Lonelyguy Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Hi i'm 17, At school everyone at one time or another has had a bf or gf or a relationship, i am going into my senior year. I've liked girls, and i'm sure girls have liked me, its just , i have never had a girlfriend, or for the most part any intimate relationship with someone. I'm a nice guy, i have lots of friends... i have enemies too. i am good looking and i stay in excellent shape, why cant i meet someone, sometimes i talk to a girl who i find attractive and mention us going to get a coffee or something, but then plans turn into scheduled meetings and then its kinda regimented and the whole kinda mystique is gone. Another problem i have is that i really like the sport of track, i'm like a red sox fan... for track, and somehow it works its way into conversatiosn, and i feel it is a huge conversation killer. i am confident, i do hold my self well, but i am lonely and i want a relationship with someone who i could appreciate. why is it that everyone esle is doing it but i cant Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 I never had a girlfriend 'til college. Hope that makes you feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
lvgrl Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer I never had a girlfriend 'til college. Hope that makes you feel better. whatever, your too hot to not have a gf that long... Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyann Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 I never had a boyfriend till my sr year in high school. Give it time - it will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Sexy Kitty Posted July 7, 2005 Share Posted July 7, 2005 I didn't have a bf through high school at all. It wasn't until I left high school that I got my first bf at age 18. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 I'm 20 and never had a gf nor even been on a date. I've had my heart broken twice though, and pretty close together. Just suck it up and live life with your friends. I hung around with the bestest people ever during highschool and the people I know now hardly measure up. Anyway, women are evil creatures and it's best to avoid intimacy with them.* *strictly my opinion of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Be patient, once you have a girlfriend you just exchange one set of problems for another. Quite frankly, the problem of being alone has always been the least of my problems.... add a gal to the mix and ......well, you just wait and see Link to post Share on other sites
nuckinfutz213 Posted July 11, 2005 Share Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by Lonelyguy Another problem i have is that i really like the sport of track, i'm like a red sox fan... for track, and somehow it works its way into conversatiosn, and i feel it is a huge conversation killer. That's not a problem. There are usually lots of nice girls that like track. Infact, I found it is actually a good conversation starter when I started talking to this girl I really like on the school track team. Not everyone has had a bf or gf by your age. I'm 16 and I've never had a girlfriend. Be patient, you might get one when you least expect it. Link to post Share on other sites
fvckin_nutz Posted July 12, 2005 Share Posted July 12, 2005 If you think something your saying or talking about is a turn off then avoid it completely, theres plenty of other stuff to talk about, if you really have nothing else to talk about maybe you need a few more interests. If you're serious about getting a girl, its best to ask as many as possible, therefore your opportunities for dates and relationships increases, if your too shy to do this then maybe start working more activities into your life to get you talking to people from all walks of life. Thats just my opinion, hey the next post might even shoot me down in flames! Link to post Share on other sites
havenousername___ Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 I've found myself in a similar situation as you. I am in relatively good shape, though nowhere near as good as the kids were on my high school's track team. I've only had one girlfriend, and that only for a few weeks before I broke up with her. Thinking about it, I haven't the slightest damn clue how we got together. All I know is that once I was hanging out with some friends that kinda knew her, they were just like "___, this is ___, and ___, this is ___." I didn't see her or talk to her again after that for about... 7+ months. We were introduced in fall soccer season, and I didn't talk to her again until near summer vacation. I walked downtown one day with a Chai Tea, and she was sitting on a bench by herself, so (completely uncharacteristically of myself, whose main contact with girls was nonexistent until senior year in high school, and included only one crush that was complicated and hurt bad for a few months, and still I'm not quite over, but we're friends) I sat next to her and started talking to her. I didn't even remember her name. I gave her some of my Chai Tea to try and she liked it, and that was pretty much it till prom season. My friends invited her out to coffee and out of the blue I asked her and she said she would go. Following this a relationship that I think sadly, without realizing it in the beginning, I could see was doomed to fail, and we wound up breaking up twice... or rather I broke up with her twice. I regret getting together with her because she was really nice and didn't deserve that crap from me, and she still liked me for awhile after that. This seems like a random and pointless post, but there most definitely is a point. The point is that even though you may not know someone, they could very well like you. The only way to know for sure whether you like them and whether they like you is to spend time with them. Coffee is a great start. If theres people you think you might like just see if they want to go get coffee, something like on a saturday night right after dinner (so other places are still open). This leaves an opening to do something else, mini golf, movie, sit and talk, whatever, something that'll help you get acquainted. Then you have to not do the same damn thing over and over again. This can be tough. I'm not exactly the most exciting person. I'm 19 and a Freshman in college right now. Until I turned 17 I was one of the kids that spend 10+ hours a day in front of a computer screen playing some addictive games (COUGH diablo 2...) having little to no contact with people. Sadly, I found out, even THEN I had people from school who liked me (one of whom being the person I had the huge crush on, which faded cuz i didn't realize/act on it, something which I'll regret for the rest of my life). What you have to do is get to know people and let people get to know you. If someone like me can have people like him, especially during that video game phase (which thank god I'm out of, I play virtually no videogames now), then anyone can. All it takes is a desire to want to get to know people, and a willingness to invest some time. Be yourself too! Being someone you're not will only make the people you like want to be with someone who's NOT YOU. Hang out with people more. Approach people you don't know, when they're alone if you're really shy (like I was/am), and get together for something. Knowing more people will always get you a better chance of meeting someone you like, and from the sound of things they'll like you too. Keep in mind though, a five hour lecture on track is not a girl's idea of a fun conversation. If you interject track sometimes it's okay, but add some variety. Whimsical observations, Things that happen to you that make good stories, etc. And think of stuff to do. The usual "I don't know, what do you want to do; I don't know, what do you want to do?" is not cool. Have something fun to suggest at least, even if they shoot it down. Then you can make them think of something better :-). Hoping that this excessive rant will help you in some way... -X P.S. Not logged in cuz I don't have an account, thinking of making one though. Link to post Share on other sites
lovephreakout Posted October 7, 2005 Share Posted October 7, 2005 its HS, you'll get over it. focus on studies, because once you get out here, in the real world, everything changes. plus if you are going to college, it might turn some of the girls on to know they are your FIRST one. dont feel too bad. i had one BF in HS and all that was was a fuggin nightmare Link to post Share on other sites
brittanyjean259 Posted October 7, 2005 Share Posted October 7, 2005 well your only 17...IM 17 to though!... youll meet some one im sure its lonely...but you will meet some one:) you will Link to post Share on other sites
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