IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 As most of you know, I am in a LDR. We see each other every weekend. Well this weekend was special. He came Friday night and left at like 11 last night. I think that was a little long to be with him.... I started noticing little things that bother me. The fact that he looks like a frog. We don't joke or play. I mean were not serious but he's not a very extroverted person. Now this might seem arrogant, but I am not joking about the magnitude of this. All he does is tell me how great I am and how wonderful everything I do is. I mean once is OK....But he tells me every 5 seconds. Did you ever see that episode of friends where Alec Baldwin played Phoebe's over excited BF and everything was absolutely wonderful to him? Well that's how it is. From the way I eat a cheese burger to the way I brush my hair to the way I sneeze. EVERYTHING is cute. Now I know most girl would love to have a BF that does this....Maybe I'm psyching myself out and subconsciously pushing him away. I always do this. I find things that annoy me and then eventually get sick if him and end it. Maybe I'm just so used to being called a bitch and the things that bothered my ex.....he thinks their all cute. The one thing that I do like about him is all the little things he notices about me. Like when a good song comes on the radio, I clap and say "Good Song!" And get all excited like a little girl. But then again, He'll notice things that I didn't even notice. I would just like to see him mad and find something that actually bothers him. That might be tough since NOTHING I do is wrong. I think I need to stop pushing all the good ones away. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 My H does the same thing, constantly complimenting me. I can look my worst and he'll tell me how beautiful I am. Sometimes it gets old, but I'd rather have him treat me nicely or crappy ANY DAY. I say enjoy it. Sit back, relax and enjoy the attention. If it gets to be too much, talk to him. Tell him. I've had many of conversations about it with my H. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by tiki I've had many of conversations about it with my H. How exactly did you address it? Link to post Share on other sites
NiCoLe20 Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 lol omg this is how my b/f is.. he always says he loves me, im perfect, im soo in love.. and i say it back but not every 5 minutes!! he does this too... and I found a way to make him stop! lol... i yell at him. sometimes I do it purposely, but Im never mean to him .. he knows I joke around. I pick out little things to annoy him and he will quit bein so nice to me... Like, I will tell him his hair is too short, he needs to grow it out or something about his outfit not matching, he will get mad and I think thats cute lol... just do what u gotta do to see what gets him mad lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by NiCoLe20 do what u gotta do to see what gets him mad lol According to him, nothing. Nothing I do will make him mad. And he said that it takes ALOT for him to get mad, So I don't see him punching something anytime soon. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 I told him it was over the top. To quit focusing on the physical attributes. Then he tries to convince me, "No, you're beautiful on the inside too, it's the whole package". I finally say screw it, and just thank him twenty times a day. I figure it's better than him badmouthing me. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 I would say your bf is displaying very unhealthy behavior, IHNFC. Sure a bit of complimenting never hurts, but is seems more like he is carving some pedestal for you to have your throne on. He makes you his everything - but of course you are not perfect. He will give up his entire personality if he keeps this up - you would be a gf to a doormat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez you would be a gf to a doormat. Thats exactly how I feel. Like he's a pushover. Link to post Share on other sites
lvgrl Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Wait wait wait... Maybe its him that insecure with himself, and by making you feel better about yourself, it makes him feel better.. Like I have said in a previous post, It doesnt matter I dont care and I will never ever agree with the term that guys like to use to loosely, GIRLS DO NOT LIKE JERKS.. But jerks seem to be the only guys out there who give us a challenge and who push our buttons and somehow that makes us feel closer to the loser.. Be lucky that you have a guy like that, yes you are right most girls would love to have the attention that you are getting, but look at it as, at least your guy tells you whats good about you and actually means it.. I would just be patient and if it does get to be too much as tiki said, then tell him. If he really thinks all those things are wonderful about you, and he really cares for you the way he makes you think he does, then he should have NO problem understanding that 24/7 is not a compliment drag strip..its not see how many nice things you can say about someone before the end of the night.. Too much is still never enough, because when he does start to change if you do talk to him about it, then YOU are going to realize that when you do something and he doesnt respond to it as thats so cute, or oh my gosh you are so cute just make sure that YOU dont start to get insecure when he backs down. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 The fact that he looks like a frog Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue I started noticing little things that bother me. The fact that he looks like a frog. And you didn't notice this at the beginning? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Yeah.....I have a habit of finding animals that resemble people. My ex looked like a T-Rex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo And you didn't notice this at the beginning? Well I never spent more than a night with him. We just spent 4 days together and he was all i saw and I started to notice these things...guess cause there was nothing else to look at but him for 4 days. But he seemed on overdrive this weekend with the compliments. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Aren't you moving soon anyway? If you don't like him, you should consider leaving. He maybe can make another woman out there very happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Yeah I have considered the fact that I'm moving. He's actually coming with me for that week we are going to FL to scope out the area. A whole week of "Wonderfuls" and "Amazings" Oh man.....What do I get myself into? Keep in mind I asked him to go before this past weekend when I found out how wonderful I am. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Yeah, it sounds like it's gone downhill fast. If he's not doin it for ya, he's just not doin it for ya. Don't force it. Tell him you've had a change of heart. Creepy is so eighties. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Thats exactly how I feel. Like he's a pushover. Lots of guys make this mistake. They think that if they smother you with affection you will like them more. You seem to be the kind that likes some interaction with your b/f and not a yes man. I feel the same with women. I would much rather have one who tells me when I am being a sh*t then one who thinks I'm wonderful. We need balance and all one way or the other is not attractive. He will get mad . You just haven't found the thing that pushes his button yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear He will get mad . You just haven't found the thing that pushes his button yet. I know this sounds f***ed up but I can't wait for the day when i do find that button. With my luck....He'll tell me I look cute mad and the fight will be over. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Can't you better simply break up with him then? It will safe him the cardio-vascular issues, and it might save you a vase or whatever is present in your room. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 5, 2005 Author Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez Can't you better simply break up with him then? It will safe him the cardio-vascular issues, and it might save you a vase or whatever is present in your room. I'm going to see if this continues. I always make hasty decisions and wind up kicking myslef in the ass. If it continues....I'm moving in 2 months. Link to post Share on other sites
lvgrl Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Do what you gotta do.. Link to post Share on other sites
MJTig Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Must be nice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 18, 2005 Author Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by MJTig Must be nice. What? The constant complimenting? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Hey did you sump him/stay with him? UPDATE!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 18, 2005 Author Share Posted July 18, 2005 Oh were still together. He said something to me this weekend that made me melt and I addressed the constant complimenting. He said he would tone it down but he can't totally stop complimentingsuch a wonderful person . Once in a while is OK. So it's all going to work out.....at least until I move. Link to post Share on other sites
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