An article about love

[Daisy-oliviaWentcher]

Why I Married Someone I Wasn?t Attracted To

 

 

So up above is an article about a woman who married someone who she wasn't attracted to. I recommend hyperlinking it and reading it in your own time. I received it from a friend. It's a good read.

 

I've read and even written many posts about is settling bad? Etc... some say entirely, and some say no.

 

This article looks at settling from a definite and positive point of view, that a friend of hers just kept persisting, and she went into the relationship not even liking the guy, but just hoping it would turn out, after all, her good looking ex-treated her badly, and it would appear, that's all she wanted, was a guy that treated her well.

 

I would ask you to read it if you have the time and weigh in your thoughts, could you date a guy/girl you weren't attracted to, but... felt COMFORTABLE with enough to be yourself around.

 

From my observation, looks probably matter more to men, that they couldn't be with someone unless they were physically attracted to them, which is why a lot of woman would probably get rejected trying to chase a guy but for a lot of woman ( and I have seen this happen) they would quite happily 'settle' for their less attractive buddy that was trying to pursue them because they knew that he would more likely treat her better, feeling like HE had lucked up and would be all the more grateful.

 

 

I would love to hear what some of your thoughts are regarding the article and from your own experience

[Gaeta]

She grew in love with him and their marriage will last a life time.

 

I used to, but do not believe in love at first sight anymore. All those fireworks, butterflies, intense chemistry are generated in the brain and in between the legs. None of it is coming from the heart. Once all that fluffiness is gone you are left with someone you often have nothing in common with, too blinded by the butterflies to see clear at beginning.

 

This is how I fell in love with my BF. There was no butterflies, no special chemistry, no fireworks. He was a man with qualities I liked, he presented well, he had made a good impression on me on our first meet so I decided to give it a chance. We grew in love slowly. I would not trade him for anyone else in the world. He rocks my world. He is the loveliest man I have ever met and I wish I had met him 30 years ago and get to spend a life time with him.

[Bialy]

I used to think I had a very specific physical type. These days, I'm flexible.

 

There are qualities I'm looking for now that I never really thought much about at all until my ex and I split. I want to grow into love with someone now- though initial chemistry would be nice. It doesn't have to be intense - just something to make me want to see the guy again and again.

 

It could be something as simple as just being comfortable around him. Or, great conversations. If I'm having stimulating and/or thought-provoking and/or playful conversations with a guy and he gets me hooked that way --- oh boy, I love that.

[Daisy-oliviaWentcher]

I used to think I had a very particular physical type. These days, I'm flexible.

 

There are qualities I'm looking for now that I never really thought much about at all until my ex, and I split. I want to grow into love with someone now- though introductory chemistry would be helpful. It doesn't have to be intense - just something to make me want to see the guy again and again.

 

It could be something as simple as just being comfortable around him. Or, great conversations. If I'm having stimulating and thought-provoking and playful conversations with a guy and he get me hooked that way --- oh boy, I love that.

 

I totally agree with this. I use to confuse chemistry with love; it seems chemistry is all that it is just chemistry. I hope to find a story like yours Gaeta. The butterflies have burned me. Butterflies, after all, do just fly away after a while; they never stay still. Love that grows deeply and profoundly means that once you do eventually make something physical out of it, seems to be built on a foundation of something more substantial and unique, and that's what I am hoping for.