edelveis Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 hey everyone.my ex girlfriend,the only woman i have ever loved till now,came back to my life 4 months ago with a friend request in facebook.Even if i will always love her and caring about her i have decided since long ago that we can not be together because she can destroy me emotionally again.actually if i give in its a matter of time to hurt me again.so i ignored the request and after a while i deleted it.but she added me again and have not removed it till then.what should i do?is it a good idea to text her to see what she wants?thank you all for your help and support. Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 What caused the breakup? Where is her head now? Is she in a bad place and is looking? You take care of yourself first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author edelveis Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 It is a long and complicated story.but i will write you the most important things.It was 2 years ago when she came back to me to ask me to give her another chance.i told her that she should prove that she deserves the chance.so we were having contact and talking like getting to know each other from 0.but suddenly i found out she was seeing another guy too.i told her that we were over,she begged me and told me that i am the one she wants and that if i can forgive her she will leave the other guy.of course i didnt forgive her and moved on.she was in a realtionship with the other till now that she broke up and sent me the friend request. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Don't open the door to her - delete her latest request, and any future ones. If you think she could potentially hurt you again, just move on and find someone who is better for you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Honey, it didn't work before - she hurt you. She is looking for a dumping ground, don't be it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author edelveis Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 thank you so much guys for you messages.and you are both right,she just wants to play again,i am glad that i can handle it the way i have done it.i am just curious to see what excuse she will find this time.how she would reason her return Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 That's the sign of being empathic and intelligent. She burned you before, she is in a bad place ... let her figure out her own mess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author edelveis Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 so no message is you suggestion,right? Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Dignity is everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Patrice Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 She will call you or visit .. she needs to do the work now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author edelveis Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 actually i don't expect anything from her.i dont want her back.i am just curious why she insists.but i agree with you.thank you:) Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Delete the request and block her on FB and any other avenue of contact. She's not worth your time. Link to post Share on other sites
Thatoneguy55 Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Just went through this. Don't do it.. Don't do it. DON'T DO IT. She more than likely just got out of a bad relationship and is looking for her binky to comfort her for a week or two. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 freaking BLOCK her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author edelveis Posted September 4, 2016 Author Share Posted September 4, 2016 thank you all guys for the support:) i will follow ur advice because i already know its the right one.god bless you all Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 Everybody here already said it all. She doesn't deserve any reply. I think it's not only a matter of timing. It's a matter of sharing the same values in life. For example, If any girl would have came to me in any scenario and said: "If you take me I will leave the other guy", I would have kicked her ass immediately. Because if she wanted you she should have first leave the other guy, and only then coming to you and ask you to forgive. Not while she's still seeing him. She has lower moral standards. Why should you give her the slightest pleasure to get any information about you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted September 4, 2016 Share Posted September 4, 2016 You already know what to do. You said it in your post. If you want conformation, here you go. Your post shows that you are smart enough to know she is bad for you. Delete the request and keep deleting them. I you are smart enough to realize that she is bad for you, then you should be smart enough to delete a friend request. Stay strong... Link to post Share on other sites
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