Author Vashknives Posted September 12, 2016 Author Share Posted September 12, 2016 Dude. You ask for advise but you get a mirror. One commentator said it perfectly 'there are a lot of veterans out here and listen to them'. We don't have the 'golden key' cause it doesn't exist You think your situation is unique. We don't understand you because we don't know the specifics of your relationship and have never met this a-maz-ing women. The sobering fact is that your situation isn't unique. Just read all the threaths here. Many cover the same subject in a simular situation There are some ground rules when it comes to love. A very important one is that it should be unconditional from both ends. It takes two to tango. And she only wants to dance with you whenever she feels like it. Never, ever be someones option. It lowers your self esteem and girls hate guys that beg. Take matters into your own hands and do it today. Close off and move on. Well only in here i been telling u guys how much i want her back but i didnt beg her to come back because there are no point she is in love with her ex why beg! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Karma Posted September 12, 2016 Share Posted September 12, 2016 Well only in here i been telling u guys how much i want her back but i didnt beg her to come back because there are no point she is in love with her ex why beg! I am not here to point a finger at you and I understand it helps to share your story. But you clearly stated the question what to do to get her back. I have been in exact the same situation. I was Mr. Right. He was Mr. Wrong. End of story for me. Mr. Wrong won. End of story for her? Probably the relationship will crash in the never future or they live happily ever after. Fact is. It doesn't matter how her story goes. This is about you. And my sincere advise is to close this door and move on. I am not saying you are begging but the way you communicate makes me think you are willing to. Willing to leave a door open when she comes to her senses. If she does (which I doubt) you'll be up for much more trouble. Your relationship will never be the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 12, 2016 Author Share Posted September 12, 2016 I am not here to point a finger at you and I understand it helps to share your story. But you clearly stated the question what to do to get her back. I have been in exact the same situation. I was Mr. Right. He was Mr. Wrong. End of story for me. Mr. Wrong won. End of story for her? Probably the relationship will crash in the never future or they live happily ever after. Fact is. It doesn't matter how her story goes. This is about you. And my sincere advise is to close this door and move on. I am not saying you are begging but the way you communicate makes me think you are willing to. Willing to leave a door open when she comes to her senses. If she does (which I doubt) you'll be up for much more trouble. Your relationship will never be the same. Yes i know what u mean i dont know if i leave my dooropen for her, butthats something not going think about because chances are she might not break up with him or she might break up with him and go for a different guy which is not me either. I just wonder if she will come back at all like what is she thinking but i guess no one can predict woman and her future behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Karma Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 Yes i know what u mean i dont know if i leave my dooropen for her, butthats something not going think about because chances are she might not break up with him or she might break up with him and go for a different guy which is not me either. I just wonder if she will come back at all like what is she thinking but i guess no one can predict woman and her future behavior. The rational site of you is on the right track. You can't predict her future behavior and it's though dealing with this situation because the heart has a mind of it's own. I've written a threat about rebound relationships. Perhaps it gives you some perspective. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/594977-rebound-relationships-both-ends-story Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 The rational site of you is on the right track. You can't predict her future behavior and it's though dealing with this situation because the heart has a mind of it's own. I've written a threat about rebound relationships. Perhaps it gives you some perspective. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/594977-rebound-relationships-both-ends-story Hi thanks Karma! Do you think would it be they both using each other as rebound or have GIGS? I mean they are ex for each other but they can still use each other as rebound? Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 You're missing the point. It doesn't matter what happens with their relationship. This woman has already shown she's capable of ditching you. You'd be a sap to wait around for her to become available so you can give it another shot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 You're missing the point. It doesn't matter what happens with their relationship. This woman has already shown she's capable of ditching you. You'd be a sap to wait around for her to become available so you can give it another shot. Thats one thing i really dont get it! I am thinking if i am her will i do the same? Drop someone who treat me so well but then go for ex who cheated on her and not treat her so well but she love him so much more then me... Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 I still contend that she was never fully over this guy. How long after they broke up did you two get together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 I still contend that she was never fully over this guy. How long after they broke up did you two get together? I would guess 2-3 years...they been together for 5 years in the past i am sure they have a lot good memories and she decide to give him a second chance. I am sure its a tough decision for her. I know you guys know that i am a good guy and deserve better but i want u guys be in her situation too. If she dictch me for a new guy its kind of different story. I want to know these kind of things wether i get her back or meet someone in the future. I am sure my future gf have exs too and they might have good memories. I honestly dont think giving second chance is a bad idea or no self respect. I know few people broke off and got back together and things went well for 13 years so far. People can be young and not ready to settle or not know what they want. I been through that phase too, my ex ex ask me to marry her but i am only 24 i havent even graduate yet so i got scared and say no then we broke off. I think its all about timing. Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 I would guess 2-3 years...they been together for 5 years in the past i am sure they have a lot good memories and she decide to give him a second chance. I am sure its a tough decision for her. I know you guys know that i am a good guy and deserve better but i want u guys be in her situation too. If she dictch me for a new guy its kind of different story. I want to know these kind of things wether i get her back or meet someone in the future. I am sure my future gf have exs too and they might have good memories. I honestly dont think giving second chance is a bad idea or no self respect. I know few people broke off and got back together and things went well for 13 years so far. People can be young and not ready to settle or not know what they want. I been through that phase too, my ex ex ask me to marry her but i am only 24 i havent even graduate yet so i got scared and say no then we broke off. I think its all about timing. At 24 you should be out tearing it up, dating many different gals, adding notches to your bed post and figuring out what types of gals you connect with and vis versa. You shouldn't be consumed by this failed R/S with a gal who wasn't into you and ran back to her ex who was a douche bag. Ever hear the expression "girls love bad boys"? A lot of girls, especially young ones are attracted to guys who don't necessarily treat them like princesses. The guys who are more of a challenge to tame are what rocks their world, not Mr. Nice Guy who always bends over backwards being their pet on command. EVERYONE here is telling your the same thing. MOVE on, date some other gals. Enjoy your youth! Life is far too short to sit around coveting some gal who's already kicked you to the curb. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartbrokenHooligan Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 At 24 you should be out tearing it up, dating many different gals, adding notches to your bed post and figuring out what types of gals you connect with and vis versa. You shouldn't be consumed by this failed R/S with a gal who wasn't into you and ran back to her ex who was a douche bag. Ever hear the expression "girls love bad boys"? A lot of girls, especially young ones are attracted to guys who don't necessarily treat them like princesses. The guys who are more of a challenge to tame are what rocks their world, not Mr. Nice Guy who always bends over backwards being their pet on command. EVERYONE here is telling your the same thing. MOVE on, date some other gals. Enjoy your youth! Life is far too short to sit around coveting some gal who's already kicked you to the curb. I agree. you should try to make steps to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 At 24 you should be out tearing it up, dating many different gals, adding notches to your bed post and figuring out what types of gals you connect with and vis versa. You shouldn't be consumed by this failed R/S with a gal who wasn't into you and ran back to her ex who was a douche bag. Ever hear the expression "girls love bad boys"? A lot of girls, especially young ones are attracted to guys who don't necessarily treat them like princesses. The guys who are more of a challenge to tame are what rocks their world, not Mr. Nice Guy who always bends over backwards being their pet on command. EVERYONE here is telling your the same thing. MOVE on, date some other gals. Enjoy your youth! Life is far too short to sit around coveting some gal who's already kicked you to the curb. I am working on letting go and moving on i am making small progress so far, its just hard to move on when my mind is unclear and lost. This is why i meed answer and find out whats exactly went wrong so that i can move on faster! Link to post Share on other sites
RyanO1991 Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 It sounds like the guy she went for is a total waster. If it helps, their relationship is probably doomed anyway. She'll have massive regrets for letting you go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 It sounds like the guy she went for is a total waster. If it helps, their relationship is probably doomed anyway. She'll have massive regrets for letting you go. Thanks joining this post ryan! She have no regret so far but she did tell her best friend she done me wrong and she have bad karma now! She is in love with his ex but she is not happy...i dont know what she mean by that. