Girl Problems

[Biologynerd15]

Hi,

 

I just discovered about this place and wanted to make a post about an issue that's bothering me relating to a certain girl. To start off, I want to say that I'm currently a graduate student in biology going for my PhD (currently studying for qualifying exams which are 2 months away). I'm also someone who has difficulty (or rather I should say anxiety) talking to girls and certain types of people. I have no idea why, I have a good friend group and a few really close friends that I can be open about everything. However I don't know why but sometimes my mind just goes blank and I feel acting really awkward around certain people (as an example I am usually upbeat and the jokester in my friend group but I start getting serious and anxious around certain people and forget how to communicate).

 

 

But going back to the original point, there is another PhD student working in the same building as me but in the Chemistry Lab. I see her occasionally and I've developed a crush on her. We hung out a couple times when one of my friends in my research group invited me to go hang out with her group. I felt really awkward around her and her lab until I had a few drinks and then I really enjoyed hanging out with her. We talked about different things and I mentioned how I really like Atlanta, Georgia (she is from there and I interned for CDC and loved the area). But anway, we connected when I was drunk. However the next couple of times I saw her in the lab, I was awkward. She is a pretty quiet person and extremely nice but I am always so awkward talking to her. I can hold a conversation for a few minutes but then I start stumbling and fumbling with words (I get a monkey mind). Anyway I tried to struggle through and talk to her and since she is studying for quals too (her exams are different but some of the material is similiar) I asked if she wanted to study together. We met up once together and studied and even though I had monkey mind, it was pretty productive. I was awkward but a little less. However we haven't had time to meet up since. Also I have her number and we texted a little bit. She usually replies a few hours late (I don't know if this means anything but her replies are pretty thought out and not just lol). I texted her a few times to meet up to study and last week asked if she wanted to meet up over the weekend, however she didn't reply. She did reply a few days later though saying sorry for the late reply and asking how my studying was going. We texted back a little bit (though with 3-4 hours in between texts) and the last texts were from me a few days ago with no reply. Now I don't know what to do, I don't want to constantly nag her. I really like her so I don't know if I should approach her a different way or if I should just let it go. Seeing that she takes a long time to reply, or not reply, I thought that maybe she is not interested and I shouldn't bug her. Anyone have thoughts? Sorry if this seems like a long rant, I was procrastinating from studying and decided to write this up.

Edited September 3, 2016 by Biologynerd15

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I would say she's not very interested because she avoided answering your last invitation.

 

By the way, I would recommend you get involved using the app iNaturalist and meet people that way. It's an app to search for new species by photographing them and sending it to the app. Sounds fun.