Afterthestorm Posted September 12, 2016 Share Posted September 12, 2016 (edited) I'm looking for advice on what to do now. I was with my girlfriend for a year-and-a-half and then she came over one night and said that she didn't feel the same. She said that she was exhausted and emotionless anymore. I had met her through work and I kept it a secret that we were together whole time because I thought it would cause Conflict for me and her at work. When she finally broke up with me I decided to tell everyone at work that we had been together and I told her about it, and she got mad at me and asked why I only did it after she left. I told her that I realized that it was bothering both of us and so I didn't want to have anything in the way for us so that we could move forward and helping on the way. I never went out with her and her friends because I was concerned that something from work would see us together. I regret both of those decisions very much so. She said that she wants to focus on herself and needs space but she doesn't feel the same anymore. She kept the keys to my place I asked her if she had thrown them out after a couple of weeks and she said if she wanted to throw them out you would have. Right now she said she doesn't want to talk about any relationship stuff and she doesn't feel anything inside at all as a person. She said that I crushed her soul. We went camping that too long ago and I got upset a couple of times during our trip, both of which I apologize for. I was emotionally unavailable for a portion of our relationship because I always had fear that she would leave it was exhausting for her because she said it always felt like she was starting over, and she felt that she wasn't good enough for me and she thought that I was going to leave. One night she asked if we had a house would I want to leave in the future, to which I apparently responded I don't know. I know now that I said that because I felt like I wasn't good enough and it was my fear speaking again and I was concerned that she would leave me. So right now she's at home and she doesn't really feel like talking but she also said that she wants to bring me some pudding for my birthday coming up in another week and a half. I asked her if I left her alone and try not to talk about our relationship stuff if we did talk again if that could help possibly make it so that we could get back together, to which she replied I don't know. She said she's really hurt and she's really upset that I didn't say anything about her to anyone. I don't really know what to do at this point, I just know that I have changed everything about how I was thinking and I'm not living with fear anymore. I spent an entire month alone thinking about where all of it was coming from so that I could be a better person if she decided that she wanted to come back. I am more than willing to go out with her and her friends and everyone at work knows that we're together now. Any advice? Edited September 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added paragraphs ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
AT15 Posted September 12, 2016 Share Posted September 12, 2016 It may be too little too late Link to post Share on other sites
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