Why she travels alone as a married woman?

[LookAtThisPOst]

Why I Travel Alone As A Married Woman

 

Seems that the general consensus of people that meet this "married" woman they are taken aback when they find this out. Of course, I'm siding with the "taken aback" types.

 

I read this and there's just something a bit off about this, yes? No?

 

Then I saw this quote:

 

"If he wants to jump ship because I peaced out for a few weeks, then he’s probably not the person I want to grow old with."

 

I'm like, "Really?" Why he married her in the first place? Are is this one of those "I'm a woman, hear me roar" articles designed to create as stir and clicks to unapproving types?

Edited September 5, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst

[CarrieT]

It was a really lame article, in my opinion.

 

Every relationship is unique and their's just happens to involve the fact that her job involves her traveling alone for research.

 

Big deal.

 

There are so many marriages where a spouse has to travel for work and the other stays home. My sister and her husband (and they have been married for 25+ years and are in their 60s) live apart eight to ten months out of the year. He works a job in Florida and she is in California. It works for them and because they are apart for so long, besides the trips they both take to see each other, they each take "mini vacations" by themselves, just because.

 

I am in my 50s and have only been married three years. However, once a year, I take a trip BY MYSELF for my own enrichment. My husband and I travel together to places that we enjoy together, but there are places and things he does not enjoy. Should I be precluded from those experiences just because he doesn't like them?

[losangelena]

I don't really see the big deal. She wants to travel alone and her husband doesn't mind. I think that's all the go-ahead one needs, quite frankly.

 

Why should she sit around, missing out on something she really wants to do, just because her husband would rather not go?

 

I'm not married, but I've always heard that part of a healthy marriage was having separate interests—would it be so strange if she wanted to take martial arts lessons? Or language classes? Is it strange that she's traveling by herself because she's gone for extended periods of time?

 

If her husband had a problem with it, or would rather she stay home or wait for him to make those trips, I can see it being an issue. But if both parties are cool with it, I see nothing wrong.

[basil67]

I've never traveled alone. But I don't see any problem with it.

[road]

Because a wife goes on vacations alone does not mean she is having a PA.

 

 

Though I know of women that have gone on vacations alone to have a PA.

[T-16bullseyeWompRat]

My wife purchased a round trip for me solo for my birthday this year. I'm going to Colorado for 7 days to backpack. 15 days to go! Can't wait!!!

[basil67]

My wife purchased a round trip for me solo for my birthday this year. I'm going to Colorado for 7 days to backpack. 15 days to go! Can't wait!!!

 

Whoa! Lucky you. Enjoy

[BettyDraper]

I've never traveled alone. But I don't see any problem with it.

 

This. Nothing wrong with travelling alone even though I would not do so.

[Just a Guy]

Hi folks, I guess as long as a relationship is strong and has weathered some of life's ups' and downs' without faltering, it should be perfectly alright for one or the other partner to travel alone. However, trust has to be the bedrock of such relationships and if there is even the slightest of chinks in this vital component, then I think the idea would be disastrous. I remember reading in this very forum of a story by a man in Canada who had been married to his wife for fourteen years in what was, ostensibly a reasonably happy marriage with no obvious problems. The wife had an interest in music and she signed up for some course in music in France. The course was for a two week duration. Since the husband could not go she travelled alone. Well while there the unexpected happened and she fell for some rich European guy who swept her off her feet.

 

When she came home after the two weeks were over she told her husband that their marriage was over and that she planned on going back to Europe to join her new beau. So travelling alone can have it's pitfalls apart from the fact that both men and women, if they are so inclined, can have one night stands and short term affairs under the guise of travelling alone. Only the partners within a relationship know their counterparts persona( and sometimes they don't) enough to trust them or not. Boundaries have to be personal and written in stone for such arrangements to work. Just my own thoughts.

[Just a Guy]

On another note, I cannot understand how couples can have long standing LDRs'. My personal opinion on this is that the whole point of marriage is to share your life with a person of the opposite sex and sharing means living together. If a husband and wife only live together for two or three months of the year, are they truly husband and wife or just FWBs who have legalised their relationship? I may be missing something here but I know it would not work for me. This apart, in this day and age it is a sure fire recipe for affairs. After all, how does a person with a normal or above normal libido live apart from his or her spouse for extended periods without satisfying his or her sexual needs. I think this is one reason why the Military has a which rate of infidelity because couples are seperated by force of circumstances.

I guess I'm just old fashioned!

[LookAtThisPOst]

I'm not married, but I've always heard that part of a healthy marriage was having separate interests

 

You would think, right? But it's not the end-all-be-all....take the following:

 

I actually know of a marriage that's ending after 20 years due to the husband, although he loves here, supports her hobbies and such, but has no desire to join her on her hobbies.

 

She wants him to join her as she's always wanted to travel to see the world, etc.

 

But apparently, he's like "go on ahead, have fun!" and she's like 'I want a divorce!"

 

By the way, I'm not talking about traveling for work, I'm talking about for pleasure/vacation.

 

When she came home after the two weeks were over she told her husband that their marriage was over and that she planned on going back to Europe to join her new beau.

 

Ouch!!

 

Right, usually too me a person desiring to travel alone a little too frequently is the tell-tale signs of a marriage circling the drain. Every married person or couple that has done this...just ask them about a year later to see if they are still together, and usually they've split up/divorced. You can read between the lines.

 

It's kind of like when a married woman joins her single friends at a club, leaving the husband behind...she says, "I invite him, he doesn't like to dance." and I'm thinking, "Can't you get another hobby than trolling dance clubs as a married woman?"

 

Though, I'm not sure of traveling and dance clubs compare in this case, but I think there are just certain designated couples activities.

Edited September 6, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst

[LookAtThisPOst]

Because a wife goes on vacations alone does not mean she is having a PA.

 

 

Though I know of women that have gone on vacations alone to have a PA.

 

What is a PA?

 

if they are so inclined, can have one night stands and short term affairs under the guise of travelling alone.

 

With the distance, it's easy to keep under wraps, too.

 

After all, how does a person with a normal or above normal libido live apart from his or her spouse for extended periods without satisfying his or her sexual needs. I think this is one reason why the Military has a which rate of infidelity because couples are seperated by force of circumstances.

I guess I'm just old fashioned!

 

Right, in fact I know two couples, one of them married, that do nothing without each other. I mean, I know this woman's husband went to a concert of a favorite band with some close friends in the city, but they prefer the small town living.

 

Everytime I ask them what they did this weekend, it was the routine "doing laundry, helping getting the kids ready for school, Netflix all day Sunday, house work, etc."

 

Typical domestic stuff, beyond going out to grocery shop, that was pretty much their lives routinely and...get this, they were happy!

 

And whhen they DO travel, it's usually together all the time. They have a pop-up trailer.

 

I know of a couple that's been living together for 5 years , and her b/f is always leaving sexually suggestive messages on her FB page. lol Guess he doesn't care if his friends see it...but he does it non-stop. Figured why do that when your'e living together, right?

Edited September 6, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst

[road]

What is a PA?

 

 

 

 

PA

 

 

Physical Affair

[Els]

You know that traveling, especially for work, is very normal in a relationship, right?

 

I know you have never traveled, but it's normal for some people to travel for research, conferences, business, etc. It's just part of life. No reason for someone to suddenly turn down all those opportunities just because they are married or in a LTR.