Will be seeing ex after long time at party...

[GWNN88]

So its come to that point where ive been invited to a friends wedding reception and this friend is also close friends with my ex so he will be there and im guessing with his new gf And yes it sucks. But let’s face it, life is full of challenges and obstacles to overcome every single day, this is nothing new but i have to face it, but need some advice on how to handle it.

 

So its only a small reception as its for some of the people who couldnt attend the wedding, its being taken place at my ex's tennis club where he will know everyone there, who is also my friends tennis club so im walking into a room of people i used to know from going a few times with my ex there but its been awhile and its not the same anymore so this makes me nervous.

 

Im going alone as i have no one to bring the guy im seeng is on holiday and i dont wanna bring a friend. So my question is, how do i appoarch my ex and his gf this will be the first time seeing them together and if im honest i know its gonna hurt i just know not to show it.

 

So confidence is key here,

 

1. do i appoarch him and his gf first and introduce myself to her and then say hi to him and say good to see him.

 

2.not appoarch them and wait for him to come to me (if he does so)

 

3. (If hes comes alone) would i still do 1. Or 2.

 

4. Anything anyone else suggests....

 

I know for one thing i want to show him what hes missing so gonna make sure i look amazing, from all this i dont want him back i just need direction on how to act as my feelings are still there for him we was together for so long but i know im over him as much as i can so far and me moving on has changed me for the better.

 

Thanks for any advice!

Edited September 12, 2016 by Paps

[thefooloftheyear]

It's obviously bothering you....And he probably doesn't care what you look like..

 

Save the aggravation, send a gift and don't go...Its not like a family member where it would be an obligation..Control the things in your life you can control....This is just one thing you can definitely control....

 

That's it....You won't get the satisfaction you think you are going to get and probably will feel like crap when you see him having fun while you sit there with no date....

 

.02

 

TFY

Edited September 12, 2016 by thefooloftheyear

[preraph]

Do nothing more than nod and politely say hi and keep moving. If you can, avoid him showing off his GF to you. Don't make a scene and ruin the event. Just one polite nod and then avoid.

[NTV]

Yeah you're there for the friend. You ex can go sick eggs for all that he matters. Ignore unless required to speak then just nod and keep it moving.

[crederer]

Don't approach them at all. Be cordial if they approach you but more or less don't show any emotion. Don't pretend to be happy, don't pretend to be sad. Act as though you are talking to some acquaintance from high school at a high school reunion.

[BlueIris]

So its come to that point where ive been invited to a friends wedding reception and this friend is also close friends with my ex so he will be there and im guessing with his new gf And yes it sucks. But let’s face it, life is full of challenges and obstacles to overcome every single day, this is nothing new but i have to face it, but need some advice on how to handle it.

 

Great attitude! I agree. Enjoy the party and know you're fantastic.

 

So its only a small reception as its for some of the people who couldn't attend the wedding, its being taken place at my ex's tennis club where he will know everyone there, who is also my friends tennis club so im walking into a room of people i used to know from going a few times with my ex there but its been awhile and its not the same anymore so this makes me nervous.

 

Focus on catching up with all your old acquaintances. Find out what everybody's been up to. There should be some neat stories. Don't make him the center of this thing, because he's not.

 

Im going alone as i have no one to bring the guy I'm seeng is on holiday and i dont wanna bring a friend. So my question is, how do i appoarch my ex and his gf this will be the first time seeing them together and if im honest i know its gonna hurt i just know not to show it.

 

So confidence is key here,

 

1. do i appoarch him and his gf first and introduce myself to her and then say hi to him and say good to see him.

 

2.not appoarch them and wait for him to come to me (if he does so)

 

3. (If hes comes alone) would i still do 1. Or 2.

 

4. Anything anyone else suggests....

 

I do #1 when he's the next person to see. There will be other people too. Focus on enjoying everyone. He's just part of everyone.

 

I know for one thing i want to show him what hes missing so gonna make sure i look amazing, from all this i dont want him back i just need direction on how to act as my feelings are still there for him we was together for so long but i know im over him as much as i can so far and me moving on has changed me for the better.

 

Thanks for any advice!

 

Look great but not for him. Look great and feel great for you. Once someone is an ex he's part of your history, not your present. If you're thinking about him a lot redirect to think about the other people who will be there. I bet there will be someone who is doing exciting or interesting things, who is funnier than you remember or someone you click with and connect differently with now that you're kind of different from what you used to be- and he or she will be too.

 

And remember, it's really about the bride and groom. Have fun. He's just someone else there so don't make him more than that.

[basil67]

I'd smile, say Hi and do a little small talk if required. And not much more. "Oh, I really must go and say hello to X over there. See you later"

 

And don't bother about trying to show him what he's missing. His eyes will be on his partner and the wedding party. Just focus on having a good time

[Wookin Pa Nub]

I probably wouldn't go unless that wasn't really an option. He is going to be with new gf and you will be alone. He's also in a very familiar setting with lots of people around him. He's going to have the upper hand from the get go.

 

 

From a guy's perspective, the only thing that would bother me with an ex being at the same party if she brought a date that was my equal or step up looks wise or she hooked up with someone at the party.

[stillafool]

So you have a new boyfriend but you want to show your ex what he is missing? Does your new bf know this is your plan? Why are you trying to impress a man who has moved on to another woman and could care less? The only way to impress him is to have a good looking bf with you.

[GWNN88]

Thanks for everyone sharing their opinions all very mixed but good and did read them all.

 

Not if sure anyone wants to know but...

The party was last night just wanted to let you know i went and yes alone I was there for my friends not for my ex and I might of over thought about impressing him there's no need but we all like to have one up on your ex's ( also I don't have a bf at the moment seeing this guy but it's really not anything like going anywhere so I did nothing wrong thinking to get my ex's attention)

 

So luckily I knew more people there than I thought and was really good to see them some were happy I was there and didn't leave my side most of the night, so he was there but alone , he was the one that came over to me and say hi and actually he also didn't leave my side and brought me a drink and wouldn't have no for an answer, we had a catch up which was nice but still not sure why he cared. Something was also mentioned that he might not be with the his gf or not this person wasnt sure they were only sure that no one gets on with her.

 

So overall really good night and glad I went and I didn't need a plus one or friend thought it be weird to see him but really just made me feel all the better getting it out the way. Thanks again!!

[smudge21]

Now that's an ego boost. He saw you and realised what he'd thrown away. Go punch the air like that guy at the end of Breakfast Club and feel great about yourself.