tinkerbell16 Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 (edited) The up side Wonderful things that have happened since my (unplanned) divorce: I met my best friend (my best friend used to be my ex H) and learned how amazing and supportive friends can be I have an entire new group of friends for that matter, in addition to my old friends. My relationship with my family got stronger. I got more patient, humble, open minded and less judgmental. I was able to focus on my business more and as a result, I am slated to have my most successful year ever since starting almost 10 years ago. I dated a Scorpio (those of you who have know what I am talking about) lol I drove a car over a 100 miles an hour. I sang in front of an audience. I bought a house by myself. I chopped a tree down by myself. I have learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined. I have scratched at least 8 things off my bucket list. I am in the best physical and mental state of my life. I laugh harder than ever before... mostly at myself. I have found out how strong I am. I appreciate people and loved ones even more. I have danced a... uhem a "few" nights away (ex didn't dance) I cherish my freedom. I have met some of the most amazing people. I learned how to start a really great fire (literally and figuratively). I landed the largest project of my carrer. I was recognized for my work internationally. I have watched more sunsets. I stopped watching TV altogether. I have an extensive new stiletto collection and now own only one pair of flip flops (ladies you know how it is I embrace life like never before. I am annoyingly positive. I found love again. I am a better version of myself every day. Those of you going through divorce know this... you will survive and you will have your own list of wonderful things to be thankful for. It just takes time. Edited September 3, 2016 by tinkerbell16 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff1690 Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Glad you transferred this for it's own thread. A lot of negative stuff on this board and the positives are always great to read and give those of us going through this hope. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Just went through a tropical storm yesterday. Today is bright and sunny. Amazing how that happens. Just like life. In my darkest days it always gets better. The past is written but the future is yours to write. Like most I used to be afraid of the unknown but have stepped out many times not knowing what was on the other side. It's always turned out better. When one door closes another opens. I've never seen that not happen yet. Once you figure out your life is what you want to make it. Life becomes so much easier/better. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Tonofbricks Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Tink I'll share my upside... Took my girls 8 & 13 and one of their friends whitewater rafting.Something that the pre separation me would have never done -without prodding from W. They had sooo much fun. It was about an hr ride with class 1-ll and short section of lll. Youngest screamed and laughed with excitement! The only thing that got me down was seeing complete large families doing this together.. Something my kids won't have anymore... At least on my end .. She has large extended family. But I realized this is the new reality and I made the most of the day! Just though I'd share ... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Tink I'll share my upside... Took my girls 8 & 13 and one of their friends whitewater rafting.Something that the pre separation me would have never done -without prodding from W. They had sooo much fun. It was about an hr ride with class 1-ll and short section of lll. Youngest screamed and laughed with excitement! The only thing that got me down was seeing complete large families doing this together.. Something my kids won't have anymore... At least on my end .. She has large extended family. But I realized this is the new reality and I made the most of the day! Just though I'd share ... Nice job of working with what you've got. Don't spend time worrying about what you can't control or fix. Link to post Share on other sites
brokenmom Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 This was so refreshing to read! It's so hard to remind yourself of the blessings you have when you're going through something as dark as divorce! Thank you for sharing! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
planning4later Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Nice job of working with what you've got. Don't spend time worrying about what you can't control or fix. This is the key, especially when you're dealing with someone who has a personality disorder. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkerbell16 Posted September 4, 2016 Author Share Posted September 4, 2016 Tink I'll share my upside... Took my girls 8 & 13 and one of their friends whitewater rafting.Something that the pre separation me would have never done -without prodding from W. They had sooo much fun. It was about an hr ride with class 1-ll and short section of lll. Youngest screamed and laughed with excitement! The only thing that got me down was seeing complete large families doing this together.. Something my kids won't have anymore... At least on my end .. She has large extended family. But I realized this is the new reality and I made the most of the day! Just though I'd share ... That's awesome! I remember taking my daughter to college orientation by myself. Something we did as a family with my son. Funny thing, when you look around you will see just as many single parent situations it's just in the beginning we feel we lost a limb. Embrace the new normal and keep up the new adventures with the kids! Link to post Share on other sites
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