really dizzy, I saw his hand tried to reach my waist but he didn't, later on I was so dizzy that I hugged him and put my head on his chest, my mind knew what I was doing but I was so dizzy that I really want to lean on him, after some time he escorted me backed to the restaurant and he tried to give me something to drink to ease my dizziness, he just let me lean on his chest but didn’t touch me at all, he sweet talked to me during that time, the restaurant was almost empty and we really need to leave and he said he send me home, and again I was being playful with him and said I send him home, I wasn't so sure to disclose my address to him since we were really careful about telling each other personal details, at the end, we both gave in and he sent me home. He held his hand out when the taxi arrived. He didn't touch me during the ride (I have dated some many guys who jumped me, kissed, cuddled, touched the minute we were alone)

 

When I arrived home, I leaned in and gave him a kiss on his face. Then the next 2 days I went on a short trip when I backed I sent him a thank you text which he answered right away "you're welcome" and I mentioned the champagne hit me hard and he said I survived at the end and with a emoji of “a kiss buddy”

 

Then we shared a few texts which he replied quite quickly and he stopped, few days I sent him a text saying Good morning and he replied back then I stopped.

 

I really don't know what happen here, he did mentioned that “ I am 12 years older than you” during dinner, he is an engineer, he is funny and flirty when texting, but is he shy when he met me? Since I do not know if he is single or not, I am not sure if he try to avoid intimacy when we were in public, judging from his texts and availability, I guess he is kind of a divorcee or single.

 

His birthday will be about a month ahead, what should I do during this period, I am so reluctant to text him but I miss him quite a lot. We both playing mind game and I think it is about time I have my white flag ready and want to know what's going on here?

 

We were so careful towards each other that we both sensed that, who initiate the texts and carefully not to stepped into something too personal. Of course I am quite certain we both want to know things about each other. The reason I held back is the bad experiences I have encountered and so afraid of getting hurt, as for him, I have no idea.