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanO1991 Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 Thanks joining this post ryan! She have no regret so far but she did tell her best friend she done me wrong and she have bad karma now! She is in love with his ex but she is not happy...i dont know what she mean by that. Whatever she meant, she's clearly unhappy and it's unlikely that's going to change. You've got a chance to have a happy relationship with someone, unlike her, which makes you the real winner in all this. Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 Thanks joining this post ryan! She have no regret so far but she did tell her best friend she done me wrong and she have bad karma now! She is in love with his ex but she is not happy...i dont know what she mean by that. Don't worry about what it means. And stop getting information from her best friend. It's not only unhelpful to your healing, but it's a bit disrespectful of her friend to be sharing these details behind your ex's back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 Don't worry about what it means. And stop getting information from her best friend. It's not only unhelpful to your healing, but it's a bit disrespectful of her friend to be sharing these details behind your ex's back. Her friend is the one telling me her worry and concern about her, not just i care her friend care about her too. Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 Her friend is the one telling me her worry and concern about her, not just i care her friend care about her too. Uh huh. I'm sure her friend has at least one person in her life she could express her concerns to about your ex aside from the guy who was just dating her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vashknives Posted September 13, 2016 Author Share Posted September 13, 2016 (edited) This post is about analyze their situation, so this is not a post about telling me move on or let go. I want to study and analyze the behavior and possible outcome. Sometime in our life some of us will date someone that will have problems with their exs, whether they cant fully seperate or still somewhat have tights wih their exs or their feeling unclear and want to give another shot. So here is the story, she broke up with me a month and a half ago to be with her exbf. I know that she love me but she love her exbf a lot more because they have 5 years relationship then they seperate for 3 years. Her ex came back and flirt with other girls and make her jealous then tell her he want to get back to her so they did. The reason they broke up is that my ex found he cheated on her and a irresponsible person. He claim he is a change man know and love her but only 4 weeks later she found out that he still talk to her ex. So this loser guy prob got dumped and now use her as rebound or feel hurt and went back to her. She love him but she dont trust him and currently not very happy amd have a lot worry about him. They are currently in honeymoon phase so both of them are blinded by love. So i want to know how long will they last? What problems they will face in their relationship? Will people really change completely? Of course no they can only improve better of themselves, but not completely. Is my ex she want get back with him subconciously she want regain her self worth becuase she got cheated on and he disappear on her? Will she regret she broke up with me even tho she know i treat her well and love her. What are chance she will come back because we broke up not because we have problems with each other its something outside that confused her. Expert say 90days people will show true self and problem will start to show. I also forgot to mention this guy are not mentally like adult yet. Have a low paid job not motivated to get better in life. Dont have a car and ask her to drive him to work everyday, somewhat everyday keep an eye on her gf and wait for her to get off work. I am not bad mouth him thats what her friends and coworkers told me. They hated him and say my ex made the biggest mistake by dumping me. Her family say the samething to me that they dont like him either. Especially the dad and mom, becuase they want someone like me who was truly love her daughter and take care her daughter. Someone who is mature and have stable and growing career. So she gave up a healthy relastionship and went into unhealthy toxic relationship without knowing all those red flags. Here is more infro if thats help the analyze i am 32 she is 29 and he is 27(i guess i know he is younger then her about 1-3 years). I know its hard to predict whats going to happen, I am pulling myself out now and doing no contact and i am moving on myside so no need to tell me move on or let go or she not worth it or i deseve better. Thats not the question or opinion i need. I have not gone back with my ex before but i have be friend with many of my exs. They reach out after 1-3 years and we become good friends and some like family member. Anyway what do you guys thing the realistic outcome will be. I will keep this story continously post and you guys will eventually will reach the end of the dark tunnel. agains thanks for all the useful comment here thanks for participate this thread! Edited September 13, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
SoulCat Posted September 13, 2016 Share Posted September 13, 2016 Okay, I'll bite. They will break up in approximately 3 months, 2 weeks and 4 days from now. She will realise what a fool she's been for dumping you and beg and plead with you to please take her back. You will live happily ever after. There, now you've got what you've wanted to hear since your first post. You may as well close this thread because you are not listening to any of the advice you've been given here. People do not take kindly to you wasting their time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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